Do you think there is a difference between, loving someone and being IN love w/ someone?

Question

I think there is, loving someone is when you want the best for them and you care for them...for example if my best friend did drugs, I would try to help her b/c I love her.

But being IN love w/ someone is when you can't see yourself w/ anyone else, they are the first thing you think about when you get up and the last thing you think about when you go to bed...and you can't stand not being in their presence, you have to be near them, you like to feel the warmth of their skin touching yours, you can feel comfortabel around them at all times, you can cry in front of them, you can trust them w/ all your heart and more. And all that in general...

but do you have a different interpretation or do you even think there is a difference?

Answer 1

YEA, you helpless romantics, fin up my fine work to re-educated these emotional unattuned masses! RRRR. THat aside the only thing that divides the two is the depth of the purpose, shoot re-read what you put, if you were deeper with your own reflection of your work, you would of connected the dots yourself. But I digress, the problem people don't realize is that most of our relationships are dysfuncitonal, like the one you said. Look at it, the friendship one your purpose was actually to help them! But in the relationship you have no purpose outside the love. In the frist one YOU ACTUALLY APPLY LOVE AND ARE HELPFUL FOR THE PERSON EVEN COMPASSINATE! In the second one there is no purpose outside the ignorant romantic love, he/she is just a drug, or object to worship with no real purpose, it would seem if you combined the two you'd actually have a great realtionship, but people like to be decieved by romance, don't let me stop you..... But thats usually the way it goes, we just automatically assume that friendships and relaitoships are seperate, when in all actuallity its the deepth that seperates them not the love. Shoot the who phrase of "I love you, but I'm not IN love with you" was a player term coined in the mid 60's to help propetiate the sexual revalution while aviod the conseqences of love, that ideal along with many more has caused more heartbreck then the spanish inquistion.... but you are a sweetheart.....

Answer 2

Here's my example. I was with my daughter's father for 9 years. When we first got together, I was in lust with him. We just wanted to fool around and be all up on each other. After getting to know him better, I fell in love with him. I trusted him and he trusted me. There was good communication and I felt very happy and comfortable with him. We were in love. Then when our daughter was 5, he started running the streets, using drugs and cheating on me. We ended up breaking up and went our separate ways. I'm in another relationship with a man that I'm in love with. I still love my daughter's dad and always will. I see his face every time I look at my daughter. I'll always have a special place in my heart for him and have mad love for him, but I'm not in love with him anymore. I hope that made sense.

Answer 3

You're right. there is a difference.

the english language is awful when it comes to emotions, we lack words to describe a lot of them, especially the primal ones. in the case of love, we lump a very large array of related but very much different emotions into one term.

now while there are many other kinds, and they aren't mutually exclusive, there are three primary kinds of love:
love between friends-- with your best friend. yea, like the one with the drug problem, that kind of love.

love between family-- like with your favourite family member, like donating a kidney to save your sibling.

and love between lovers-- or 'special feelings'

the kind of love, it seems you want to know about is the third kind. we all do. once again, words can scarcely describe it. song can come close, but not all of it. it's a very powerful experience...


for me, in a nutshell,
being in love, is a strong physical attraction. loving is a deep emotional comittment. it's posible to have both feelings for the same person. :-)

Answer 4

yeah...I so totally believe that there is a difference in loving someone and being in love with them!