you service with a smaile....would you at least be nice to her. I recently left my bf cause he was an *** to me and I was just wondering why he would act like that. I was the best woman ever to him, and he acted like that to me.
2007-10-05 04:40:18 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just haven't met the right man. You sound like my wife,& I am the happiest man on earth. #
2007-10-05 04:45:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many reasons he may have acted that way towards you. You did the right thing in leaving him and move on with your life! Do not look back and think he is going to change!! When any relationship has gone down the wrong path, one of the people involved will say, “I will change, I will never do that again”, they change just long enough to get you back in the door!! Then you find out you are worse off than ever before!! When you are in a relationship you may have many things in common with the other person. Once you have trust, honesty, for one another you open up and take steps to protect one another and stand up, with that person! When that other person does something to walk in front of you, or behind you things fall apart. Love is always a two way street! If you do not walk hand in hand with the other person you are not in love! The path you are on takes on a different meaning, and it leaves you wondering what you could have or should have done to make things better. The truth is there is nothing you could or should have done to make things better. Things went wrong because this person had no respect for you!! The person used you to get what they wanted and needed, and nothing more. You gave this relationship everything from your heart and the other one walked all over it!!
I hope this helps you out!
Thanks
Rags37 :):)
2007-10-05 05:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were almost too nice to him. What did you expect from him, for example? I think a relationship should be more equal.
I'd love to have that sort of relationship, but I'd be expecting that I have to pay the bills, take care of the lawn, etc. Because I want a partner, not a "maid with benefits" as some other posters said.
You need to have some higher standards and find a guy who's looking for a partner and not a servant.
Good luck.
2007-10-05 05:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The short truth is, some people don't realize what they had until it's gone, and they sometimes mistake kindness for weakness. So, in the future, wait until you can clearly see what type of person you're dealing with before you let yourself be too accomodating. This will keep you from becoming jaded and dampening your ability to care for anyone out of skepticism. There are good men out there who would appreciate that sort of attention.
2007-10-05 04:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You became a doormat...he lost respect for you. This is why communication in a relationship is soooo important! It's hard when your young as I feel that you are. In time you will learn what it takes..just focus on tomorrow. You asking questions here shows that you want to learn and emotionally grow from this. Don't give away all your power. Your a woman..guys should earn your respect and you his. In time he will appreciate all those things that you have done for him but for now he needs to learn on his own...and he will. I don't think you have heard the last from him but, you will find better as you are a very giving natured person.
2007-10-05 04:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are mom/maid/bed partner all rolled into one, doesn't make you and he a good match. If the chemistry isn't there, it isn't there (doesn't matter if you're a wonderful person or a horrid one).
Don't bend over backwards treating your partner like royalty, thinking it'll ensure you a place in their life forever. It doesn't work that way. It should be give and take...if they only take, then you need to go.
2007-10-05 04:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You stayed for it, expecting him to change. In essence, you enabled it.
You hoped that if you were "nicer" he would see the new you and change.
Well, next time look for a guy that appreciates you even when you are a *****, because we all have bad days.
And you don't have to change who you are, just change your expectations of who you are looking for.
Look for integrity, honesty, and someone that has a vision in life. And if you aren't finding that person in the place you are at, consider changing what you do and where you go.
Ask yourself the question "Where would I want my future husband to be on tuesday night?" "Where would I want my future husband to be on Sunday morning?"
Decide that, and go where you would want to find that person?
2007-10-05 04:49:02 · answer #7 · answered by Moving on 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He acts like that because he can. As much as you might think so, no man wants his woman to do everything for him, he wont respect u and he'll take advantage of you - which clearly he did. Its called being co-dependant.
2007-10-05 05:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by KillahKam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys ain't appreciative and for that they intend to take ladies for granted. But am by now he is regreting because One never knows the value what he has until he looses it.
2007-10-05 04:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you give too much, as you seem to have, they treat you like garbage. However, if you go out every night, don't answer your phone, throw a bag of charred popcorn on their laps and say, "There's dinner, Shamu", they will love you forever.
2007-10-05 04:44:06 · answer #10 · answered by Aiden 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋