anyones help would be good.thanks,and we weren't really close either.
2007-10-05 00:39:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am so sorry about your loss, it is never easy to lose a parent to death, no matter how close you were. It is natural to think of death after a loss, it makes you think of your own life. It has been only a month, and sometimes it takes a while to start to feel yourself again, but if the feelings stay with you for longer than a couple of months, I'd talk to your doctor.
2007-10-05 00:43:42 · answer #1 · answered by WVPV07 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is certainly normal what you are going through. some people blame god for death, and therefore find no hope or comfort in praying to him, and can only ask why. But it wasn't God that made your dad die, it is Satan. Rom. 5:12 tells us that "....through one man death passed on to all men." So it began in the Garden of Eden. But the hope that the Bible gives is, "......a resurrection of both the rightoues and and unrightoues." It is possible to see your dad again, here on a paradised earth after god does away with all the wickedness. (Ps. 37:11)
I am sorry I started talking about the Bible, but this was my comfort and answers after my dad passed. However, what you are feeling right now is normal grief. In the grieving process, there is 7 stages of grief, and this process can go on as long as 2-3 years before it is completed. However, it could last 6 months, for everyone it is different. Go to the library and read up on the grieving process, so you will know within yourself where you are with your grief, or get counseling from a grief counselor.
2007-10-05 08:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by Ikeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to grieve for some one who has passed. However how we cope differ from person to person. I know when a friend of mine passed away suddenly from a car wreck all I could do was cry for three days. Asking God "Why? Why? Why!" I know every time I have to go to a wake I begin to feel anger building up inside. The closer to the time to leave to go to the wake the anger boils higher. Oh I do not express the emotion I can just feel it hinder me. I have come to conclusion that the reason I feel this way is because allot of things in life are optional. We can chose to do it or chose not too. Yet death is the only thing that we all have to face at one time or other. There is no getting around it. Do not let the thoughts of death over whelm you. It is there lingering in the shadows of this world but we do not have to let it be our main thoughts. Every morning when you wake up speak out loud "I am so thankful to be alive. I am going to enjoy this beautiful wonderful day." Do this every day, even if you have to say it three or four times a day. Speak it out loud so your ears can hear you say it, so your heart can believe it.
2007-10-05 07:51:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The mourning period can be for an extended time. Even for someone you were not that close to. Death is one of the more difficult situations we face in our life.
Give yourself a bit more time and don't feel like you are not coping. Six months from now can ask the same question and see where your thought patterns are directed. If they are still in the area of death, then you could accuse yourself of not coping.
2007-10-05 07:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by mrcricket1932 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of people who use self-talk to handle what is going on inside their minds. When self-talk is not monitored cautiously it can lead to drastic effects not only on one’s personality but also affects its mentality and psychology. Self-talk is a type of conversation which we conduct with ourselves. In literature we call it soliloquy. Brain’s reticular activating system never forgets what we repeat again and again. Ironically this system can not recognize what is beneficial to the individual and what is not. Think you can, think you can't; either way, you'll be right- a saying goes like this. Therefore when ever we ‘talk’ with ourselves, we should be cautious, very cautious in fact. There are a lot of audio programs which can help and there are a lot of online books. If I recall there is a book ‘self-talk solutions’ which is every effective in this scenario.
2007-10-05 17:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by b_banth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should think about the philosophy of birth and death. Any one who has taken birth, will die one day. I will also die ,you shall die and others too. It is a natural cycle and no one has any control over it.It is quite natural to feel saddened after the death of some one known to you,or related to you You are not depressed. Your feelings are quite natural. The sad death of your pa was not out of your doing.You should now divert your attention to some other engagement or hobby/sports etc. You may go out on excursion. Time is the best healer.
2007-10-05 07:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While a period of mourning is always going to be there, it is important to accept his death as a part of your life and learn to move on. If you think you cannot leave this behind you and continue with your life then you should consider seeing a counselor or at least discussing your feelings with a close friend.
2007-10-05 08:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by without.question 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you probably are, which is natural. Losing a parent is HUGE! How about getting some counseling or joining a grief group to get you over the worst?
2007-10-05 07:43:35 · answer #8 · answered by CarlisleGirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i can understand how u feel just control your emotions be busy in your daily routine empty mind is a devil,s workshop so be busy in your life and chat with me
2007-10-05 07:44:10 · answer #9 · answered by eragon_rehan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ummm you should keep thinking about it and than i think you might stop....... but ehh iono
2007-10-05 07:47:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋