We were very close and I always bailed her out. Her dad is a drunk and she always uses her dad as an excuse and play victim, she used me for transportation, money and she dumped all her emotional problems on me and always making me feel underserving cos I'm from a better family background. I was attracted to this guy but she secretly was sleeping with him and yet in a twisted way she even encouraged me to be with him like making it into a sick soap opera, I was really hurt when I found out after she left. She lied to my face and I even paid for her abortion which she lied again with all her sob stories. Then she left to work in another city after getting a loan from me, I really feel stupid cos she promised to pay back but then got angry when I asked her for the money. I still feel like a fool whenever I was reminded of what she did. Now she is saying that she has changed and making it sound like I am the BAD one! I really hate her and I want her to pay for she did! Any suggestions??
2007-10-05 01:29:02 · 8 answers · asked by Teddy G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you harbor bitterness and seek vengeance you will only hurt yourself. The worst thing you can do to this woman is keep her out of your life. Obviously, she has she relied on you to bail her out of some awful situations. You were a loyal friend, dont become a bitter enemy, you should strive to be a happy and balanced person. Learn form the experience and move on. As the saying goes, what comes around, goes around...she will get hers in the end. The best revenge is happiness and success. Turn your bitterness into something productive, its much healthier emotionally, and you will feel better. Maybe you can be a volunteer at a local charity. Think positive!
2007-10-05 01:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by MissBarcelona 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all.....don't ever feel stupid for the crap that other people pull. She is the bad guy for all the stuff that she has pulled on you.
It sounds like you were a good supportive friend. There is never any shame in being a good friend, even when the other party clearly does not deserve it.
You are the better person. Don't even give her another thought.
What goes around, comes around. She will get what is coming to her naturally. I have lived long enough to know that this is a universal law.....
2007-10-05 01:38:57 · answer #2 · answered by conim2002 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's the one that didn't hold up her end of the bargain here...
I've had friends like that and believe me.. with friends like her you don't need enimies!
Anyways, if you can get financial statements from your bank(and you probably can) I think you could go as far as suing her for what she's done. Do what you have to do... nevermind the emotional damages (although some courts will hold emotional/mental abuse charges) if all you want is your money back, she can,will be forced to pay you by the court of law! She used you for money! A lot of cases the judge will want to know if ther were any other damages done such as emotional/distress, mental distress, and she can be charged a monetary fee for what she did. You need a good lawyer, and tell your lawyer what she did and you have the financial records to prove it... and if she thinks she's gonna get back in your life to mess things up again... too bad! I know it sound harsh and rash to do this ... if you choose to prove to her you're not friends anymore this can be fixed!
2007-10-05 03:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by don't be a hater 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, i have a suggestion -- stop giving and giving and giving!!!
you give too much... and others know it... so they prey upon you. stop stop stop!!!! i'm sure you don't look like a walking ATM card, so stop acting like one!!
hon, your friend who has a drunken dad has emotional problems. anyone who was raised in an alcoholic home has a lot of issues, and they can't help it... but that doesn't mean you have to give them money or pay for their abortions or let them use you..
and also, no one can MAKE YOU FEEL anything you are not inclined to feel -- and they can't use you unless you LET THEM use you.
Hating your friend because you let her use you is a little rediculous.
Try therapy... i think that you might consider finding out why you feel the need to give and let others walk all over you... please take care of YOU... and let others take care of their own stuff.
hugs
2007-10-05 03:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Best way to get back at her is to turn your back on her forever and move on. Don't waste your time or energy on her. She knows she has lost a good friend that's why she wants to come back into your life again. Your not stupid !! your just a kind and giving person, and she is just one messed up person.
2007-10-05 01:39:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't exactly force her to 'pay'. The best thing that you could do is confront her on this and tell her that you won't be able to help her out anymore. Cut it all off if you hate her.
2007-10-05 01:37:10 · answer #6 · answered by DARIA. - JOINED MAY 2006 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When you hate you only hurt yourself. Having said that, I would forgive and put her out of my life. The basis of friendship is trust, I don't think she's a trustworthy person.
Brigid
2007-10-05 01:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by Brigid 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
so what your saying ....it that you were a friend to her up until you found out about this guy who played the both of you....now its her fault.....never fails....how a guy will always come between to females........get over it already and for get about all that ....its all in the past .....learn from what happen and be glade she's not around anymore
2007-10-05 01:41:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋