My boyfriend only comments on women's butts and breasts. He doesn't comment on any other thing arould us, not a sunset, not an unusual paint job on a car, not a guy with a giant gut hanging out from under his shirt, not a woman's hair, face, arms, legs (unless her skirt or shorts are VERY short), not her stomach, her back, her feet. Nothing else around us is worth mentioning except boobs hanging out or see-through clothing. We saw a 400# woman at the Renaissance Festival with no less than 12 individual rolls of fat on her back and stomach, and he didn't even seem to notice she was standing there. We saw a guy swallowing swords and fire! Didn't hold his gaze for one instant. But then we saw an average looking girl with a slightly see-through skirt on and and he comments on it! The world could be exploding around us and he would miss it unless the blast blew open a woman's shirt! What's the deal??? Sorry, that was a long rant. Thanks for reading :)
2007-10-05 06:14:28 · 27 answers · asked by The Naughty Librarian 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have to clarify. He does not only comment on attractive women (his type). It's ANY woman with ANY amount of breast or butt showing. Whether it's because it's popping out the top of her clothing, the bottom of her clothing, or it's showing through the fabric. He does not comment on tastefully dressed, attractive women (except me). I have moral standards that are pretty extreme for this day and age. I do not show cleavage or middriff, or any area of my rear. I feel like my covering up is a show of respect for myself and for him in that my body is only for him to see. Since he knows about my stance on modesty and morals, I want him to be more respectful in front of me. I can't seem to get him to understand.
2007-10-05 10:51:38 · update #1
Yes, but we don't disrespect our lady with it. Women will always be around. We fellas are physical creatures and women are emotional creatures. Sit down and talk with him and tell him it bothers you when he does that. I'm sure if your relationship is happy like you said, he will be all right.
2007-10-05 06:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bet that even the hottest woman on the planet deals with this also. Does your boyfriend comment on how beautiful he thinks you are? I try not to let other beautiful women affect my self confidence, but it does somethimes. With how much emphasis society puts on huge boobs and having the perfect body it is hard to compete. Have you told him how it bothers you? Men are just visual...while that is not a valid reason...it still is the reason for their wandering eye. A lot of men don't think about how their words affect their girlfriend/wife...and need to be told. While I also hate their preoccupation with boobs and other naked women I try to remember that my boyfriend will always find other women attractive..but the important thing is that he makes you also makes you feel like the most beautiful woman to him. Let him know how you feel...you shouldn't have to be in a relationship where you feel uncomfortable and inferior. good luck!
2007-10-05 06:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by Kitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always notice an attractive woman, whether shes around or not, but never do I point it out to her. You're bf sounds like he's extremely comfortable with you which I think is a good thing, as long as you're comfortable with it. We don't notice these things on purpose though it's just kind of part of our nature. Kind of like woman love shoes, romantic movies, and purses. Guys have cars, explosions, and hot woman with huge breasts and a$$es. lol
2016-04-07 05:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been nailed multiple times looking at other women. She'll always ask: "When are you going to stop doing that?" The answer is always the same: "Ten minutes after I'm dead." We don't do to disrespect you. We do it because we can. Expecting him not to look at other women is like expecting him not to breathe....commenting on what he's seen, that is a problem. Most guys don't make conversation with their women about some talent they just noticed. He needs to look discreetly and learn that you're not interested in what he's seen. Share this idea with him. You know he's not blind, so pretend you're deaf. Hopefully he'll catch on. Good luck.
2007-10-05 06:34:40 · answer #4 · answered by none 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Men are going to be men. As long as he comes home to you or with you then there is nothing that you have to worry about unless you are not taking care of business at home to keep him happy. Some things may not catch his attention or he may not express his emotions like others. In the case of the fat woman he may not have had nothing nice to say and did not want to insult her or call the guy swallowing swords crazy as he*#. You have to think about the man that you are with. Do you admire other men when they look nice like you want to tear their clothes off them, but you know that you can't.
If he does not take action towards the other women then don't sweat it.
Good Luck
2007-10-05 06:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by sexceeladie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I much rather be in a relationship than single.
When I am in a relationship, I notice other women, but not really... soudns confusing, but I can't help looking at a beautiful woman, but I am not going to comment or chase after, because I am happy where I am at. I mostly notice other women because of beauty... this stems from the fact when looking for a relationship, I look for brains and a personality, not so much on looks.
It's like... You get a diamond ring, beautiful and nearly perfect. But you walk by a jewelry store and there are other rings there, they look very good, but none are diamonds... but you still look at them.
2007-10-05 06:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by tobiasmhunter 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To answer your first question, I am in a happy relationship and I do still notice other women. I just have some tact and class in not ogling them or commenting on body parts. Like most heterosexual males, I notice attractive women more than unattractive women in general. The fact that your boyfriend is sex-crazed is unfortunate, but I suggest once you are not so angry at him that you think about how body part crazed he truly is.
2007-10-05 06:20:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Like any man, I notice women when my wife is around and when she's not, it's a part of me, an impulse. I just try to be discreet with it. We sometimes comment on other women outfits, and even joke about her wearing the same.
If your boyfriend knows it makes you uncomfortable and keeps on doing it, then it means he's a jerk. For what you say, he seems obsessed. Find a boyfriend with a healthy sexuality. =)
2007-10-05 06:23:39 · answer #8 · answered by Papucho 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys love breasts and butts, doesn't matter if they're in a relationship. If you find his natural desires to be threatening you need to stop being such an inconsiderate woman. If you really think this is a problem you need to take a look in the mirror and figure out what is wrong with YOU!
2007-10-05 06:22:55 · answer #9 · answered by nerdelectric 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yeah i have been married for 27yrs and i still look at other women , It happens as i am a male and a women is attractive to me so i look but that's it , i window shop only,
My wife knows i look as she has been with me ,And as i told her i am only comparing her to others to make sure she is still better than the other .
And point of interest i notice that my wife and other women look at other guys the same as men look at women,
For the same reasons
2007-10-05 06:22:38 · answer #10 · answered by kevinmccleanblack 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋