My ex & I have been broken up for 3 months & 1 month after we broke up we found out that she is pregnant. I told her that I would do everything I can to help my ex & support our baby. For a while I have been giving her some money for support & that I have been giving her more money because I still have feelings for her & there would have been hope for us to get back together. But there have been times when we have argued over things like putting her ex's ideas name for my baby, why she won't give us a second chance, refusin help to provide insurance for her and the baby, to why she doesn't love me & why she would rather go back to her ex who has been cheating on while they were together. The final argument didn't involve me & her but with my sister who tried to sum up & ask why are you not giving my bro a chance as he's trying so hard yet is not getting the chance to be involved with the baby. The argument went that far, she blocked me off from myspace & she doesn't answer my calls.
2007-10-05 07:27:01 · 14 answers · asked by NewbieDad 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What ever you do, when you give her money do it in a money order to always keep track of what you give her. Don't give her cash and if you buy the baby something make sure you keep the receipts and make sure you write down on it the date you gave her what you bought her.
I truly believe that the baby is not yours but she thinks she can pull your stings that way. I would start to go to the court and ask what are your rights and to show th court that you want to make payments since she is saying it is your baby. They will point you in the right direction and like this it will show good faith on your part. You can start with a call to the court house and explain to them your situation.
I just don't think it is your baby and she knows it and is acting this way because she also told the ex that he is the father. I would almost bet on that being the reason.
2007-10-05 07:37:00 · answer #1 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She can't legally stop you from seeing the baby and even sharing custody. You need to see a lawyer immediately and take her to court over this. The court can also order a paternity test on the baby to prove that its yours, which would actually be the best step to take first to solidify your claim to the baby. Whatever you do, don't just give up, as that would be letting her win and ultimately could make the child hate you further down the road because he/she will feel like abandoned and turned you back on them like they weren't important to you. Do it for the child! :)
2007-10-05 15:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by Kazama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry. Yet you will be responsible for child support. It simply isnt fair. I dont think you or your sister should talk with her anymore; but now you need legal guidance. Perhaps legal aid society but if you can afford, get a really good attorney who is known for father's rights. (there are a few). This is reminiscent of Tommy Brady to me. ( the quarterback on New England). Maybe if you write to him c/o the New England Patriots he could tell you how he deals and/or what to do next.
2007-10-05 14:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hire a good lawyer, and sit back and wait.. I don`t think it`s going to happen without legal help. Some single moms use their kids as pawns against their exs......SO wait until your lawyer serves her, and we`ll see how far she back paddles to your house. She`ll have to hire a lawyer, ( very expensive), and fight with you too. Life gets expensive when folks become unreasonable.. You know she`ll go after you for child support.
2007-10-05 14:33:30 · answer #4 · answered by lost2day 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a lawyer and dig your heels in, look yourself in the mirror and decide if your in it for the long run. i can almost promise you that when you hold that baby in your arms it will have all been worth it. fight for your parental rights no matter the cost, but it will be hard.
just remember whatever you do don't give up!!!
good luck, I'm sure you'll end up a fine dad!
2007-10-05 15:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are not fortune tellers or magic eight balls. What you need to do is hire an attorney, establish paternity, get sober and off drugs and alcohol, then fight for your parental rights.
Good luck.
2007-10-05 14:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to see your baby,try going tho the courts seeing your child is what you need to focus on not trying to fix something that she doest;t want to be fixed!
2007-10-05 14:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by mylittlemonkeysmail 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and take her to court. She can't stop you from seeing your baby unless she can prove you're not the father.
2007-10-05 14:30:41 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you can sue for parental rights to get visitation rights or partial custody. talk with a lawyer.
2007-10-05 14:29:27 · answer #9 · answered by julie744527 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may HAVE to sue for visitation, it sounds like. But if she doesn't want you around, maybe you should sign off your parental rights, since she'll never let you be a real parent (except biologically), anyway.
Sorry that's harsh, but I speak from experience.
2007-10-05 14:33:36 · answer #10 · answered by Bryce 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋