My BF still talking with his old flame weekly and they share an online diary just for themselves only.?

Question

My BF never get together with gal J as J already got a husband. She never told my BF about her status however they end up faling in love with each other. This happen about 3-4 years ago. Currently J is studying overseas however, she would keep in contact with my BF 2-3 times per week either via sms or calls. My BF is very secretive about it. Unable to further contain my curiosity, I take a look and found that he kept her smses even dated to year 2002. They address each other as "Dear" or using pet name between them only. I also found out they got a online diary which are only accessible for both of them only. When I confront my BF, he refuses to let me see claiming it is his PRIVACY. He became very defensive and always brush me aside. Does this mean they are both still into something? I love my BF very much thus I am not willing let him go. Are there any advises on what should I do? My heart is in severe pain...

Currently, My BF is deleting all his sms from J to him. He told me he love me and there's no more love from him to her. He wants me to give him his privacy. Cherish the present. I am totally at a loss.

Thanks alot to all those who contribute their answers. Honestly speaking, my mind is in a whirl. I am lost. Although his behavior is in this way, he still dote on me. Thus, I really don't know what should I do. I really cannot let him go but on the hand... :0(

Answer 1

Boot him to the curb and find yourself a man who will love you and only you.

Answer 2

Of course you're in pain and rightfully so. Your boyfriend is probably worried that you may read something and misconstrue something that's innocent as something to worry about. These entries are dated back to 2002. He probably didn't allow you to read it due to the fact that he values his privacy and is protecting her's. It doesn't mean that he's being unfaithful to you. He just is maintaining a friendship with someone who is supportive of him. This is called an 'emotional friend,' or an 'emotional affair.' If he were going to be unfaithful, it would have happened back in 2002, not in the present. He's not cheating on you. You have to decide if you're okay with him having this emotional friend. Chances are, it's probably only a way for him to keep in touch with a friend he feels he can communicate with and doesn't mean he loves you any less. However, I am my boyfriend's 'emotional friend' and I'd be upset as hell if I found that another female had this role in his life because it takes something away from the relationship that he should be entertaining with you, not his ex. It all depends on you. He's not unfaithful, but if you don't care for this kind of communication ask him to stop and communicate with you in this way, instead. They address each other with pet names innocently, because it's probably just simply what they called each other for years.

Answer 3

If you are in a relationship that means anything there is no such thing as privacy. He is an ***, and he is treating you poorly. Email us at mraandmisse at yahoo and we will try and help you read some stuff. But whatever you do the choice is simple - if he is keeping secrets now as just a boyfriend what do you think will be different if he ever becomes more than just a boyfriend? I suggest you start looking for a new man who wont keep secrets from you.

Good luck

Answer 4

that's a common occasion that if a girl finished around at early age she not at all forget the 1st flame.nighttime after she get benefit she would be in a position of no longer supply up see her old flames. that's a proofing fact ,the college of Iowa and the college in England seed and earnings.a girl is dissing by using nature to like to persons equivalent, one as a lover and one as a provider. so i propose to each and all of the adult adult males wen you get married to p.c.. the cloths and, flow fare faraway from the placement the place the spouse advance and whilst to college, in case you needs you marriage to non-supply up. not at all stay interior an identical place withe comparable human beings.in case you do no longer flow, then greater perfect to no longer get married .not at all stay a spouse Alon for long era .a million or 2 months. you macking a huge mistake

Answer 5

Tell him you love him and you need to know, that there shouldn't be secrets between the 2 of you and specially not ones involving people who were once loved. Tell him you don't want to lose him but the idea of something like that kills you. Tell him to have some respect for your feelings and he should understand.

Answer 6

U be with him every where but outside college and home primices because it may be dangerous for him as well as you to be together in that enviroment. dont be sticky to him but a minute watcher and look for chance to make him happy not ony by passion but by feelings.Many more to be told therefore i am sending you my email id and will tell you in messenger. If you are online then send me some email and i will add you to contacts.

Answer 7

OMG he is sooooo in the wrong..And is DEFF hiding something!!

I cant believe that he wont let you see it when he knows you no about it thats some serz trouble!

I would be very suss if i was you, do things to make him feel your betraying him...Let him now how you feel everyday!! You dont have to cheat on him. but you can pretend cause he deff deserves to no what he puts you through

Answer 8

Without a doubt, your BF and J are nailing each other every chance they get.

Don't be a fool, you should leave this guy expeditiously. (I know, it is always easier said then done).

Answer 9

It means you could be a stand-in GF till the other gets back.

Answer 10

Wow. I mean really this guy needs to get over his ex. Dump him! You can get back with him, but he needs to learn his lesson! Thats not right! He's your man!