but he is the sweetest guy I have ever met......will I ever fall in love with him.......is it possible?
2007-10-05 05:16:23 · 202 answers · asked by Shania A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Probably not. But at the same time don't come running back here crying when you dump him & all the other guys you love screw you over, & you want him back. #
2007-10-05 05:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am going on 4 years with my boyfriend. I didnt feel like I was in love with him until recently. He is the sweetest guy too, very attentive, generous, detailed spoils me etc. but I just couldnt love him then as the years went by I realized that some things are more important than others. You see I already knew that which is why I never let him go in the first place I knew a guy like him was too genuine and special to let go. But all the while I did things I wasnt supposed not proud of them but they helped me realized that I do love him I was doing this looking for other things while the whole time it was me I was appreciating what I had. So my point here is if you have something good and you know it keep it! you will grow to love him and if you leave him you might end up missing him!
2007-10-05 05:52:50 · answer #2 · answered by gaby g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short, if he's all that you say he is then something is wrong with you. Maybe you need to date another guy or guys so that you could see what you had. Not attacking you, because you can't help how you feel but you sound like a girll/women who needs to be mistreated to appreciate what you had.
If life is good with what you have, lean to appreciate it and you'll be okay. Not saying to settle, but I just get a vibe from you that you don't appreciate what you have. I know one thing, if you don't love him for what he has to offer someone else will. If you really feel this way, then let him go so that he can find someone who will love him. i don't know how long you been with him but I'm guessing that it's not a short time, or else this would not be an issue.
I think you are kind of cheating him out of a relationship, because he probably doesn't know how you feel and you are just going along with the idea of a relationship without being emotionally there. You can grow to love someone, but you have to like them first, did you take the time to get to know him before you made a relationship official? Just think about it for a little bit and your mind will guide you to what you need to do. I think you know the answer but just ignoring your conscious.
Peace,
The Truth
2007-10-05 05:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you love him for being the sweetest guy you ever met. The problem is that your not in love with him. which means that maybe you will be one day. But that's all up to you. in my opinion if your not in love with him then you should stop seeing him as a boyfriend because you both are going to end up bad. Be realistic with yourself your not in love and you might never be which could possibly lead to you cheating on him anyway. I say keep him as a friend and not a boyfriend.
2007-10-05 05:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by tootsiebrownie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've given me the perfect opportunity to quote something a friend of mine always says, "You don't fall in love, you grow to love."
There is no such thing as love at first sight. That is just plain lust. So if it didn't happen for you right away, you are so much sweeter and deeper than most of the airheads out there who only judge by physical appearance. ;P
How long have you been dating this guy?
If you WANT to fall in love with him, you certainly CAN... but it's impossible to say if you WILL. You just have to give it time. Sometimes these things don't happen overnight, and that's ok.
If you see potential in him, and know that he is wonderful, caring, devoted, and lovable... I wouldn't dismiss him just yet.
I dumped an old boyfriend for the same reason. He was the sweetest, nicest, most giving person... but I felt no sparks. I gave it another try, but I had to end it because I didn't want to lead him on. For whatever reason, I just wasn't feelin' it for him.
Now I am in a relationship with a wonderful guy that I absolutey love, and am very happy.
Every now and then, I look back on the first one and think to myself, it could have worked out, because he was a wonderful guy who really cared about me. Now, I don't regret anything, because the one I have now is the love of my life. But I think I was a little immature and naive back then, and I probably should have given the first relationship more time. I could have happily married that guy if I'd allowed myself to see how great he really was.
But I didn't. And I survived.
Only make sure you don't lead him on. In time, you will know the truth within yourself.
2007-10-09 01:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by ellenoid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you use the word "boyfriend", what exactly do you mean?
Like, is he just a friend that you sometimes see?
Is he a meal-ticket just so you can go out and have someone pay your way?
What is the basis of this friendship?
Also - why are you wondering if you'll fall in love with him?
It sounds as if you already have very close feelings for him.
As to whether its possible that you might fall i love - well, yes.
All things are possible.
Just that some things take time.
2007-10-05 05:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by docscholl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is best for you and your friend, if you define your relationship for what it really is. And if you do not have the same feelings for him that he has for you, or if you do not love him like you think you should, you should tell him, and let him make the decision of finding true love and just being your friend, or just keeping things like they are.
It is hard to loose a great friend, but not being his girlfriend does not mean you can't still be friends and I'm sure he will remain the sweetest guy you will ever meet.
Good Luck!
2007-10-05 07:54:00 · answer #7 · answered by simplyamazingalex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him then you probably never will. You need to be fair to him as well as yourself and let him go. It just is not there. I know how you feel. I had a really sweet boyfriend but I loved him as a person not a companion. You have to come to a point of fairness because the longer you prolong the relationship the harder the fall. It is going to hurt the both of you more the longer you stick with the relationship.
Good Luck!!!
2007-10-05 05:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by spleefarella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love him why are you with him?
Just because he is the sweetest guy you've ever met is not fair to him or you for that fact.
Get out of it and try and keep him as a best friend. Period.
2007-10-05 05:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's weird that the sweet guys are usually the ones that we can't fall in LOVE with. I mean I always wanted to be madly in LOVE with whomever it was that I was with. But once you think about long lasting relationships - - they really need to withstand more than just LOVE. If you guys have good communication, good sex, a good friendship, good family/friend relationships, basically everything else is good and you at least truly care for him, then YEAH I think that you can learn to LOVE him. **** it's better than falling in LOVE with a guy who is all totally wrong for you but you LOVE him! Although waiting until Prince Charming comes along is also an option - - but in this day and age it may never happen, we all have so many issues! :)
2007-10-05 05:56:10 · answer #10 · answered by mentalchallenge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's the sweetest guy you ever met, may be you should be asking yourself if the problem might be that you don't think you deserve to be with someone who's that sweet.
People have a tendency to sabotage their good relationship because subconsciously they feel they are not as good as the other person or that they don't deserve to be with someone good. Then they go out and get into a relationship where they are treated badly.
Just my 2 cents. :o )
2007-10-05 05:34:33 · answer #11 · answered by H B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋