I have been in a relationship with this guy since June and it got serious pretty quick. He is 10 years older than me. He gives me mixed signals ALL the time. He tells me he is happy and is falling in love with me, but there are alot of issues:
1. We have completely different sex drives. I always initiate everything, kissing, hugging, sex you name it.
2. He never sacrifices anything... I come up with an idea to do something that I really want to do and he says no, but I do EVERYTHING he wants to do. Even if I hate it.
3. He ignores me all the time. He will ask me to come over and then sit in front of the t.v. for 3 hours watching football. I didn't come over to watch football!
4. He doesn't want to have kids or get married anytime soon.... Like 7 years. I don't want to wait that long.
Yes I have talked to him about these things and it hasn't changed anything. Talking to him doesn't help. We have fought and almost broken up about these things. The problem is I love him!
2007-10-05 02:39:49 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow..real love there!! Dump him. He doesn't love you. You're more of an object than a person. It doesn't even aknowledge you're around.
Love is love plain and simple and you're not being shown any whatsoever. You need to get out and find someone who is going to appreciate you and your likes and dislikes. Someone who is on the same path in life as you. And someone who can compromise.
You need to get out of this relationship before you're stuck in it...
2007-10-05 02:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not being flip when I ask, what do you love about this guy? He doesn't have the same sex drive, he is disrespectful, he doesn't have the same goals or interests...He will not sacrifice to the point of almost breaking up? Sounds to me like he is not a good match for you. Don't waste any more of your life on a man who doesn't want what you want.
LIFE IS SHORT! It might not seem that way now but let me tell you sister, it is!
2007-10-05 02:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by disturbed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably don't want my advice cause i would tell you to get out now!!! i wasted 4 years because i love a guy and nothing ever changed and still hasn't! i still love him but it seems like love isn't enough anymore! you have to decide if you can love him for who he is cause hes never going to change.weigh out the pros and cons and then decide if the relationship is really worth it! good luck
2007-10-05 02:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by lottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck hon, if you were an outsider reading your question what would you think? Sometimes love hurts but only you can decide what you want and what you need. If you aint getting it then you have to do yourself a favour and get out and get on with your life, it isn't gonna drop in your lap, hugs m8
2007-10-05 03:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by ditzynomates 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like another one- way love relationship. It used to be called slave & master!. There is no future for you in the situation that you are in ---- Remember LOVE = RESPECT but you are just being used !. There are lots of really nice guys around, looking for a nice girl like you, so ------MOVE ON !.
2007-10-05 02:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a guy and i cant even defend this guy's crap although if you really love him...think of what u love/like about him?? then ask yourself if that is worth putting up with his bull!! if it isn't you know what to do...trust me maybe you will be happier with someone else who respects and treats you better, and who wants in life what you want! There is the perfect someone for everyone...remember that...haha
2007-10-05 02:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by Zappa911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how did things get so serious with all this going on and all of the thing that you both have different opinion's about.your two different people i think its lust not love .back up reevaluate the whole thing.
2007-10-05 02:49:07 · answer #7 · answered by mr. y 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if you love him enough to be treated this way, and if you do, ask him how he reacts to you confronting him with a force, on how you feel about him, tell him you want to be with him, but if he doesn't change then maybe he isn't worth it.
2007-10-05 02:45:31 · answer #8 · answered by Seraphic Radiance 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he doesn't appriciate you and takes you for granted. I understand that you are in love, but you should be with somebody who is on the same page with you, you deserve someone who makes you so happy. You have only been in the relationship since June, are you sure its love?
You said talking to him doesn't help. What did you say when you talked to him? Did you have his full attention? Does he understand just HOW much this is bothering you?
I don't know much about this situation, but he sounds very selfish. It is hard to be in a one-way relationship.
I know you don't want to break up so my ultimate advice to you would be to keep talking to him about these things. Ask him if something is bothering him that would make him act this way. Explain to him that if he wants things to work, it takes an effort on both sides, not just one. All you can really do is keep talking to him and hope that something you say sinks in. And remember, you deserve someone who is as thrilled with you as you are with them. Good Luck!
2007-10-05 02:53:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will NOT be able to change him. Its a package deal. If the bad outwieghs the good, you need to think about other options or just lose yourself.
2007-10-05 02:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋