As a parent would this make you a little angry?

Question

Ive just decided to put my 1 and 2 yr old boys into day care for a day. They both realy enjoy it and dont realy want to leave when it is home time they are having too much fun. They have only been 2 times so far, today I got a phone call from the centre and the lady said my 2 yr old is biting other children! When I got there she said he had bitten 2 more times since the phone call, and the parents of the children he bit were realy angry. When he is at home he doesnt bite anyone, not even his younger brother. I thouf=ght to myself, Shouldnt they be keeping a close eye on him if they know he is doing that to other children? Im not there I cant control him, They are payed over $100 per child a day to make sure this sort of thing doesnt happen, But instesd when I go there to pick him up they make it out to be my fault or try to make me feel guilty about it. Should I move him to another centre that will look after him better? What would you do and how do you think you would feel about it?

Maddiesmummy, if you read my question correctly you would have seen that HE DOES NOT BITE ME OR HIS YOUNGER BROTHER OR ANYONE ELSE WHEN HE IS WITH ME!!!!!!!! He wouldnt dare. With your attitude im suprised you are a teacher, I sure wouldnt leave my child in your care. As a teacher you should know that you can identify and predict certin childrens behavour and should know how a child is going to react in a certian situation, therfor you should know when they are getting in a situation that will lead to a negative out come, the child should be distracted or removed from it, geez I shouldnt need to be telling you this.

Answer 1

I think it's probably a sign your child isn't ready to be in the daycare or he misses you. At 2, your child is old enough to talk to you (or at least listen to you talk to him) about biting. How does the center respond? Do they give him a time-out for the biting, or do they just tell him no and move him away from the child? If they aren't willing to work with you and help by properly disciplining him, then yes, move to a different center.

Answer 2

You are absolutely right! What do they expect you to DO while your at work? I worked in a daycare for 3 years, and loved every minute of it! When a child would bite another child, you put him in a "time out" chair, where he is forced to sit watch the other children play and have fun. He will stop because he will not want to sit still. Especially being so young. Worked every time! Don't let anybody make you feel guilty! That is ridiculous! The most you can do, is talk to him when he gets home and explain to him that its a bad thing. Good luck with everything! :) And dont worry, every child goes through that phase!

Answer 3

RELAX! Biting is not even remotely something to get angry about until you know exactly what steps the school IS taking to provide good supervision. I would get angry about your privacy being violated however. Your teacher is actively creating a hostile environment that will lead to more biting by telling the other parents which child is biting.

First of all, toddlers biting is a perfectly normal behavior for that age group. Second, the school should NOT be identifying your child to the other parents. They should be providing anonymous incident reports to both you and the other parents.

There's an excellent list of What to do about biting in the article below. Print it out and make copies for all the parents in the class, ask, and watch, the teacher put the copies in the kids' take home pile or cubbies or wait for other parents at pickup time and hand them out yourself.

Sit down with the teacher and the article and verify what steps are being taken with the class, if they aren't correct, use the article to educate the teacher on proper responses to biting behavior.

If the teacher is unresponsive or obviously has more kids than she can handle at her education or skill level, it's time to move your child to another classroom or another facility.

Answer 4

In order to keep a toddler from biting, you would have to be on top of that toddler constantly. I think that would smother a child.

Plus you pay $100 a day per child - is that the going rate in your area! wow - we pay $30 a child a day

As a parent of a child who's been bitten - and also been bitten by a kid myself - it hurts! What I think you need to do is work with the 2year old on appropriate responses. Role play. Could be just at daycare - this is new - he's doing some boundary testing. Suspect this would also happen at a different center.

Answer 5

u need to find out why the child is biting other ppl.
a person can only do so much watching a bunch of kids. they can't know when a child will bite another. esp. when the child hasn't exhibited such behavior and the parents aren't aware or doesn't warn the caretakers in the first place. they prob. thought he was playing or acting out therefore didn't think it was a big deal when he bit the first time. but when he did it again and again, they prob thought there is more to it. they prob think something happened at home that made the child do such a thing.

i would feel surprised and of course embarrassed. but the main concern isn't how this situation made u look...but to find out why he bit the other kids. that is wats most important.

Answer 6

I used to work in a day-care for 2 and 3 year olds. Biting is normal and yes, they should be keeping an eye on him. However, theycannot have him glued to their sides all day, Biting is a phase and he should be taught that it is not right. Biting tends to be contagious, if you have one consistant biter, other children will see it and you could ahve a room of biters. I have seen it happen. You should talk to him at home. Don't feel guilty, it is only his second day. You can, however, stay after you drop him off (out of sight of him, of course) and observe what is causing the biting.

Answer 7

I find children learn a lot of bad habits from other children. If he doesn't do it at home then it must of come from him being at nursery.
He may be bitting to protect his younger brother, if other kids are doing things to him he doesn't like then he might be biting them for retaliation.
All teachers and day careers make you feel it's your fault it's a way of passing blame.
I would speak to my son and try to find out why he has been biting the two children.

Answer 8

Toddlers sometimes bite - it happens! Don't beat yourself up over it. While I would be upset if my child were being bitten at daycare, the teachers are the ones at fault. They should be better supervising the kids, especially one who is known for biting. They should also be disciplining him, not just calling you to pick him up. He's most likely doing it for attention. When he first bit, they should have removed him from the classroom (brought him into the hall or something) and explained to him that he could not play with the kids if he was going to bite them. I'm he's not the first child in their class to bite someone; they just don't know how to handle it. If they can't manage typical toddler behavior (which biting is for 2 - year - olds), you may want to take him out of the centre immediately.

Answer 9

honey, how do you propose THEY stop him from biting ? Keep him completely isolated? tape his mouth shut? Neither of those options are legal. His behavior needs modification. Biting is something most children learn at some point in time. He needs YOU to step up and discipline him when he does something wrong, not for you to expect others to be able to keep him from biting. I hope they DO make it out to be your fault, if you do nothing to correct his behavior. They can only do so much to discipline him, if you don't back their actions.

You will have problems no matter what center you send him to , if you don't accept responsibility for your child's discipline.