ALCOHOLIC MOM Won't STOP! PLEASE HELP!!!!!!?

Question

Hey guys i'm at breaking point school started like 30mins ago. i meant to be there today but basically my mom is an alcoholic. she's really ill and she doesn't really seem to care about me. my older brothers 19 and he moved out because mom is too violent and is always telling him to go and buy alchohol for her because he's like 6"3 and so looks over 21. please help. whenevr i say i'm going to school she just tells me that i probably won't see her when i come back. i'm really started to believe she doesn't care about me as she would stop drinking right. i don't want to give up on her but i'm really starting to dislike her. she's telling me she's going to die soon and she doesn't mind, she just keeps talking about how she's going to heaven, and that its better and that she has nothing ot lose. i don't have any family i can talk except like one aunty but she lives in new jersey and i live all the way in houston, tx, plus there life is great and all their kids are perfect.

I'm a senior taking 3 AP courses and i need to pass them so i can graduate and go to college but all of this stuffis waying me down and i haven't been in school lately because i'm scared my mom is going to kill herself. I just am lost guys for real.

thanks guys for all those who answered, really appreciated. i'll try and do some of the things you guys suggested. i just want her to get better so bad.

Answer 1

Hi hon.. i am terribly sorry you are struggling, and i know how devistated you feel... i was raised in an alcoholic home, too.

Unfortunately the cold truth is, the most important thing in your mom's life right now is alcohol... it's NOT your fault, and you can NOT fix your mother. She is the one who has to decide to go to rehab or get the help she needs.

Meanwhile, you really need to learn to take care of YOU... i have listed website links for Alanon and Adult Children of Alcoholics, which are support groups for those of us whose lives have been affected by an alcoholic.

Please consider attending meetings - people there are living the same things you are -- you'll be surpised to find out you are NOT alone... I have listed websites for both support groups below, and you can find information about how to locate meetings in your area on the sites.

When we are raised in an alcoholic home, we tend to become ill, too.... and need help. We weren't raised normally, and tend to become codependent, needy and desparate (with good reason). So we really need help to "recover" from our life experiences.

I hope YOU will get help for yourself. And, if you have a school counselor, please make an effort to talk with them. Sometimes a counselor can help point us in a good direction, and may have positive suggestions for help. That is what the counselor is there for, hon.

And i want you to know something -- your Aunty may have a nice family, but believe me, no family is 100% perfect. If you feel as if you can talk with your Aunt, then give her a call. If your Aunt and Mom are sisters, your Aunt might want to know how ill your Mom is?

I'm sending hugs and love your way.

Answer 2

your sit really suk's. I have a friend who is an alcoholic too, so i feel you.

You have to realize some things. Alcoholism is a disease and you can't cure it. she needs treatment. her saying things about death is just a result of the chemical, depression, acting out violently, not seeming to care about anyone are all typical signs. she cares about you, I'm sure, but you can't fight something that has no feelings. I'm talkin about the alcohol. don't give up on her, but don't play in to her either. you can't be a crutch. i'm sure there are AA groups that offer support for you in your area, talk to your guidence counsler at school, ask your autie to make some calls on your behalf, to remove you from that sit, and get your mom some help. if you do nothing about it, no one will. I know you are young but you can see that something is not right, so maybe you should take the initiative.

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Answer 3

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Answer 4

man you sure need your education I think I would just talk to her and tell her that if she cant buckle down unleast until you get out of the house that you are gonna talk to other familiy members to see if you can stay with them until you graduate..Being s that she is an alcoholic this hard to help them unless thay want help for them self..you could suggest a 3 day detox center for her and they will give her a list of places she can get counceling but at this point she would go kicking an screaming...your brother has got to STOP getting her liquor for her he is aiding her.

Answer 5

You don't seem to have a problem admitting this stuff to anonymous people, so say something to a guidance counsellor at school. your mom can still go to alchoholics anonymous and you can go to alateen for help alateen is completely confidential and can work with you to achieve your goals.

Good luck!

Answer 6

i want you to know that you are not alone and people arw going through the same situation.

you should move out with an aunt or friend or grandparents, so you can have study time that you need.

also have you discussed this issue qith your mother?
if you have and you havnt seen any differance seek profetional help.

Answer 7

Hey there, im very sorry for you.
well, you can try to talk to your mom about how you feel. and you go to church and pray to God. Trust me. and maybe you should let her go to a rehab center. Be positive. Have some 'mom and me' time. if she doesn;t listen then you should scold her. not really scream. but cry and let your feelings out. if you know comeone who you can relate to then talk to him or her. keep praying to God and study hard! listen to what i said. :) GOD BLESS YOUR FAMILY!