I have a granny but I'm not so close to her.i live in Toronto while they are in Argentina. I'm also 20 studying at university. my dad hasn't called me in 2 years and my aunties ignore my emails and calls. i have 1 aunt and distant relative to talk to. any1 in a situation like me? I want to settle here in Canada, do you think tis a good idea? i have made a lot of friends here too!
2007-10-05 06:59:36 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
even if they did care about you (and it's really sad that they don't) I think you should be able to live where you want.
my neighbors for an in stand have children and one of them lives in America! (and I in Europe, so then it's a long way from here).
and seeming that they don;t even bother to contact you, I don't think that you should stay away from a place where you want to live and have friends.
2007-10-05 07:08:52 · answer #1 · answered by Lord_Kiwi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly enough, there are many people who are in the same situation as you. I have three grown children, two boys and a girl. I haven't seen my one son since he was eighteen; he is now 44. I have no idea why he has chosen to separate himself from the family. He was a wonderful son. My other son stole from me and treated me badly. I have not had any contact with him for the past seventeen years. Again, this was his choice. My daughter, son-in-law and six children live just a few blocks from me and they are WONDERFUL to me! All this said to say you're not the only one with less than a perfect family life.
You can choose to live anywhere you like and become anything you are willing to work for!
I decided long ago to not let my sons dictate whether my life would be happy or not. I have many great friends and I live a joyful life. Sometimes you have to go beyond blood to build a family of friends and relatives and those who want you in their lives. I applaud you and hope you stay where you are and most of all, make the decision to be happy with what you have instead of unhappy because of what you don't have. !!! God bless.
2007-10-05 14:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly OK for you to live your life the way you desire,I was in the same situation with my family.
15years later my mother and i cannot be close, i can say we are best friends now. I know i had to figure out my life for me because it starts and end with the choices i made for myself some great some not so great but this is how we learn how to grow and develop into the person we are to become. I know my parents had issues and i had issues but even through the rough times of not having my family there for me my friends did OK by me as I'm sure your friends will do the same for you. Just remember no matter what is said and done or not said and done your family will always be your family and they love you very much they just have to learn how to respect your decisions and you and if they don't then no relation is better than a negative one.
GOD BLESS
2007-10-05 14:15:36 · answer #3 · answered by surviver2b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's OK.
You have no particular reason to want to be near people you don't have any actual relationship with (except through blood).
It's your life.
You should live where you want.
2007-10-05 18:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋