I havent told her that i am very upset cos its her day. She is going to have my aunty and cousin as the matron of honour and the bridesmaid. She told me i had to wear a trouser suit. Im not sure what to do.
2007-10-05 06:47:21 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I dont think its my looks at all, maybe she doesnt want me to outshine her.
2007-10-05 06:57:13 · update #1
suck it up
It's her day, let it be about her.
I'm so sick of people who can't be in the wedding, or didn't get to be moh or blah blah blah
It's not about you, wear the trouser suit and smile pretty.
2007-10-05 07:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
How horrible. If I got married and had kids, they would definitely be included! If you are not in the wedding party, she cannot tell you what to wear. Just wear what you would like, a nice dress or something. Ask her why she wants you to wear a trouser suit and say you really hate it and since she doesn't want you in her wedding, you should be able to choose what you want. I know it's her day but she is a b!tch for not including you and trying to make you wear something you don't want to!
2007-10-06 01:23:00 · answer #2 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to her, ask her casually why she didn't ask you to be a bridesmaid. Tell her you are feeling a little confused about it. As for the trouser suit, if your not being a bridesmaid, she has no right to tell you what to wear
2007-10-05 13:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by sparkle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Choosing bridesmaids is a very difficult task. It isn't that often that daughters are bridesmaids in their own mother's wedding, so maybe it is a reflection of what she thinks a bridesmaid should be rather than her feelings towards you. If it really bothers you that much, you could speak with her about it.
2007-10-05 13:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by brwneyes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she choose who she wants for bridesmaids. Perhaps she wants those who have known her since her was a kid. Youre her daughter; she loves you, but may not envision this role for you.
Forget the trouser suit- thats for men! Wear something great that you feel great in. Its not her place to dictate what you wear.
2007-10-05 13:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you get along with her husband-to-be? If there are issues there, that would be a good reason to exclude you from the wedding party. I do agree with others also who have said you need to talk to your Mum about this. She may not have known you would like to be included in the wedding. Open communication is key to avoiding misunderstandings that can cause hurt feelings for a LONG time! Good luck to you.
2007-10-05 14:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by why 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should wear what you want if you are not a bridesmaid? does your mum not realise how hurtfull she is being? Are you close??? It may be her day but there is no need to ask you to wear a trouser suit.
2007-10-07 13:30:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude - I'm sorry but if my mother told me I had to wear a trouser suit in her wedding, I would say "no thanks." Are you freakin' kidding me? No way - it does sound as if she is worried that you will out shine her on her day - but that's just uncalled for.
I would tell her that you would love to be there on her wedding day to support her but that you don't think you'll be in the wedding. You just won't feel comfortable.
2007-10-05 15:36:51 · answer #8 · answered by Paula Christine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask your mum why she did not ask you maybe she thinks you were not keen on it ,or maybe you have other sisters and did not want to pick . It would be sad to miss out because of a misunderstanding I'm sure if your mum picked trouser suits they will be nice ones . good luck
2007-10-05 14:03:21 · answer #9 · answered by Mar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is her wedding and her day and she can have anyone she chooses stand up with her. She wants her friends with her women of her generation. You are her daughter so suck it up and put a smile on your face and that trouser suit on your body and make your mother happy. Don't you owe her at least this much for all she has done for you?
2007-10-05 15:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe the fact that you think you will out-shine her on her wedding day could be why she doesn't want you as a bridesmaid - you sound like a pain in the neck !
2007-10-06 09:17:16 · answer #11 · answered by kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋