i'm always doing stuff for her, like going to the store for her, massaging her neck so her migraine will go away, running errands for her, plus my chores! i have a full time job that sometimes extends past 5 in the afternoon (she gets mad when that happens and says that i should be home and that my boss isn't my parent), i'm 18, and i have a life! she never lets me go anywhere or do anything, and i feel under appreciated and the only reason i'm there is to do stuff for her! whenever i go to my bf's house, she gets mad and says that i need to be at home. she has told me numerous times that she can't wait until i move out, accused me of messing up my car (it overheated and died, water pump was bad, now i don't have a car and she won't let me get it fixed), called me a backstabbing b****, and says i'm lazy and worthless. is she taking advantage of my willingness to overlook how mean she is to me? i have friends who think she does this on purpose. please help!
2007-10-05 07:09:40 · 6 answers · asked by kabedayjones 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Has you're mom been diagnosed with any mental disorder? Based on what you're stating it sounds like she might be suffering from something. She should never swear at you, that's going to undermine your confidence.
Why don't you go away to college, this would be a perfect excuse and better than working to get away from her. Start looking now!
2007-10-05 07:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by cinny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes she is taking advantage of you. You are an adult and she cannot make you stay home or not allow you to fix your car. I would get my stuff in order and get my own place if I were you. Put your foot down and quit taking her abuse. She will stop if she knows that you will not take it. What does you boss not being your parent have to do with anything? That is a stupid thing for her to say. If you want to keep a job you work your hours. Don't let her ruin your work ethic. A lot of people these days do not have a good work ethic. Get your car fixed and save your money. I would spend as little time as possible at home until I could move out. Good luck.
2007-10-05 07:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the very least I don't think that she seems to really appreciate what you do for her and no matter what happens I don't think a parent should talk to a child the way your Mom talks to you.
My suggestion to you since you are 18, is that you graduate, get grants or scholarships so you can go to college so you can take care of yourself and be independent and move out of your home as soon as you can.
For all that you are doing, you could certainly take care of yourself and have less grief. Maybe then your Mom will appreciate what she had once it is gone. But don't do it for that reason, do it for yourself!
Good Luck!
2007-10-05 07:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, you are able to desire to take a seat down together with her. Please understand that your mom did not can charge you to stay together with her on an identical time as you have been starting to be up. whether it incredibly is starting to be to be a financial burden to monitarily help your mom then you definately definately would desire to enable her understand this. i'm optimistic that she would be ready to pitch in. All you should do is ask. Your mom seems to have relied heavily on your dad to cover a great form of the day after day issues inclusive of money and costs. She won't have a clue of expenses or something. She isn't taking advantage of you. you're her daughter. She is leaning on you and consistent with you to be there for her. She's misplaced. She misplaced her companion, her love and it will take her a on an identical time as to get on her ft, or she would in no way be sturdy sufficient to outlive her very own. each and every person is diverse. bypass to her, exhibit to her your concerns, ask for help. you're there to assist one yet another. it is your mom.
2016-10-21 03:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and have a talk with your mom. My mom gets on my last nerve sometimes.
My mom used to give me advices that annoys most of the time but it turns out that most of her advices were true and the friends she wouldn't let me hang out with was the fake and backstabbing friends that I had. So, I thank my mom.
Anyways, you should tell her how you feel. Do you cook and clean at the house and work outside and bring the money home??? than she surely is taking advantage of you. But if you just work outside, cleaning your chores is your job lady
2007-10-05 07:19:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk way you feel ok i hope turn around
2007-10-05 07:50:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋