2007-10-05 07:29:23 · 46 answers · asked by Saved by Grace 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You'd know if you ever got any.
2007-10-05 07:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
It saddens me to see the rude and insulting answers you have gotten. It is never necessary to put someone down when answering a question.
Sadly, the answers also show you how values deteriorate when God is not at the center of our lives. Many on this forum maintain that we are just animals. Of course this is a correct scientific interpretation. But it ignores the truth that there is something about humans that raises us above the animals.
If you don't believe in God, life is about the pleasure of the moment rather than what's right. I watched a tv show last night. It was a talk show that featured a woman whose mother wanted her to change. She had four children outside marriage. She decided she couldn't take responsibility for the children so she dumped them on her mom. The sad thing is she now is in a relationship with a different man to whom she is not married. She is pregnant by him. She had not visited her children in 15 months.
All of this was perfectly natural to her. If we live for our own pleasure - the feeling that whatever is right for me is good - then our lives end up hurting others.
I don't know how many teen age girls I have counseled who thought this boy was "the one" and has sex with them. Then the boy decides it's time for a new conquest and the girl is left feeling used and heartbroken.
I have seen divorces because the husband or wife didn't "love" them anymore. If everything is about our pleasure, it is fine to leave someone rather than work through the problems and strenghten the marriage.
Sadly, many of your answerers are correct. Sex outside of marriage is no longer a crime (though it has been in the past). It is sad to me how our society has lost sight of commitment and righteousness.
I have never had sex with anyone other than my wife. That is not because there haven't been opportunities. It is because I made a vow to her and God and I will never break that vow.
It saddens me that many people here who believe we are animals don't even live like animals. I was deeply impressed with the stories of a bird (I forget which species) who mate for life. They never stray from that partner and when the partner dies they grieve their loss and never mate again.
If we are animals, why can't we have the values of a bird?
Also I must agree with them. If they are not Christians, they are not bound to our values. It is just sad the life and society their values have created.
Pastor John
2007-10-05 08:21:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex isn't wrong because an old fairy tale book says so. It's perfectly natural, like eating or breathing, but you have just been made into tool by using a concept of sin.
I'll explain it to you, it's quite simple, really. It's basically all down to CONTROL - to having power over people.
See, you take something that's completely inevitable that people will do. Breathing would be a bit too radical, so let's take sex. Make it a total sin. Have some crazy pope write a textbook on how to conceive children without actually having any fulfillment with sex. Yup, go that far if you must.
Now, you know people will still do it, it's inevitable, right? So make them feel GUILTY for it - they sinned, after all. And because they feel guilty, they must go to confession to get rid of those sins.
Now you nearly have them where you want them - you get to talk to them privately, influencing their thoughts, offering your cr4p in exchange for them not feeling guilty anymore - and getting information. People in confession will tell you a lot of things. And in exchange you can wash their brain.
See? The concept of sin is all about control over people.
2007-10-06 20:24:43 · answer #3 · answered by Ymmo the Heathen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Erm says who?
a non existant diety>?
Like every animal humans are obsessed with sex, love and pair bonding as thats the base reason for most animals to exist or they would not exist as a species.
Humans may do things more complex but gaining resources, territory, helping the herd, impressing a potential mate and reproducing and looking after offspring is what a species does.
We have hormones and feelings.
Marraige is nothing specil... Was maninly for business and poltical deals and financial arrangements and mostly little choice in who you got to be with throughout time.
Ie marriage was pimping your princess daughter for some political treaty.
Also girls get married to take away a rich guys money.
or people are forced into it.
it means little.
What matters is A likes B and wahts to stay with them.
till then people try other people to find somone that fits.
Some get lucky some take ages, some never find a long term partner but at least have some comfort along the way.
Without love and sex life is miserable
2007-10-05 07:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Merlin 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Our primitive brain that stimulates us to reproduce?
And not everyone believes that sex outside of marriage is wrong. Some people don't believe in the same dogmas you do. Personally, I don't think that you must absolutely wait until marriage to have sex- you have to wait until you feel it's right, and whether or not you're married... that doesn't really matter to me.
2007-10-06 17:10:02 · answer #5 · answered by xx. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sex outside of marriage is approached depends on the culture you are asking.
Your opinion of when it is right or wrong to have sex has to to with the moral code you have been instilled with, that's all. You and yours are not the moral governor for the world, no matter what you may wish to believe
2007-10-06 16:27:31 · answer #6 · answered by Black Dragon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember that people are human so they are going to make to mistakes. Sometimes it is just really difficult to abstain from sex when you have so many sexual feelings and it is always in your face no matter where you go or what you are doing. It is especially all over the media. Not everyone is obsessed, but many are tempted and it's a daily battle that we must fight.
2007-10-05 08:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only your faith says its wrong. Mine doesnt. In fact mine says...
" All acts of love and sex are rituals of the Goddess". Sex is a beautiful sharing of mutual attraction. I would not want to be married to some of the men I have been with. But I have enjoyed sharing sex with them and found the experience very moving. Marriage is too important to jump into just for sex. That is why the divorce rate is so high. I married a man that I had a wonderful sexual relationship with and we have been married for over fourteen years now.
Only your faith makes sex dirty and wrong. Not mine. I feel sorry for you that you will never experience the beauty of the sharing of the experience and you will always feel you body is something to hide.
You need to read The Body Sacred by Dianne Sylvan. But then again its a Pagan book. By a Wiccan author. One who realizes that our bodies are both beautiful and sacred. As is sex. Marriage (we call it handfasting) is something not to be enterned into lightly. And certainly not just because you finally want to get into your partners pants.
2007-10-05 08:13:57 · answer #8 · answered by aviana_snowwolfe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think people tend to confuse the physical intimacy with real love.
Who doesn't want to be held, and cuddled, and loved?
Unfortunately, sex without real love almost always ends in tears for someone...
There is no such thing as loving someone, or caring for someone, or whatever the current line is, enough to have sex with them, but not enough to marry them. Real love involves a real commitment...anything less is not love, or even caring...it is nothing but using the other person, even if it is consensual.
2007-10-05 07:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not obsessed with sex. I totally enjoy it though. It's not wrong outside of marriage. I just don't understand why people want to make it something that is dirty and only done to procreate. There is also such thing as sacred sexuality. People should stop trying to make it something bad.
2007-10-05 07:36:59 · answer #10 · answered by Janet L 6 · 6⤊ 3⤋
The reason people are obsessed with sex is because sex is great. It is pleasurable and, for those of us lucky enough to be in loving relationships, it is also a way of expressing that love. If your God didn't want people to have sex outside marriage, why did he make sex such fun? And why does he try to be such a killjoy when he's supposed to love us?
2007-10-05 07:41:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 3⤋