is it okay to move ur lover in but still have your childs other parent living with you?

Question

this is an lesbian relationship. and the baby father doesnt contribute to shyt....

Answer 1

Does it really matter. Your living a immoral life, & asking moral question. #

Answer 2

Stop being so selfish. You cant always have your cake and eat it too.

Be a mother and think about your child, the confusion that it would cause. And realize that its a proven fact that humans learn over half of what they will ever know by age 5. Your child is learning right now, dont mix it up.

Im not saying whether your life style is right or wrong, but you need to take a stand on one way or another and as a mother think about what is best for your child.

Answer 3

No I would not especially if your child is a girl. That would be very confusing to your child and could mess them up in the long run. The father of your child should probally move out and move on so that the rest of you can do the same. The child is the main priority in this situation.

Answer 4

Yeah if you want to give your children a serious complex. That will mess up their beliefs in the family structure for the rest of their lifes.
But wait that all depends, if you and the mother are no longer intimate and are only sharing a house not the same room and bed. You also must both be in agreement with it if the mother does not want that than don't. I can work out but you don't want your child to get confused as to what the roles are in the family

But if you can make it work than by all means
GO FOR IT!

Answer 5

That may only be confusing for the child to be honest.
If the guy is not contributing, what is the point of having him in when you already have your lover?
The arrangement doesn't make sense for an outsider, it sounds disturbing and immoral.
But, if you do it, I guess it's because it suits you?

Answer 6

I would suggest that you and your child live alone for awhile. If Dad is active in child's life, stay in same area. See your lover when child is with Dad or at lover's home until you are sure that it is a committed and lasting relationship. When you are sure it will last a few years, then become a family.

Answer 7

I think that would be really confusing to a kid. Think about it if it wasn't a lesbian relationship. Would you have two guys living in the house? probably not.

I can see to positives to have both mom and dad in the same house raising a child, even if one or both of those parents were gay. However, unless you plan to "marry" this girl (have a long term, life partner kind of relationship) then I would not recommend it. Don't bring in your bed partner to become part of your kids life if they are always going to be in their life.

Answer 8

if your child is over the age of 5, I wouldn't. Kids are really receptive and other kids are ruthless.

Get the other parent out first before you have an episode of Jerry Springer in your household.

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with Lesbian relationships, but go about it maturely with your ex, and don't try and put your kid in the middle of it.

Answer 9

I really don't think that is the best thing for the child, but then I think this is more about you than the child.

Most men don't connect with a kid until it can start talking, walking and using the potty. This is the time for you and the child to bond.

Answer 10

I think it is fine. I have a friend who has her ex in the house still and her new hubby as well. Allot of people do it for the kids or insurance purposes. If everyone else feels comfortable I don't see why it would have to be a big issue.

Answer 11

sweety it sounds like he is just a b ump on a log to me how old are the kids he is just staying there to live somewhere if hes not caring for the kids it sounds like a decision needs to be made about who will have the kids if he needs to go i think you and your partner could do it children need two people not one but its none of my business