What Are Some Good Converstation Starters??

Question

what are some good, random conversation starters? or something random to keep it going with people you dont know?

ok.. example.
i met this great guy.. and when im around him.. i dont know what to say..
any good random crap to talk about? something funny..
ilove the what youre wearing.. but i cant say it if hes right in front of me.

ok.. example.
i met this great guy.. and when im around him.. i dont know what to say..
any good random crap to talk about? something funny..
ilove the what youre wearing.. but i cant say it if hes right in front of me.

something to keep him interested... i dont want to eff it up

wow thank you for all your input.
i have a lot of different topics..
yay.

Answer 1

These worked for me..

1. If the person to whom you're trying to converse with is listening to an ipod/player, ask them what they are listening to.
or if theyre reading a book, ask how is it.

2. Comment them on something theyre wearing and it seems appealing to you

Answer 2

Ok, if you guys have talked a handful of times, and he has since not encouraged any additional talk, it's safe to assume he's not into you. This is not something you can change unfortunately. Imagine if the tables were turned and some guy that you weren't into kept talking to you and then forced you to start liking him. Not likely right?

My point is, if there is chemistry, it will work itself out, if not, don't force the issue or you will become a nuissance and might scare off the other bachelors.

It might not even be adviseable for you to just start talking in order to get things going. Vocal communication may come accross as too forward to some guys, and some might see right through it and be turned off. If you are overly chatty, that's annoying to just about anyone.

As a woman, I think the unfortunate onus is on you to "lead the horse to water". In other words, have them talk to you, not the other way around. Things you can do to encourage this include smiling, brief eye contact, get caught steeling a look (not too often), look/smell nice (again, a little goes a long way)...etc. Do this until your victim approaches you. If they don't, forcing the issue is likely to work against you.

The best way however, to keep conversation going with someone you just met is to establish some level of chemistry, and be subtle in your flirtation. You NEED to flirt. Flirtation should be subtle and charming. If you lay it on too thick, it becomes tacky and cheap. But, if you can flirt successfully, you will have it made. Part of flirting successfully is flattery. If you can flatter or hint at flattery, your victim is more likely to trust you and agree with what you're saying.

There are no topics that will work for everyone. Flirtation and successful seduction of your preferred sex is an art and takes practice.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Well, I'm pretty good at starting up conversations, but not to flirt. However, it might work just as well for that purpose. First, you need to be prepared by saying to yourself that there is nothing that you want from this guy. That will make you less nervous, hopefully not nervous at all, but you have to believe it, if only for the moment.

So, once you are prepared and you meet him, I would just ask questions, simple ones that lead into other ones. I often just ask if (let's just say "he"), if he has lived in the area for a while. If not, he'll probably tell you where he's from. If he doesn't offer that, then just ask him where he is from. Wherever that is, you'll probably know enough about that area to relate in some way, and you can ask another question about that area. You might at some point mention where you have lived and a little about it.

One note here: If you let him do most of the talking he will think you are really smart. But you will want to do at least 33% of the talking. But don't worry if you don't.

Now, if he is from the area, born there, then you might ask if he's been to other places in the country or world, that he thinks are neat to visit or live. etc....etc....

I wouldn't go into what he's wearing other than a possible simple compliment on one item he is wearing, but only if you are truly sincere and can express that sincerity with your eyes.

You COULD ask what he does for a living, but I don't think that's the best move, as it might be an embarrassment for him at the time. It might not, but it's a risk you need not take.

Asking about particular restaurants or food might be an easy topic. Music is a great topic, but you might first quickly mention what you like and then go right into a question about what kind he likes or if he likes the kind you just mentioned. If you both like totally different music, it actually might be a good idea to forget this guy, for down the road it will be a slight wedge in your relationship, unless music is just not important to one of you, but that would be unusual.

That's about enough from me for now. Other topics can be found by simply going down this yahoo answers list of topics. Find ones that sound fun to you. But just keep asking him questions until he either tells you that you ask a lot of quesitions or until he starts asking you some.

Answer 4

Take a mental assessment first then if you think he is a sporty type, then fire away with appropriate questions. Most guys will talk endlessly about football if you can stand it!
Otherwise if he is an intellectual then try finding out about his favourite subject. The trick is not to be patronizing or obviously so and just sit back and listen. Fellers will completely open up when they realise a Gal is a good listener. Initially take a breath beforehand and simply relax, with a glass of wine in hand and toy with the stem with your delicate, pretty hand and he is putty in your alluring embrace, so to speak.

Good Luck


Martin

Answer 5

The best thing to do if you want to seem attractive to someone is to show an interest in them. Flattery gets you everywhere!
It is really hard to start a conversation from nothing without it seeming stunted or unatural.
I have found that the best way is to develop a theory about something, either something relevant to the place you are in or something totally random and casually ask their opinion about it.
The best way to do this is to start a conversation with one of your friends about a subject that interests you. (you could browse answers for typical questions that people ask).
Find a point that you and your friend disagree on, and then turn to the person you want to speak to and ask them.
It could also be something personal such as: "my friend here thinks that boys are most likely to be attracted to women who wear bright colours but I think that it's more likely to be greys, blacks and whites that attract them. What's do you think?"
This kind of question would able you to get an insight into his way of thinking as well as striking up a conversation.
Read the book The Game.
It's great for things like that.

Answer 6

Honestly? It sounds like you're trying too hard. Just relax. If you're too focused on not wanting to mess it up, odd are, you probably will end up screwing up. Now, that screw up could end up being really cute and funny, and he might like it...but that's risky.

Instead, I'd probably go another route. Now, I'm not an expert, and I'm not sure if others have suggested this or would agree with me. The best way to go about this would probably to lessen the amount of interest you give off. Give him enough attention to let him know you're there, but just don't overly pursue him or act as if you absolutely need him to continue living. Let him pursue you.

I know this sounds like the typical "play hard to get" way of going about things, and to be honest, it is pretty similar. But, think back to when you dated other people. Who did you tend to over after and stick with? The guys who were ridiculously interested and obsessed with you? Or the guys that showed a bit of interest but mixed with a little bit of indifference or slight lack of interest.

If he's not willing to put in a little effort to keep you around and still spend time with him, then just move on. Moving on might even make some big move and you'd end up dating anyway. But just digging around on Yahoo for some passe conversation starters is just going to make you come across as fake.

So, just relax, don't try too hard, and don't be incredibly available.

Answer 7

I would definetly start with basic salutations like "Hi, I'm ______. I don't believe we've met before......"etc. I guess the appropriateness of the salutation would differ based on age, demographics, working class, and so on. However, In your case, it seems you've already met the person. So I guess the best advise would be to make use of current occurances or events to initiate dialouge. preferably ones that relate to the both of you. For example, if the two of you are students, you might want to start with a class you both are taking discussing it's difficulty and professor. In a situation where it's pouring rain outside, you might want to start by discussing how it will effect both of your plans for the day. At first, it is best to start with small talk. You want to get dialouge going. From there, "real" conversations will result, and you'll likely end up talking about somthing much more meaningful and interesting for the both of you.

Answer 8

Comment on the time, then on the transport, if you're waiting for train/commuter - whether it's slow or fast. That should be a good starter for anyone. For a guy, you may want to talk about the latest game, or the news, or, heck, maybe the price of oil. That should get anyone riled up.

To keep it going on, let the person take part in the conversation - by that I mean you let him/her speak. OK?

Answer 9

Mn Dear Girl,
there are several rules for starting an conversation. 1. You must be confident in your self and know what are you locking for, Wat do you want and mostly, how to get. Inexperienced is also no problem but, you have to notice as follow: By the start of the conversation you have nothing to lose, so you can be sure that you only have chance to get something. Way don't you use This argument and be confident to start the conversation with a nice notice about something on him Wat just you can see and hold it easy, cool and as an poker player with an face as steal or little smile? You only have to be real and natural! That's all. If the guy see something in you hi loves and want to start an conversation, He will found Wat ever to complete and get to know you! Understandable? Be your self is the most important thing! Good luck Love!
Ivan

Answer 10

Almost anything EXCEPT "I've been on a journey of self-discovery and I'd like to tell you all about it" or anything to do with religion.

OK, seriously. The best conversation starters aren't something you can memorize and pull out in every situation. The best conversation starters come form the habit of observing people - paying more attention to what you notice about them rather than on any kind of formula for conversation.

People like to have what they do noticed and acknowledged.

So, if someone has made the effort to put together a great-looking outfit, why not comment that you noticed that and admire it (not in lusting way.....)

I've had GREAT conversations with folks in grocery stores because I asked about some of the items in their cart - one was with a Jamaican man who was buying a LOT of coconut milk, and I asked him what he typically used it for. Not only did we have a good time, I learned a couple of really good recipes from him. At that point I could have continued the budding relationship by giving him my email address and asking him if he'd be willing to send me some specific recipes, or asked him for his, for the same purpose.

The point here is that if you are not concerned with how clever you come across, and show a genuine interest in people, they will be far more likely to want to talk to you.

Answer 11

When I first meet someone finding a good conversation is always the hardest. I first start off with the basics such as:
Name
Age
Hometown
Where they currently live
That kinda of stuff

Then move onto
What they like to do on their spare time
Do they have any brothers or sister.
If youre at at a bar ask what their favoritre drink is.
Or if they are single or taken, thats always a good question because if they are single you can ask them why and that sort of stuff.

the goal is to find something you both like.
when you do its easier to make a conversation that way you have something to talk about.
be relaxed.
and confident becuase remember
being confident is what makes you sexy!
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good luck