I have had a lot of people , especially people who were close to me, use me & hurt me, and so now the guy I am seeing, I want to trust him so much and I love him very much and he says he loves me, but how do I know if he's being true about his love for me? he says he's very serious about me, but I want to make sure he is... can you give me some signals he may give or things he may say that I know he loves me truly? thanks
2007-10-05 07:18:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here's a very telling clue:
If you are asking us whether or not you can trust him, chances are you already don't.
2007-10-05 07:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will tell for sure, but for now you should sit him down and ask him face to face calmly how he truly feels for you and the relationship. You should make sure that you are communicating with each other or one of you might not realize that there is a problem. Make certain that he understands why you are asking this stuff, you need to explain that people have hurt you in the past and you have trust issues that are concerning his love for you. However you should try and stop doubting everything and give love/life a shot without thinking it's gonna end up bad...yeah its easier said than done, but it's worth it even if all you do is try. Good Luck sweetie
2007-10-05 14:32:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have some issues girl. first you have to work out the low-self esteemed first, or you may lose the possibly great guy that you'll ever meet.
either you risk all again for love or just don't love anyone because there isn't any perfect relationship nor a perfect match, but if it's true love, if you truly love someone, then you even love his imperfection, vice versa.
it's understandable to be cautious and wanting to know if his feeling for you genuine or not, but analyzing too much and too suspicious to the point of paranoia aren't healthy at all.
2007-10-05 14:40:40 · answer #3 · answered by thuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about the past. What could hurt your relationship now is if you compare it to what happened from other guys who are not the same guy as you are with. Put your trust in him, but let him know it's a hard thing for you to do. If there is a reason that you shouldn't trust him it should be because of what he did.
2007-10-05 14:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by kris10dice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been though the same thing it makes it hard to trust or love anyone. but if you can feel that he loves you then he does. if you didnt b4 tell him about how you've been hurt. if you don't try to give it a chance then u may be hurting the relationship. i know its hard but the best advice i can give to you is to just trust that he won't hurt you. if in the end he does pick urself up and start all over again. i wish you luck.
2007-10-05 14:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by Shya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you too are real friends and it's not all about kissing or other physical stuff, he's probably true.
Maybe you could try to see what happens if you tell him that maybe you should see other people, just to see if you truely are the ones 4 each other.
But seriosly, you can never fully trust anyone, they are sure to lie sometime.
2007-10-05 14:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by Band RULES!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can usually tell....You always have a "feeling".......Not all guys are scumbags, there are some still out there that cherish women...if he says he loves you and hes serious, you will simply feel it...trust me..If hes already making you worry, then where are these feelings coming from?? You can't blame it on your past because that's stereo typing all men....follow your heart..I know it sounds cleashay, but its true;)
2007-10-05 14:26:55 · answer #7 · answered by starsdreaming12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, maybe you cannot be certain in any way. You'll just have to be confident in what he sais to you. remember, you aren't doing anything wrong in loving him.. that is the very best think that can happen to us. If he is lying, or not being honest, it is his own fault and.. sin. Love him if he makes you feel that way. don't ask yourself what will be tomorrow. Just live the moment.
2007-10-05 14:23:41 · answer #8 · answered by ann3lizz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL ITS HARD TO TELL BUT TO BE HONEST YOU CAN'T REALLY TELL IF SOMEONE IS BEING REAL OR NOT .PEOPLE TEND TO PLAY WIT YOUR MIND AND HEART SO YOU KINDA HAVE TO TAKE A CHANCE AND TRUST YOURSELF TO KNOW IF THINGS DON'T WORK OUT BE HURT AND MOVE ON. DON'T GET STUCK TRYNA FIX WHATS BROKE AND CAN'T BE FIXED. IF YOU CANT TRUST SOMEONE YOU REALLY CAN'T LOVE THEM. I KNOW ITS VERY HARD I FEEL THE SAME WAY BUT YOU HAVE TO PUT YOUR TRUST ISSUES ASIDE.
2007-10-05 14:44:06 · answer #9 · answered by SYNCERE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only time will tell. You have to give him the benefit of the doubt until he proves you wrong, but you don't have to completely open up......you need to take baby steps.
If you have been hurt before and you just OPEN up and he hurts you.......it will scar you for life.
Relationships are not meant to happen overnight and neither is trust...............take it slow!!!
Good luck
2007-10-05 14:22:55 · answer #10 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋