What should I do?

Question

My sister and my mom always argued all the time. Ok, sometimes it is my sister's fault that she said she is going to do the dishes but she didn't so my mom yelled at her. Sometimes, my mom yelled at her for doing nothing wrong. I just got a headache from this. Help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

talk to ur mom abd if that doesn't work every time they fight just leave the room

Answer 2

I know that this is all hard to take right now. It may be difficult, but try to keep the perspective that this situation is normal and temporary.

My mom and sister used to fight a lot, and I was sensitive to it. I would try to convince them both to try to get along, see each other's point of view, etc. This never worked, because what was happening was between them, and had nothing to do with me.

There is also the factor that it is natural for adolescents/young adults to rebel against parents, that's part of the growth process.

Of course, having the perspective that this is all temporary in the scheme of things does not help your headache NOW. If you have already talked to your mom about how the arguing is affecting you, maybe talk to a counselor at school or a trusted adult friend. Talking to one's peers also helps vent your feelings.

Finally, there might be many reasons that your mom yells so much. Raising kids is hard, especially if your mom is a single parent. You never mentioned a father - but if your dad is in the picture, and you have a good relationship with him, of course he is also one to talk with.

Answer 3

My mom and I have issues like that. My brother had the same question you did. Have you tried talking to either your mom or sister about it? Maybe you could try just talking to your mom - about anything. Just see how she's feeling about stuff - eventually she'll probably get around to your sister in the conversation. That's when you may want to say something about how your sister makes goofy mistakes or doesn't realize she's done something to make your mom mad - even if it's really nothing. Then talk to your sister about the conversation you had with mom - that'll be easier, I should guess. Maybe that will help you all to know how to help each other. ^_^

Answer 4

I would get my Mom in a good mood and then tell her how you feel but do it in a diplomatic manner. This is an emotional situation and you will need to be real careful. Start with the basics as in..." Mom , I love you but your arguing with (sister) is causing me to be unhappy. Add that you know mainly its the fault of the sister but also include how it affects everyone in the family.

Good Luck

Answer 5

i think if you have healthy communication you can talk to at least one of them (the one you find most level headed) and let them know that its driving you crazy. have an input sometimes make them know that they're being silly and should settle down and try to talk to each other instead of aggravating the situation by yelling because it never solves anything. you may feel silly but it will help. if you realize that your sister is procrastinating and it will soon cause a problem remind her to avoid it. if you hear your mom complaining wrongly let her know she's wrong so they don't start anything. maybe if you step in as common ground things may simmer down and eventually they'll start looking before they leap.i really hope this helps u cuz i know how u feel. take care.

Answer 6

This happens in my household too. Only usually it's coz my sister forgot to do something.... She's so forgetful. You need to continually remind your sister to do the things she promised. If I know Mum's going to come home from work and yell at her because she left her art things all over the floor I'll tell my sister, "put those things away, Mum will yell". Sometimes it works. Sometimes it doesn't. You need to tell your sister how this makes you feel.

Answer 7

When your mom tells your sister to do the dishes but doen't do it, try telling her "Mom will get mad if you don't do the dishes and I don't want you to get in trouble," there's a possibility that she'll listen to you.
If they are in the middle of fighting just try and break it up and say how you feel about them always fighting. Your mom will do what all moms do and try and work it out. If she doesn't, you'll do the honors of working it out.
email me if you have any other problems. :)
-teenripa

Answer 8

i'm in sorta the same place but it's my dad yelling at me just try talking to your mom and tell her to lighten up or not to yell and much you could even throw a lil scare like if you keep this up i might go into depression that worked for me hope i helped

Answer 9

my family is fighting all the time, the best thing 2 do really is just 2 get away from it all. go outside, listen 2 some music, talk 2 friends. whatever reason their fighting, it's their problem. no need 2 make it yours. and if u don't get away, they'll drive you crazy! trust me. good luck!

Answer 10

Hi there
In my opinion, dont take sides. Sit them both down and speak to them. it is amazing what communication can do in any relationship.Get them to speak to each other, once they voice there feelings and opinions it will be easier for them to help each and see things from each others point of view.
Above all love them both unconditionally and equally!

Answer 11

Tell your mom how you feel. If this doesn't help, walk away and do something else when this is going on.