My bf and I have been dating for 3 yrs. I am 18 and he is 20. We have never "done the deed" b/c we want to wait until marriage. He told me that he used to.......um.........well......... "solo" guy stuff but told me that he quit after I got mad at him for doing it. Anyways, should I be upset with him for doing it? Is it normal for guys to do it? Do you think he still does it? Do you know what i'm talking about?
And what if he admits that he has thought about other girls than me while doing it? (Like models and actresses and such) Is this normal also?
2007-10-05 07:09:18 · 48 answers · asked by frogprincess514 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Committing the "solo" act is completely normal- especially for a guy! It is also very normal for guys to visual others girls (especially models and actresses) while doing it. Think realistically- you are 18, he is 20 you are probably not going to get married anytime soon. You shouldn't get mad if he does this deed- it is still saying a lot that he is willing to wait to have sex until marriage. That is going to be extremely hard and it could actually complicate your relationship- IF he doesn't have another sexual release. Or he might rush into marriage just to have sex- which is silly, but happens a lot these days. I think you shouldn't get mad, and just let him be. If he is willing to wait for marriage to have sex with you- then he loves you a lot and there is nothing to worry about!
2007-10-05 07:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by Sansa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he has a second life! I don´t think your BF wants a serious relationship. For sure he´s not thinking about marriage. I recently meet this girl. She´s been seeing her BF for 14 years every other weekend. Only on the weekend and not even every weekend. I would say there are a lot of strange relationships out there. So yes a little different then the classic BF, but nonetheless your hunny =)! I think you must see if this is the kind of relationship you want. You say its been going on this way for a while. Chances are it will remain this way.... Good Luck
2016-05-17 04:55:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people do it solo. Women also. There is nothing wrong with it. Married people with great sex lives do it. Yes I think that he still does it. Don't ask him what he thinks about when he does it. Most guys just think about getting to the end. Don't fret over models or actresses. They are just an unobtainable fantasy. It is not like they live next door.Don't worry about him doing that. At least he is not out doing it with others. Good job on saving yourself for marriage.
2007-10-05 07:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really think you had the right to get angry with him for masturbating. I mean geez...give the guy a break--he's already waiting for marriage. So on top of that you want to totally torture him by making him sexually frustrated...all the way until marriage? It's 100% normal for guys AND GIRLS to do self-pleasure. Of course he still does it... just not when you're around.
At 18, maybe you're not ready to even go there. It seems like you're a little insecure. Who cares who he's thinking about...he's with you. I don't know, maybe you need to look inward and figure out why this bothers you so much.
2007-10-05 07:15:20 · answer #4 · answered by Judy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a normal guy to me. There is nothing wrong with the solo guy stuff, it would be kind of weird if he didn't do that. You shouldn't be upset, it just shows he is a normal healthy guy and in no way reflects badly on you. Also even if he does fantasize about actresses or whoever, it is just that....a fantasy, it doesn't mean he looves you any less, or would prefer to be with them in real life. Don't take it to heart,
2007-10-05 07:14:09 · answer #5 · answered by jo h 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
your boyfriend is totally Normal, I think your talking about masturbation, if this is so, than hell yeah, hes normal, 90 % of the worlds humans do this. for one reason or another, some even do it if they are sexually involved with theyre partners, its not a bad thing, so stop looking at it as such.
as far as him fantazising about other/famous woman, dont sweat that, its normal too, its one thing to fantasize its another to act it out, I dought Jeniffer Love Hewitt will be knocking at his door any time soon to have some sex. still, right now I dought hes fantazising about anyone else but you, since he has never had sex with you. this makes us want things much more!!!!
2007-10-05 07:17:51 · answer #6 · answered by Dr, Saso 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that's normal. On average, men think about sex like every six seconds or minutes (can't remember which). But yeah, they're going to Take Care of their Frustration, and they're going to daydream about actresses and models. Can you honestly say you've never fantasized about an actor you thought was especially hot? Why do you care if he dreams about women he's never going to meet? He's with -you-. He wouldn't be with you if he didn't think you were attractive.
2007-10-05 07:15:05 · answer #7 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's all normal. I'm suprised he stayed with you after you got mad at him. It is a normal process to get off, it isn't bad, it isn't harming anyone, and yes he probably still does it.
It is normal because he probably has seen pictures of them naked, whereas not with you.
Look, it's completely normal. The fact of the matter is he is YOUR boyfriend... not those models or actresses.
2007-10-05 07:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by tobiasmhunter 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is normal 4 him 2 think about other girls when your doing it, but really unfair and inconsiderate to admitt it. And as 4 the other thing, completely normal. If u two aren't doing it, he needs some way 2 relieve all that sexual tension!
2007-10-05 07:14:35 · answer #9 · answered by gнσѕтfacє κ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your BF is normal. What do you expect? He's 20 and human with all the testosterone exploding around.....here and there. Do you honestly believed that he's going to tell you all of his moments of inner sanctity? Be real and accept the fact that, "Boys will be boys and they're always going to play with their toys". But don't be mad, it's just,"The Call of Nature".
Yahoo on!
2007-10-05 07:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by hungrykong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋