Were having my daughters birthday at a place that has limited space. Would it be rude to write "Limited space: No siblings please", they are going to be sent out to all the children in my daughters preschool class. I say it is, my wife says it isn't.
2007-10-05 01:19:44 · 13 answers · asked by Hooligan 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You shouldn't have to write that on the invitation. Only the child whose name is on the invitation is invited, unless you specify otherwise.
2007-10-05 01:26:40 · answer #1 · answered by Theresa 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
You are correct. That is rude.
Many times, when a child is going to a classmate's birthday party, parents will drop the invited child off and take the other one somewhere else. It is considered rude to crash a party and insisting that a child's sibling attend is rude. However, if the parent has to stay at the party with their child, then siblings must be allowed because that would be asking the parent in question to hire a babysitter for the sibling(s) and that can get pretty expensive.
Furthermore, specifying that a child's siblings are not wanted is inviting trouble. Not only does it make the child's siblings feel bad, it makes the parents angry. If "limited space: No siblings please" is on the invitations, don't be surprised if very few kids show up and you have extra space.
I know that when I was younger and my brother was invited to a classmate's party, the kid's parent made a big deal about no siblings allowed. Even though my mother was planning to take me to a movie while my brother was at the party, she was offended that one of her children was being purposefully excluded and ended up taking both of us to a movie instead. She found out later on that all the other parents were offended and did similar things. I think only three kids showed up at that party and they were all children who had no siblings.
2007-10-05 09:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by Avie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, let me tell ya. In the old days BBP (before birthday parties), I would have said yes, it's rude, because since the invitation is made out to only one child, then the parents will know they don't just dump their kids on ya.
Now, PBP (Post birthday parties), I would say no, and not only that, but it's probably necessary. I can't count the number of parents who felt the need to "just bring little Felicity along" because her brother was a friend, and she didn't want him feeling left out. Doesn't matter that she isn't a friend herself, but her brother is, so that's supposed to be good enough. Not to mention that the games weren't designed for siblings of all ages, but rather, the ages of the invited children, who are more than likely all close to your daughter's age...
AND when you're handing out goodie bags or playing pass the parcel, are you expected to then have enough to go around for everyone?
Speaking from experience, if it's on the invitation, then no one can call "unfairsies" on you on the day as they try to drop off both kids, since you made it quite clear on the invite. Just make sure it's in big enough print, and not phrased badly (actually, saying "Limited space" is nice), and you'll be fine. Believe me, if you don't, then you'll have more than you bargained for at the party!!
2007-10-05 10:03:34 · answer #3 · answered by LJG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it's rude. Who's name is on the invitation...your daughter's friend or your daughter's friends AND siblings? I think it is rude for people to bring their other children to a birthday party they were not invited to. I would understand completely if someone were to request that on an invitation.
Hope that helps! Good luck!
2007-10-05 10:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by Leah R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt think that is rude. I have been to parties like that. Usually, whena child is invited to a party, you bring just that child and without a sibling. Sometimes that is difficult on the guest's parent, especially if the child is under 2. You might get a lower response if you did mention no silbings.
2007-10-05 08:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by Sadeae 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think any well-mannered parents understand only the children in the "class" are invited, not any siblings. when they rsvp you should mention there is limited space and a nice way to say that is..."we're so glad little Lisa can come to the party!" (specifically naming the one child.)
and last, but the most important; no worries, HAVE FUN!!
2007-10-05 08:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by Beth 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should put the person you want to attend making a note there is limited space only and not saying others are not welcome is the way i would take it! Good Luck~
2007-10-05 08:50:19 · answer #7 · answered by fox 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
R people that stupid? They would actually bring their other kids?
They are the rude ones! You ONLY bring the Child that was invited!!!
2007-10-05 13:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by chicklione 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. And if it turns off the parents, screw them. Their probably thinking it's going to be a free baby sitting session and then they'll send the whole famn damily over to raise heck.
2007-10-05 08:30:22 · answer #9 · answered by Officer Uggh 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
sounds perfectly fine to me
its better to tell them there is limited space , rather than have kids outside screaming to get in
all the best
Ian
2007-10-05 08:27:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋