How can i make my self feel better?
I slept with this guy and he just used me for sex, he treated me like a prostitute, I know im stupid and everything I shouldnt done it but its too late to do that. My boyfriend doesnt know but yesterday i called him really upset crying and everything, he still doesnt know. I really shouldnt done that, I learn to only make love to people you have feelings for and that they have feelings for you aswell...How can I make my self feel better about this issue?
2007-09-28 21:24:38 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
please dont be rude with me i understand that im selfish and a cow, but right now the last thing i need is insults from other people.
2007-09-28 21:32:33 · update #1
You know that I always enjoy answering your questions and right now I'm really sorry to hear that your feeling bad sweetheart. I think it's disgusting the way that you were treated no one has any right to treat you like that.
You're not stupid I think that you were just looking for comfort and perhaps this guy basically thought his luck was in, don't think down on yourself learn from this mistake and hold your head high. I'm sure you'll find the courage somewhere in your heart to tell your boyfriend when the time is right and if he knows what a wonderful person that you really are then sure he'll be angry but I'm sure also that he'll forgive you in the end.
To feel better about this issue I think you should just put it to the back of your mind, have a little "me time" why not have a nice bath? have a special meal and do something that you really enjoy? just do anything that puts a smile on you face and makes you feel good about yourself, for you and I both know it's what you deserve you should not be feeling down over one mistake. I know it's difficult but just make the best of things right now and you'll soon see that it can be forgotten and you can move on with your life. Learn to live for tomorrow and try not to think back on the past.
Much love and respect
xx
P.S don't let the cruel comments get you down
2007-09-28 22:35:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Boy #1: When you say you're not accepting his irrational choices, are you telling him bad things without his asking, or are you just telling him your real feelings when he asks you what you think about him doing these things? Because you don't have to accept everything he does in order to be his friend. You can not tease him, not approve of what he does, and still be friends with him. Boy #2: Are you sure that your flirting is hurting him or do people on the outside think that you're hurting him because you flirt with him too much? I would just be honest with him about your fun, flirty personality and explain that you like him as a friend. Usually boys will get the point when you say this.
2016-05-21 03:12:21 · answer #2 · answered by adrian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not selfish and your not a cow, OK?
Look at why you did it, it's obviously out of character for you.
Are you having deep problems with your boyfriend and looked for comfort, or perhaps you are one of these people who loose there control when they are drunk?
I hate to mention it, but are you sure it was not date rape?? If you have any feeling, no matter how small, that you have been drugged, go to a hospital NOW and get some bloods drawn, you should also get a screen for STD's as a precaution.
If this was a one off mistake and you are sure it will never happen again, then I think it is ok not to tell your boyfriend.
We all make mistakes, but we learn from them dont we.
I know how awful you must feel - confide in a friend or your mum, get it out your system, put it behind you and get on with your relationship.
God Bless
2007-09-28 22:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you done what you did, you cant turn back time you have to decide what you want. i dont think you love your boyfriend. how do i know? because i've been engaged for 2 years and i have never so much as looked at another woman. i'll wager that you told your boyfriend that you shouldnt see each other anymore when you were on the phone to him. if you did already theres a click in his head that something is wrong. your not a bad person, life is complicated as it is you need to sit down and have a good think, just blank your mind and the first thing that pops into your head thats your answer. evaluate yourself and your life from that and go with it.
2007-09-28 22:06:10 · answer #4 · answered by herr fugelmeister 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I am sure you would say you wish you could go back and change it, but you can't. You have learned a good lesson here the hard way. I can't imagine why you did that, as you say you have a boy friend. If you beat your self up it won't help. The only thing you can do is resolve to never do such a
thing again and stick to it. Move on a wiser person.
2007-09-28 21:33:50 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone is a sinner. (Romans 3:10 and 3:23). First of all, confess it to God. 1 John 1:9 says "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." Be glad you feel bad about it. That is repentance. It means God is working on your heart. Some people can't even hear the Holy Spirit because their hearts are so hard from sinning. You should break up with your boyfriend if you've been sleeping with him too. You don't have to tell him about the other guy. It will just hurt him and ruin the relationship if you stay with him. Maybe you could just tell him you need some time to yourself to sort some things out mentally (which would not be a lie.) Please ask the Lord into your life. I did this many years ago and He has helped me and blessed me so much. I suggest you read the Bible (New Testament) and look for a good church. I'll pray for you. John 3:16
2007-09-29 06:33:10 · answer #6 · answered by Cee T 6 · 0⤊ 4⤋
What I want to know is why you feel bad in the first place. Sex is due to some attraction between male and female and if they feel like it so be it. If its a one of then let it remain so. I don't really think such sex is more in emotion than a trip to the cinema. Now, I will find that more stressful. Especially if its a rubbish film.
2007-09-29 13:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by Maxi Robespierre 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I pressume that you actually dont feel bad but guilty as you say you have a boyfriend. Everybody makes silly mistakes sometimes and its not the end of the world but if you feel guilty you need to decide wether you tell your boyfriend what you have done or not. You feeling like this could reflect in your behaviour towards your boyfriend and jeopardise your relationship.
2007-09-28 21:31:36 · answer #8 · answered by mooncalf22 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't say this to be mean, but you cheated on your boyfriend, don't you think this it's pretty much what you deserve to feel crap.
You've gotta ask yourself would you feel this bad if the other guy hadn't used you? Would you have done it again?
If you probably would, cut your boyfriend loose, he deserves better than someone who doesn't only want him. And secondly, don't sleep with guys you don't know very well if you're emotionally invested. It works for some people coz they seperate sex from relationships well. It doesn't work so well for others.
2007-09-28 21:37:58 · answer #9 · answered by Belle 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Do you think that you are really ready for a serious relationship with your boyfriend? It seem to me that you aren't ready if you are treating yourself this way. Who are you trying to punish? Yourself or your boyfriend. There is no reason why anyone here on YA should help you to feel better about yourself, when you know you have been stupid.
2007-09-28 21:46:50 · answer #10 · answered by Dragon 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋