Before my daughter was born, me and my son (who is 4 now) liked to eat out alot. My husband was deployed in the military. I always got strange looks from people though like I was a single mom and had no right to eat in a nice resturant with my kid and no man. It was enough to make me stop going out alone with the kids. Ever happened to you?
2007-10-05 00:54:59 · 11 answers · asked by honeybear 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think my children are nice company. They behave themselves in public, don't yell or cry.
2007-10-05 00:56:02 · update #1
When my husband came home from the deployment we went to this one resturant together and the waitress actually had the nerve to tell me she was wondering where "daddy" was.
2007-10-05 01:07:12 · update #2
No, it hasn't happened to me, but I support your right to do this. You are being good to yourself and your children.
What I want to remind you is that what other people think is irrelevant to who you and your children are, and what kind of people you are. Anyone who would look down on you for taking your child or children out to supper is small minded and bigoted. That doesn't change the fact that you're a loving mother enjoying supper with well behaved child(ren).
They actually might be thinking other things than what you believe they are thinking, so don't worry about what they think. Don't let anyone stop you from the nice things you are doing for yourself and your child(ren).
2007-10-05 01:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was a single mom till this past July my daughter is now 9. Even now and when she was younger, we would go out and eat. I just glared back at people or asked them if they would like something. There were several times I thought of brining a poloroid out with me and taking a pic of me and my daughter then handing them the pic.
As for the waitress well I know one that wouldn't be getting a tip from me or any meember of my family.
Don't worry what other people think.
As for childfree places, unless the door says childfree, no such thing. As long as the kid isn't screaming their head off or running through the ailes. I take my daughter and will take this new baby anywhere we chose to eat, I'm paying for the food and nice dining expereince don't like looking at my kids then you can leave.
2007-10-05 04:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by his wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, to the lady above me, does it actually say no children allowed on the door come on now! She is paying for a nice meal too!
Hey listen, don't worry what other people think, just go out with your kids and have a good time, if someone gives you a dirty look just smile and wave! That will really tick them off! Or you can simply laugh and say that your husband is away and it's just you and the kids out for a nice evening! Don't worry about it!
2007-10-05 01:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by Born Country 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i hear ya there. being a military wife myself i know the looks you are talking about. try having TWINS and doing that. my husband was in iraq for valentines day and my children (they were 8 at the time) and myself went to lonestar steak house for dinner. i had all kinds of stares and looks. i might as well put a sign on my chest. i have dined out with the kids many times at all ages with/without hubby. try and keep your head high and be proud of who/what you are. raise your son to be that way too. My children are also very well behaved and i/we have been complimented on how well they do behave in resturaunts. Keep up the good work, and know you are NOT alone. Some days you just want to scream at people "no i am not a single mom with 2 children, my husband is away fighting for his country, and im here fighting for my sanity".
to the answerer that says "people are paying for a nice quiet meal without THEIR children" i say this to you. Military wives are not afforded that luxury. When your husband is away it is all you. you are the mom, the dad, the babysitter, etc. we do not have the luxury of NOT taking our children out to dinner. and some of us can look at our children (and see it in their eyes) and be reminded of our spouse. When you are a military wife you are sometimes away from family/friends and hundreds of miles away at a base. if i want to take my children to a TOP $$$ resturaunt i will. I mean isnt that what my husband is fighting for to begin with, OUR FREEDOM to do what we want. and if it is posted on the door "no children" i would NOT go in, i would not give them my money for dinner, and i would be sure to tell EVERYONE not to either.
2007-10-05 02:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by ladydye_5 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah this used to happen to me when my husband was deployed too. I have two well behaved, well mannered little girls and people would look at us strange. I thought at first I was just being parnoid but it was happening a lot. People just treated us differently all the time which was really frustrating. I don't need someone judging me. You just keep doing what you're doing and forget those boneheads, as long as you aren't hurting anyone it is none of their business.
2007-10-05 01:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by Kristin C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I also take my kids to nice restaurants. You have nothing to be ashamed about. If your son has nice manners and behaves well during dinner, then who cares what other people think. I think it is a great way to teach him. Maybe the people looking at you are just surprised that your son is so well behaved.
You keep doing what you are doing and have fun!
2007-10-05 01:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it has happened to me
I have a newborn and 3 step children and people always stare at me as if I'm a loser for not having a husband or not having a man with this children (they assume that there all my children)
Then they also look at me and think wow she's too young to be having 4 kids already?
Why do people judge?
they need to mind there own business and worry about THEIR kids not ours!!
good luck and just shrug it off..
no need to ruin your fun with your children over people who do not know a thing!
2007-10-05 01:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by jeanettelynng 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never behaved like that, yet certain, now days mothers and fathers do enable it take position. I used to waitress at a bistro, and that i heard the mum of a p.c.. of screaming little banshees tell one of her acquaintances "Who cares, they're payed to clean up our mess." when we were youthful and were taken out for tea, my sister and that i'd sit and quietly eat our meal and if there replaced into an indoor playground at the position we were eating, we'd want to in a polite way ask if lets pass play. all of us replaced into chuffed, and we commonly were given a lolly from the staff or the manager because we were the perfect behaved children there.
2016-10-20 05:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by gayman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe children should go everywhere with their parents, I think its good practice. However, when it comes to nice resturants, people are paying a lot of money for a quiet, child free environment. A lot of those people are out on a quiet evening without their own kids, and having to listen to any child, no matter how quiet, takes their attention away.
Ive never done it, i might go for a lunch to a nice place with my son, but not for dinner. I'd go instead to a chain, like TGIF's or applebees or something.
But thats just me personally.
2007-10-05 01:04:20 · answer #9 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋
NO, THIS HAS NEVER HAPPENED TO ME. IF THIS EVER HAPPENS TO YOU AGAIN I WOULD SUGGEST THAT YOU GIVE THEM A MEAN, DIRTY, AND SNIDE LOOK AS IF TO SAY WHAT THE HECK ARE YOU LOOKING AT?. SOME PEOPLE ARE SO IGNORANT UNTIL THEY JUST WITH ENVY HAHA!! DON'T LET THIS GET TO YOU, CONTINUE TO GO OUT AND ENJOY TIME WITH YOUR KIDS BECAUSE THEY ARE THE ONES THAT MATTER.
I HOPE THIS HELPS!!
2007-10-05 01:03:13 · answer #10 · answered by msverychocolate 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋