2007-10-05 06:16:26 · 30 answers · asked by music_lvr_3 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Why is he sueing you now if he said you could keep it? Legally in ALL states, an engagement ring is a gift that is a contract to marry someone. If you do not marry, the contact is no longer valid per se and the ring belongs to the original purchaser (him). Ive seen this a zillion times on judge judy, and every time, the woman is obligated to return the ring. Now if he gave you other gifts like necklaces, etc, you could keep those. Engagement ring= promise to marry. No marraige, no ring. Sorry love, but thats what it is.
2007-10-05 06:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by lovelyrj7 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
There is a legal ruling saying that you can be sued to return the engagement ring if you do not go through with the wedding. If he said to keep the ring, and now he is reneging on that, yes he's being a jerk, but unless you have proof of that, you probably don't want to be anywhere near that guy anyway.
Why did you want to marry a guy who pulled a stunt like that on you? Heck, I'm a guy and over the internet am telling you that guy sounds like a creep.
2007-10-05 13:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a gift but given with the intention of leading to marriage. Arguments can be made on both sides but it will be up to the judge.
I wouldn't want to keep a ring from a man I wasn't going to marry, but if you parted on bad terms and he's now actually taking you to court, why not settle out of court by selling the ring and splitting the money? Get him to agree to this in writing and witnessed. He's got to be some kind of jerk for suing you over a ring.
2007-10-05 13:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by Tseruyah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was a family heirloom, I would give it back. Those types of situations can be bigger than the ring and they aren't worth you keeping the trinket that you'll probably never wear because the engagement ended.
If it was something that was bought for you, did you two have a loan together?? If you had a shared loan, you should take over the payments. He shouldn't have to keep paying on something if you aren't getting married.
If it was bought outright, and he said to keep it, did you have a witness or his statement in writing?
In the end, what is your attachment to the ring?
2007-10-05 13:26:48 · answer #4 · answered by zeebarista 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how the judge will see it. A lot depends on who broke off the relationship. Also, engagement rings are technically "gifts" but, there's an unwritten stipulation that says, it's comes with the promise of marriage and if it doesn't work out (no marriage), it should be returned. So its' dicey. Another thing, don't worry about it until you see the lawsuit papers.
2007-10-05 13:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by Brewspy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The general rule is that if the guy calls off the engagement, the woman keeps the ring, and if the woman calls it off, she gives it back to the guy.
That said, give it back to the guy, no matter what the circumstances were. Assuming he paid ( or may be still paying) for it, just give it back. Even if he said to keep it, people say a lot of stuff when they're breaking up that they regret later. There's no reason for you to keep it other than to sell it. You're probably hurting (and maybe want ot hurt him, too), but keeping this ring (and maybe getting sued) is just keeping you tied to him (maybe what you want?). Give him back the ring,.Cut off communication with him and get on with your life. Easy for me to say, and hard for you to do, I know, but anything else is just binding you to a bad situation.
Did I say it enough times? Give him back the ring!
2007-10-05 13:28:34 · answer #6 · answered by conicat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
An engagement ring is a conditional gift, meaning on the condition that you marry him. The right thing would be to give it back, but you said that he told you to keep it, so keep it. Why would you want to though?
2007-10-05 15:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by Jim J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on the state that you live in an engagement ring is like a verbal contract and can be enforced. if the contract was broken, then you may legally have to return the ring (especially if he is still paying for it).. but if says you may keep it.. then it becomes a gift for you to do as you please... if you keep it.. don't do anything with it..until any statute of limitations is up, then hock it and go on vacation.
2007-10-05 14:15:59 · answer #8 · answered by Amy E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the legal issues, but if you're not going to marry him, give up the ring.
Whether he told you to keep it or not, how could you in good conscience???
Although I am not calling you, the poster, out on this, where do some women get off with this sense of entitlement that I see so often?
2007-10-05 13:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the state you live in.
And on who broke up with whom and for what reason.
Just return the ring, the resale value on engagement rings is next to nothing anyway (take to a pawn shop and find out).
It is not worth the stress you are going through. The relationship has ended, get rid of the evidence.
Peace to you
2007-10-05 13:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by Gem 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋