My brother recently got married and had a child. They were only dating a little less than a year before they had gotten pregnant. Of course my mom, being that this was her first grandchild, was SUPER EXCITED. She has done everything for them, we have all tried to help them out as much as we could wit hthe baby and their new apartment.
Before my brother met her, my mother had all of our cars under her name in the insurance. Even with my brothers bad track record of accidents, she still helped him out and insured it under her name. Now he is married and his wife doesn't have a valid NY state license. My mother has asked her on MANY occasions if she has a license, and she told my mother yes. Finally my mom asked my brother to show her the license and my brother called my mother back and basically said that she didnt have one.
My mom flipped out, if she would've gotten into an accident with out a license my mom could have lost evertyhting she owns, which isnt much to begin with.
2007-10-05 02:38:36 · 10 answers · asked by AngryFalafel 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So now they are mad at my mom from taking the car away from them. YEs, they have the baby to take care of but my brother also has a company vehicle and she just quit her job which i dont know why when they are barely making scraping by. So nw she stays home and takes care of the baby. Her mom isn't paying for a car for them so they think its my moms "JOB" as a mother to help them out. Now tehy wont talk to my mom unless tehy get an apology.
Does anyone else find this to be wrong? or am i just missing something and seeing this the wrong way?
2007-10-05 02:40:00 · update #1
KAT G- your right, and that is what we keep telling her. If she always does for them, they will always expect it. She did get the car taken away and she has now sold it to the junkyard. thank you all for your help!
2007-10-05 03:05:24 · update #2
the grl needs to take and get her license and needs to grow up its not ur moms responsobility to take care of them!!!!!if she was nice enough to get them a car then they shouldve had enough respect to atleast have a driving license be4 driving it
2007-10-05 03:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by jesse m_violated for nothing 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to deal with a mom that helps you out then pulls the support away. What if the baby gets sick or the girl needs diapers for the child. It is a sad feeling knowing you can't even drive to the store.
With that said, maybe she needed help getting a new DL. Maybe they didn't have the money. I think your mom or you should ask your brother more about the this.
Think about how terrible the new mom must feel now.
2007-10-05 02:51:58 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as if your mom has done a lot for all her children. Your brother is in the pattern that mom will always bail him out. His drivers license is bad, she insures his car, he has a baby, mom will do everything for them. So, she created this what do you expect.
Tell your sister in law to go take her permit test and get a drivers license. I don't think you or your mom realize that by "her insuring all of your cars under her name due to every ones track record" that is insurance fraud. They do not have to pay a claim for an undisclosed operator or pending state she can do jail time. If your mom is worrying about loosing everything then she would not be looking to scam to save a few bucks.
Children learn by example, don't expect your brother to walk the straight and narrow when he is only doing what he seer's his parents do.
2007-10-05 02:56:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She would have been in trouble if your brother got into an accident, too.
If he isn't listed as a driver (and I assume he wasn't or the insurance rates wouldn't have been any lower) and he'd wrecked the car, your mom would have been in a world of trouble.
It was wrong of them to lie to your mother about the wife having a license. It was also wrong of her to lie to the insurance company and do sneaky, underhanded things for the sake of saving them money.
If he had hit someone else's car, the insurance company wouldn't have covered him- whoever he hit would have paid hell to get any kind of reimbursement for damages. It could have been you, me, or someone else with a kid.
Now a pregnant woman has no way to get around and a soon to be father has no way to get back and forth to work.
She can't hang that over their heads forever. She needs to put THEIR car in THEIR name and let THEM insure it. Just like she should have done a long time ago.
2007-10-05 02:45:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi...
If a person drives a car, they are responsible for their license... and if they get into a wreck without a license, well, it's THEIR OWN FAULT not your mom's...
but, i'd have taken the car away too, or else signed it over to the son in the first place, so it wasn't in my name.
your brother is going to have to stand up someday and pay his own insurance, high rates or not.
i hope things work out for your family. it's rediculous for your brother and his wife to be upset with your mom... it wasn't your mom who drove without the license!
take care.
2007-10-05 02:52:28 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep, your brother and his wife need to be grown-ups. Unfortunately, your mom babied him too much. Suddenly pulling the "bottle out of his mouth" is causing problems. But it had to be done. Moms right ( better late than never). Bro needs to grow up.
2007-10-05 06:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by undone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They sound extremely immature. They owe your Mom an apology not the other way around. They lied to her, took advantage of her and put everything she has in jeopardy. They've got some nerve and a lot of growing up to do.
2007-10-05 02:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by Choqs 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They shouldnt have lied to your mom in the first place she did it to help them out and out of the kindness of her heart she doesnt owe them anything they are 2 grown adults! She couldve been honest and gone to get her lisence and everything wouldve been fine they owe your mom an apology! Its not her job to suppy them with a car and insurance they should feel ashamed of themselves thats my opinion food luck
2007-10-05 02:47:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
to avoid all that mess.. i would have just taken her butt down to the DMV to get a license
but they have no right to be angry. I would tell your mother to tell them if THIS is the thanks she gets after helping out so much.. she wont make the mistake of helping out again.
2007-10-05 02:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by *DiZzLe* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its very wrong
your mom is ignore them & never talk to them again until they realize they mistake
2007-10-05 02:56:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋