Two months ago, my mother and I got into a disagreement where she hung the phone up on me. Since then, she's called and ended up hanging up on me again. She has not seen my 4-month old son since then either. I feel like he's the one losing out on not seeing his Grandma. Should I be the one to swallow my pride and call her up?
2007-10-05 02:55:03 · 32 answers · asked by David 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, I sorta know how you feel, someone in my family was in a situation like this and I was effected by it. I think you and your mom should try resolve this problem. Do it for your kid and for yourself. I'm sure it would be nice if you and your mom could get back together again. I guess you have to be the bigger and better person. I wish you luck!! Don't be scared just tell her how you feel!
Hope I helped!
2007-10-05 03:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes--fighting with a mom is so aggravating. and for some reason--they always gotta be right. But since your son is involved, put him before your pride, you know? You owe it to him to see his grandma. Call her up and say "you know, i know that we have been disaggreeing lately, but i think it would be beneficial for both of us if we could get along and solve things for (your son's name)" Then schedule a time that you all can go out to eat or something. With your son being there, it will be less likely for her to try to start a fight with you, ya know? But definately swallow your pride dear! You'll be happy you did. It is your mother, after all. And now that your a parent--maybe you can understand just a little bit.
Good luck :)
2007-10-05 02:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should, at least give her another try. I know what it's like because I have problems with my mother not wanting to be in my daughter's life. But for your child try all you can to make her a part of her grandson's life. However, if she's not meeting you at least halfway relationship wise with your son then you have to reevaluate the whole situation and do what's best for your son, because at the end he's the one that's going to hurt.
If you two are not speaking somehow just let her know that you want her to remain part of your son's life and work out some type of visitation to where she is still able to have time with him. Even if it's every weekend or something of that nature, whatever works out best for you guys. Good luck.
2007-10-05 03:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by So Fly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though she might not like the idea, yes, swallow your pride and call her up tell her how much she's hurting you and your son for not calling. Gently remind her your son is the youngest of all grand-children she has and you don't have to put up with this. I don't know how bad your disagreement was, or what it was about but, your mom is always your mom.
2007-10-05 02:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by don't be a hater 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call her and tell her look I want my son to be able to see his grandmother. You are right he would be the one missing out. Depending on what the disagreement maybe you could be the one to swallow your pride for your son but not for her and make sure she knows that.
2007-10-05 03:03:10 · answer #5 · answered by ???? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should call her up, it doesn't matter who said or did what now,it done, so it is time to build a bridge. Life can be too short to dwell on silly things and family is too important. You never no when she may not be there.
If you have had a really major issue, try talk it through and move on if you all can. Your son doesn't understand that you and grandma have had a falling out & i think you are right in saying he is missing out, but so is your mum. everyone is.
Be positive and happy.
2007-10-05 03:03:44 · answer #6 · answered by Captain Banana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I wouldn't call her anymore and just show her that you and your child can go on without her, (but don't tell her that) and also, maybe you are coming on a little to strong with you wanting your Mother and your child to be close. Then, later she will end up calling you, mark my word. Let things fall into place by thereselve without trying to force it and rush it. The ball is in her corner now, lets see if she rolls it back to you ;). Good Luck!
I hope that was helpful!
2007-10-05 03:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't know what type of relationship you and your mom have had in the past. But, one thing is for sure... Life is short. Whatever disagreements or reason that you and her have, please set it aside. I can't think of anything that should cause a parent and child not to be civil. Call her, apologize, and move on.
2007-10-05 02:59:02 · answer #8 · answered by sthrnsfnst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has the disagreement been resolved? I agree with most people here, swallow your pride and call her.
2007-10-05 02:59:13 · answer #9 · answered by Jessie H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of talking to her on the phone go and see her without your son so that you can work things out. If things work out between you immediately set up a time for her to see him. Maybe invite her to dinner that night or weekend?? Good Luck!! Mothers are a pain, but we'd be lost without them
2007-10-05 02:59:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋