He keeps telling everyone that this one girl is fine then today I said can you need to show me some love.. he don't even say I am pretty anymore..It hurts..I don't want to leave him I love him and have his kids..I don't know what to do..I was just looking for advice..
2007-10-05 03:10:44 · 11 answers · asked by ShyGrl216 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
trust me i'm in a similar boat. you have to really talk it out with him and COMMUNICATE. i know i talked to my man about it and he said that he missed me wearing makeup and sprucing myself up for him like i did when we were first dating. so now the days/nights i do get all dressed up & prettied up, he really shows appreciation. sometimes i get "looks" when i even do something little, like where a shorter skirt w/some heels or a low cut shirt. just depends what your man is attracted to and likes.
2007-10-05 03:15:59 · answer #1 · answered by Lexus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well firstly I believe that if you want to do any physical altering, it should be because you want to. BUT at the same time, I understand where you're coming from. Why dont you go to the gym, start working out. If you dont have the time or resources, get a Taebo dvd package, trust me, it does wonders. Start eating really good and treat yourself to a weave and a nail treatment. Get dressed up just to go to the store.
I know its hard. I only have 1 baby and its hard. But trust me, you will start to feel so much better. Tell yourself, damn I look good. Sometimes its hard to come out of mommy mode, but you gotta do it if you are in a relationship. Change up your look a little, he'll notice. And if he doesnt, its not in vain
2007-10-05 03:28:23 · answer #2 · answered by teri is ambience 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately,most women that have been in a relationship for many years...find themselves in your situation.They tend to loose their confidence and self esteem,when the partner doesn't appreciate them as they used to or doesn't show/tell them they are still attractive.That's why you have to make a change in your behavior...do things differently,change your look...and if he's not jealous or violent,you can try to make him feel a little insecure,show him that you can still be attractive in other man's point of view...even throw a little lie,like:"Today i was shocked.A man passing near me,stopped to tell me how beautiful i was and that he had never seen such interesting eyes..."(you must look surprised,as you would think that the person on the street didn't have anything better to do,but stop a stranger to make a compliment).Again...if he's not jealous and violent...buy some flowers and write a note:"I fell in love with you.Will you ask who sent you this flowers?Will you try to find me?"...and pretend that someone sent them to your office(like you have a secret admirer).You can also try to change your attitude:things that used to bother you in his behavior,now don't and hobbies that you didn't have,suddenly appeared on your list....He probably thinks that if you have children with him,you're HIS for life(he owns you),whatever he does.Don't let him take you for granted anymore!Basically,surprise him with a "new you".Oh,and remember:you're beautiful and out there,a lot of men just wait to get a chance with you!
2007-10-05 04:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve someone who will marry you, not just hang out with you. Don't you think? Also, tell him he is being disrespectful to you if he is talking about other women. He is degrading you.
You could always ask him what you could do to make yourself more attractive. But 3 kids can beat you down. Perhaps he needs to take you out for a nice evening? Somewhere where you can dress up and feel good again?
(Also, sorry, but "he don't find me attractive anymore" is bad grammar. It should be " he doesn't". Just fyi.)
2007-10-05 03:33:55 · answer #4 · answered by allforone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First mistake, having kids before the ring is on the finger. After a while you get secure in living together, and forget to take care of yourself. Start taking an interest in yourself and start looking like you are single ( which you are) and maybe the spark will reenter your life. Time to get the ring on the finger, and him to make a commitment to you and your kids. Of course you don't want to leave him, but will he care if you do?
2007-10-05 03:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And remind me again why you aren't married? There is your answer.... No commitment from either party....
And nothing is more unattractive than bad grammar. When I read that question, I actually cringe at the "he don't" sentence.
I am a critical ***, so I do apologize.
2007-10-05 03:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by monkey tuesday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want him to find u pretty then u have to work for it. maybe change ur general looks with a new hairstyle or smthng. men do get bored sometimes so maybe u can try to spice up ur looks a bit more. i hope this helps! :-)
2007-10-05 03:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by emerald! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See that's why you get married BEFORE you have the kids.It sounds like he is shopping for the next baby's momma.Good luck.
2007-10-05 03:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has had three kids with you and doesn't find u attractive then there is something wrong with him
2007-10-05 03:34:33 · answer #9 · answered by phish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
start ignoring him without making it obvious. dont cling dont whine focus on something else for a while
2007-10-05 03:16:06 · answer #10 · answered by X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋