Well I went all out and made this really fancy desert. Well a friend shows up with desert. and all she talks about is how good her desert is. I set them both on the table, and she went and dished everyone up hers. Was this rude?
2007-09-30 18:34:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Food & Drink ➔ Entertaining
I would assume she was only trying to be helpful. I guess I would have taken both desert in the kitchen and gave each person a small slice of each desert. This way they could try both of them and no one gets hurts. Friends want to help other friends out and to her she may have thought she was helping you out. Or she could have been bragging that hers was better. I guess I would leave it a lone. and if she does it again. You know what to do. Serve up the deserts in the kitchen and give each a small piece of each one. You really do not want to hurt your friends feelings. I am sure she was not trying to out do you. She was showing her gratitude for being invited.
2007-09-30 19:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by vault 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO How many times can I say it, NO. This is a terrible idea that goes way beyond tacky. If you do not have a lot of money than just have coffee and cake at the reception. If you cannot afford a hall then ask at the church where you get married most have a small place where you could have a small group of family and friends gather for little money. You can have people come to your house or the home of one of your parents and have a gathering there. You could just linger at the church and thank everyone for coming, let them get a picture of or with you and then just call it done. You do not HAVE to have a reception, you are still just as married if you don't have the big party but you NEVER ask wedding guests to bring anything but their love and congratulations.
2016-05-17 22:34:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go into some elaborate scene and thank her for making you a desert.. Put it in the fridge and marvel about how it will taste tomorrow with a cup of coffee in the evening..or better yet (this one will get her goat).. Tell her your buds at the office will love this desert on morning break tommorrow..... Then ask her since she's so willing to want to contribute to distribute all the menu's "planned" foods out with you to the table..
2007-09-30 19:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by Mintee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it was rude. You should never turn down free dessert, because it was gracious of her to bring it.
HOWEVER, it was obvious that she didn't bring it to thank you for being the hostess, she brought it to show off. Which doesn't make it very gracious after all, does it? You might have believed her had she solicited your guests for their preference in dessert, and then served both according to their tastes. Often when I receive extras of something I already made, most people enjoy a little of both. The fact that she did not offer both was rude.
2007-10-01 05:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by julie m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have taken control of the situation. This is what you should have said, " Thank you so much Sue, but I have already prepared a dessert for tonight ". " I'm sure my family will love tasting this tomorrow night." I would have then taken it away from her and put it in the refrigerator, and never mentioned it again.
2007-09-30 21:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by Pat C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that friend certainly was insensitive , this was downright rude but take heart,, it could have been the first time she succeeded with the dessert. I am pretty sure you made an equally or even better one.Your other guests would know!!!
2007-09-30 18:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by 102845 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, come on a tempest in a teapot. She serves her dessert and crows about, you bring out yours and say, "and try some of this, its really good." Not rude, just insensitive. No big deal.
2007-10-01 05:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by lpaganus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand bringing a dessert but to only serve hers was very rude of her. She should have let people choose.
2007-09-30 19:02:46 · answer #8 · answered by hitwoman001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think that was extremely rude. Particularly that she served everyone her own dessert after you had made one. She could have at least let people choose which dessert they wanted.
2007-09-30 18:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG- thats totally rude and offensive. You really need to ask her what that was about and why she felt the need to do this. It was your home, your party, your friends.She could have decided to have her own party after yours if she felt it was a good idea.I really think you should speak to her and let her know how offended you were and that it was not appreciated.
2007-09-30 18:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by Grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋