how do i deal with this?

Question

im a very emotional person when it comes to death.. ive only known one person in my life that has died. i mean, a lot of people i knew of, or my family knew.. but nothing major. but still when i hear about it. i feel awful. its like i dont know how to feel. i get very quiet and i dont know what to do.

i just found out that my principals daughter died yesterday. my mom went to school with his wife, and hes a really nice guy. we're pretty close, well as close as a student/principal relationship goes.

but my dad just told me, and i feel horrible. his daughter cant be much older than me.. and icant get past this "why does this have to happen" thought that keeps repeating in my head. i dont think she was sick.. so i doubt they saw it coming. i cant help but cry...

how can i deal with this? and how am i ever going to deal with a loss in my family

Answer 1

It is sad when someone dies :( but its a part of are inherited impefection. As the bible says " for the living are concious that they will die but as for the dead they are concious of nothing at all". So we can take comfort knowing their at peace.

Answer 2

I was traumatized by the sudden death of a close relative when i was in my early twenties and in college - i felt unprepared for the whole idea. Our society really does not have very healthy ways of dealing with death, and most people find the traditional explanations offered by religion unsatisfying. Even those who claim to believe in heaven or an afterlife still fear death, even if they don't admit it. I don't like to think about the death of my loved ones happening, though I know it will be inevitable. But I think I have come to terms with the fact that it will happen to me and to everyone around me - we will die and our bodies will decompose and we will cease to exist, and because of this inevitability I feel that I need to make the best of my life and have the best relationships possible.

Answer 3

There are death and grief counselors who can help you with this...when I was a child several family members died in a short time..death does not carry a fear or trauma for me...it is part of the greater journey

Answer 4

I've lost both my parents, so I understand the feelings that come with that. In both cases they were suffering greatly, and I realized that death was a better option for them than continuing with that pain. I try to honor them when I can by keeping them in mind if I'm doing something that they used to enjoy.

Answer 5

Death is hard for anyone,and family is the hardest,but when I saw my Mother and Daddy hurt so much before death ,when
they died I knew they were better off because they were with God never to hurt anymore,look to God.

Answer 6

Man, I feel the same way. No one I really cared about has died and I dread the day it happens. You just have to deal with it, but not dwell on it. It's inevitable, after all.

Answer 7

It sounds like you are dealing with it well. You grieve, it upsets you, and you are concerned about the well being of others. I don't think you are too emotional, in fact a lot of people should be as kind and caring as you.

Answer 8

I feel for you. Death is never an easy thing especially when it happens to someone close to us. But you need to realize that it happens in all of our lives so you are not alone and that she will remain in your memory. Try to celebrate her memory by living life.

I wish you well.

Answer 9

Make the best of life for you and the ones you love, so that when you or they lay in your/their deathbed, you may say: "It was worth it".