Was I rude in the way I answered the question "can't you just pick the meat off?"?

Question

It was food day at work today and my department bought sandwiches for anyone but there were no veggie sandwiches. Someone told me I could just pick the meat off.

I told her that I know she is trying to be nice but that is disgusting and offensive to me. She asked me why I would find that offensive. I tried to explain to her that even if you could pick it up and remove all the grease it left behind the fact it was there in the first place turns my stomach. She didn't get what I was saying so I said let me put it like this. "What if I made you a sandwich and then sneezed all over it then wiped it all off off would she eat it?"

She said something like "well if your just going to make a joke about it then I'm done talking to you".

Do you think my answer was rude? I didn't intend it to be. I just thought I was putting it in a context she might understand.

Answer 1

No, I do not think that you were rude. Most people who eat meat automatically think that you are judging them, and often become defensive when feeling that their beliefs are being contradicted (which is not uncommon for anyone).

You did not just randomly make this comment. She asked you a question about something that made you feel uncomfortable, and you gave a response that you thought might make your situation more comprehensible. Enough said.

The fact that more people eat meat does not mean that the feelings of those who do not should be disregarded. It would have been just as easy to make one sandwich without meat as it to make it with the meat.

Answer 2

via fact of folk who're like maximum of the human beings of people who signify PETA placed out the incorrect effect. i became a vegetarian for extra or less 2 years, or maybe then i theory the human beings I heard on interviews from PETA have been ridiculous. Quote: "Vegetarians get attacked by people who consume meat on the streets." 'Nuff suggested. I purely think of all and sundry desires to appreciate one yet another easily.. and not make stuff up approximately human beings purely 'reason they do no longer accept as true with what the different is doing. i'm no longer a vegetarian anymore for my section, yet I have not have been given any concern with people who're.

Answer 3

I might not have used the words "disgusting and offensive" when it first came to how all the sandwiches were meaty, but oh, well. Some people just don't get it, and you have to be a little less than polite.

Answer 4

I think your answer was probably a bit rude and confrontational, yes.

Your analogy is a good one, but it might sound a bit preachy and rude.

I would have said "no thanks, i'm veggie"
her:" Well, pick the meat off / why would you find that offensive ?"
me:"it will still have meat on it, i'll pass thanks, its no bit deal"........walk away.....

99% of people don't understand veggie morals, its not in thier mind set at all that meat is wrong, so why would juice be wrong ??? They don't get it so you could have spend either more time explaining politely about cross-contamination, or you could have dropped the conversation. Your anology was right, but you didn't give her chance to learn.

if you are going to contront all of them you are in for a hard life.

I've had your situation a few times and never resorted to your type of reply, no need for it.

Answer 5

If she was asking you the question sarcastically, then you answered well. But if she was asking you honestly and genuinely, then I think you were a bit rude. You could have just said "I don't do that" or "it would still bother me" without giving offensive examples. Some vegetarians do just pull the meat off, and she may know someone who does.

Answer 6

Oh boy, thumbs-down time!

You weren't rude at all, SHE WAS!

The next time someone uses that ignorant line about just picking the bits of flesh off, try using my analogy since it seems to sink into their pea-sized brains.

Calmly and politely ask them if they eat human flesh? When they answer no you then respond with this:
Well, what if I presented you with a sandwich that has some slices of human flesh? Would you just pick the human flesh out and eat the rest? To me eating anything touched by animal flesh is just as disgusting as eating anything touched by human flesh. We both agree that human flesh isn't for food, can't you understand that I'm additionally repulsed by animal flesh?

That's an analogy they can usually understand. For the few that still don't understand and still want to bug me about it. I then just point out that knife injuries are commonplace at meat packing plants and the lines move so fast they usually miss collecting all the human blood tainted meat. I then suggest they look up meat packing videos on the web to see how fast the lines move. I think we all know what videos they're going to find! '-)

Answer 7

I personally don't understand people that say things like that. picking the meat off is practically the same as eating the meat (although not quite : p). I think that you were justified in saying what you did to get your point across. That woman is ignorant and needs to think before she speaks, or just needs to STOP speaking all together.

If you don't know anything about the subject, keep your mouth shut.

That's what I say.

SO .... I'm on your side.

: D.

Answer 8

I would say "I would still taste the meat just the same as if it was still there, and I don't like the taste. It wouldn't taste good to me."

If she didn't understand that, I'd change the subject or just say "never mind."

I agree with Michael H here, if we pick fights about everything it gives meat eaters an excuse to say vegetarians are preachy.

Answer 9

no, I don't think you sounded rude..

'can't you just pick the meat of?' now that was very rude of her to say that in the first place. people should think before they say stuff like that and she clearly didn't use her brain.
haha she's the one who got all offensive and thought you were the one being rude?? oh my, how ridiculous.

Answer 10

Your words were not rude but I wasn't there to hear your tone. BUT, it sounds like she wouldn't let it go, she continued questioning you after you explained your feelings so in my opinion she was rude and quite pushy and insensitive and even it you had a tone to your voice you did nothing wrong. There was nothing wrong with your comparison. The meat on the sandwich was as repulsive to you as it would be to her if someone sneezed on her sandwich. It cannot just be removed that easily.