I'm friends with this guy and we're interested in each other. however....i'm 18 and i live at home and i never get to see him. he works 3 jobs and by the time he CAN hang out, i can't becuase it's too late. i'm talking like...12:30 a.m. i'm trying to break free of my parents strick-ness so i can stay out later and stuff, but i don't know what i'm going to do until then. i've tried texting him and stuff but he's been having problems with his phone so he doesn't get half of them. what should i do? should i talk to my parents? i'm also worried that his psycho ex girlfriend is going to try to step in. she's still convinced they are still together! he's like god no, but she still says they are...idk what to do. anyone have any advice?
2007-10-05 07:36:52 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should step back until he handles the situation with his ex. There may not be anything to it, but either way, she needs to be out of the picture before you step in. Or you WILL have major relationship issues. Just explain to him that you want to go out with him but do not feel comfortable doing so until she is completely out of the picture. If he doesn't understand, he isn't relationship material.
As for dating, if a man truly wants to go out with a woman, he will make allowances in his schedule and rearrange things so he can take her out at a decent hour. If you start the relationship off with you being the one to bend and change, you will always be doing so and he will never have to. That is not give and take. And I am quite sure, your parents have lived long enough to know that there aren't that many places open at 12:30 in the morning to take you for a decent date. Unless you think bars and his house count. In which case, you need to think about what you are really looking for.
2007-10-05 07:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by James Watkin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think that there is a reason the girl thinks that they are still together. You can't stay out after 12:30? Aren't you 18? Living with parents I am sure that there are some things that you have to do but a curfew? I would talk to your parents. They cannot be strick with you unless you allow them. You are an adult. Tell them to treat you like one. My oldest is 17 and he stays out later than that as long as I know where he is. Good luck.
2007-10-05 07:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally he has too much baggage for me, but if you think he is worth it do what you do. I dated a guy who worked alot of hours and I asked him to take off one day for me. Well he took a day off showed up with his boys in the car and visited me for 10 mins. Needless to say I haven't spoke to him since I told him to go away. Talk to your parents, but talk to the one the is easy to get on your side first.
2007-10-05 07:47:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋