Ok, look at her behaviour. Please tell me what you think:
She has a friend (guy)..theyve chatted for months.
She seems attracted to him..compliments him and once invited her travelling with her (he couldnt go)
She told her she'd fallen for her on chat one day
They met short while later and got physical..not everything
She never discussed her feelings with him
He contacted her to suggest meet up, she didnt reply but..
She then contacted him few days later..no mention of meet up..
just friendly but said she would travel to visit him but didnt know when
Is this normal behaviour? It seems to show signs of emotional immaturity, instability or avoidance of reality (shes mid 20s). What do you think? ps. they live in different cities..distance.
2007-10-05 02:01:39 · 25 answers · asked by this girl wants to know 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
The woman isn't mentally ill at all. She's just caught up in cyber world.
2007-10-05 02:06:34 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Sally Anne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well i'd say that after the "physical relations" she has possibly realised she doesnt want to take it any further so it still being friendly and polite slowly trying to distance herself.
On the other hand she is scared of committment?
On the other hand she could have been busy and does still like you (im guessing its you because it blatantly sounded like it!).
The worst thing you can do is chase her and seem clingy. Play it cool. Dont mention her visiting you or meeting up. Just casually drop her a line in a few days (at least Monday). Just say you hope she had a nice weekend. say you were really busy (even if its a lie) and just say you hope she's well. And leave it at that. She's more likely to respond if you give her a bit of space and dont look too eager.
Good luck
p.s. i dont think she's mentally ill. People are allowed to be scared of jumping into relationships, or allowed to change their mind!
2007-10-05 02:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by bexjane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is enough information. Maybe she's afraid of a new relationship, or afraid that the guy isn't really who he claims to be, or so many other things. He should take it slow and let her get comfortable. It's probably not a mental illness but rather just fear of something. Who knows? Just keep in touch with her, she's obviously still talking to him so there is some interest. He may not know enough about her past, it sounds to me that something is pushing her back but he has to find out what that is. Maybe she's just struggling with whether a long distance relationship would really work. It could be many things. Give it time, get to know her more and you'll find out.
2007-10-05 03:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 08:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmm I see what you mean. Sounds like she is making excuses , me & my partner live in different cities but that don't stop me going to see him or other way round. Maybe the guy should try cutting the strings & just tell her he aint interested , that might make her think whether she wants him or not , sounds like she is keeping him at arms length for some reason. Yeh if I was him I would just come forward & ask her straight out what is she playing at , he shouldnt be messed about.
2007-10-05 05:43:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she does love him truly if she ever shows up to him......
it depends on that only dear.....
if she goes to meet him then she really loves him ......but if she just is faking it up then she will never turn up.........
and more over the way she is reacting to the guy about the meeting depends on various situations around her tooo....for example....if her parents and relatives are forcing her away from him then she cannot say anything of how she will meet him or whether she will meet at all at that particular point of time when he asked her......that shouldnt be counted for instability or immaturity dear....and neither avoidence of reality....for she has to see the situations around her too for meeting him.....
that can be the main reason for her avoidence when he might have asked....but later she says she wanna meet....that means she took it seriously about their meeting...that means that she is serious about him....
so the only thing that can decide this out is her meeting with him........
2007-10-05 03:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by julianavlon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this sounds exactly like the question I read earlier, thing is it was the guy that was acting like this. I think it is something that both the guy and girl need to sit down and discuss together. Maybe they are just interested in being friends. I wouldn't say that either one was mentally ill.
2007-10-05 03:35:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the on-line chat went well, woman falls for bloke, they meet up, things get a bit carried away, but then woman decides he's not the one and tries to let him down gently.
No, this doesn't make her mentally ill!
2007-10-05 02:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by Sparkles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man we are talking about is you I think. Your lady sounds a bit moody. Perhaps at this moment in time she is not ready for heavy relationship and just wants friendship. She actually may be thinking of your feelings and doesn't want to hurt you, so it comes over she is not interested. It is up to you to find out all this.
2007-10-05 06:47:29 · answer #9 · answered by Sally Anne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Billy Joel wrote a song - Honesty, is such a lonely word, everyone is so untrue. Seems to me that it's getting harder to tell who is real and who is fake. I don't think she's mentally ill, confused maybe. Let her go, there's plenty of people out there who know what they want.
2007-10-05 02:17:34 · answer #10 · answered by YoMick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably realized that she didn't like your friend so much after meeting. He may not have lived up to her expectations of who she thought he would be in person. Or she simply lost interest.
No big deal, move on, find someone else.
2007-10-05 02:15:27 · answer #11 · answered by say what 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋