and called the police when he tried to make peace. If she is like this now I cant see how their lives (and the life of the child) wont be one drama after another. My friend really wants to be a father, although the pregnancy was unexpected, but I think he would be better off to leave rather than battle for 10 years and still at the end of it leave. What is best?
2007-09-28 23:45:30 · 10 answers · asked by pete the pirate 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You cant make his decisions for him.
He has a child on the way.
Dont poke your nose in too far - you will become the enemy to his girlfriend and she ill make him choose.
'Bye bye friend' is how that one will end.
Say nothing and let him live or die by his own sword - just be there for him when it falls to pieces, if it does.
2007-09-28 23:54:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could just be the hormones, mine are awful, though not bad enough to kick my husband out of the house this time around. WIth our daughter though at one point I did and told him I would rather be having anyone elses baby. Hoenstly he should write her a letter and give her a few days and see what happens if it isn't the hormones, well there is nothing to stop him from being in the childs life. People don't have to be together to have a child or be in its life. And he is the father so he has rights to be there, he may have to take her to court though.
2007-09-29 06:54:42 · answer #2 · answered by his wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i was pregnant i was crazy during the first couple of months, maybe he just doesn't know how to handle her mood swings quite yet.
could be anything... he shouldn't give up trying to make peace because as long as he is a good man that baby will deserve to have him around! no women should take a child away from it's father unless the father is unsafe or unkind.
Even if I hated my daughters father and we split as long as he was a good father which he is, i would never take his child from him and i would expect him to do the same.
Every child deserves all the love in the world and petty fights between parents should not stop that from happening!.
As someone stated above you haven't heard the whole story so maybe he really did do something he should not have.
Things will work themselves out.
2007-09-29 07:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it'd be best to leave too. But not before consulting a lawyer about what to do.
The girlfriend might decide all of a sudden decide to start collecting child support on him, which is where legal advice would be very valuable, if she does that, at least he'll be able to demand some time with the kid.
2007-09-29 06:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they can't get along they should both lawyer up and start working now on a visitation plan so he can be involved in his child's life with minimal involvement with the mother. Walking away from his child because the Mother's being unreasonable would be irresponsible and selfish and immature- his child needs HIM too.
2007-09-29 07:10:15 · answer #5 · answered by magy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she doesnt want him there he shouldnt be as it will just be more drama for him. he can still be a great father even if hes not with the mother. if shes vindictive like this, have him get a good lawyer now. if they both want to make it work, definitely get counseling. i was in a similar situation and counseling (although it was court mandated) helped a lot and were doing better raising our son together.
2007-09-29 06:50:51 · answer #6 · answered by Heidi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends why she kicked him out,if she's just found out she's pregnant,she could've kicked him out b'cause she blames him or she's angry at him for that reason,see if she calms down in a couple of days,she may be feeling confused or scared right now,unexpected pregnancy is quite a big shock to some females,a baby changes your whole life,so she's probably a little unsure of herself right now,just tell him to ease off for now and give her some space,try again the next day
2007-09-29 07:05:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not knowing the details of the situation it's hard to say. The bottom lime is that no matter whether they stay together in the end or not, they have to get along in order to raise the child.
2007-09-29 06:49:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he should wait, she will probably change her mind when she needs child support! The mother has to know (and the baby too) that he loves the child and that he or she can count on the father if they want (mother and child)...but if they dont, he has to live his life. God bless them three!
2007-09-29 08:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by mbestevez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....it's only one side of the story but she could be hormonal or deppressed he should write her a letter telling her he wants to be in her life.
2007-09-29 06:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋