Okay so i've been thinking. Am I shallow? I try to be friends or to go after girls I think are cute or good looking. Is that wrong? Is that shallow? But beauty is in the eye or the beholder. I know God thinks everyone is beautiful. But I think some girls are cuter or just better looking in my eyes. Is that preference? So am I shallow or wrong to not go after girls I don't have physical attraction to? I want to know how God would want me to choose a partner. Well i'm 19, but i'm just saying or a girlfriend. I just don't want to upset God. I want to please him. Do I have a say as to who I can persue or not? I just don't know what to do. HOw would God want me to do this? I'm just feeling shallow because i'm going after girls I think are cute. Is that a crime?
2007-09-28 20:50:31 · 9 answers · asked by 2nd Commander 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
but i go after pretty girls and then hope that they have great personalities. is that wrong? i don't lust after them it's nothing like that. I just don't go and try to pursue someone I don't find attractive. is that wrong? Am i selfish or is that cool?
2007-09-28 21:53:20 · update #1
Actually there is a chemistry to attraction. Unless you are after the attraction of big hooters etc. We are attracted to people who chemically are good reproductive partners. That is the biology of it. It is normal to want an attractive partner and that goes for women choosing men as well. However saying that some people become more attractive the longer we get to know them because they have beauty all the way through. Did you ever meet a really cute girl only to find you can't stand her after the first couple of times you hang out? Well that is because her 'beauty' is all she has going for her. God does not want you to date unpretty girls or pretty girls just nice girls. Make allot of FRIENDS both male and female, hang out with all these friends and figure out the type of person you are best suited for. Nature will take care of the rest. Have fun. PS your questions are getting much better
2007-09-29 00:33:26 · answer #1 · answered by luteachris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should prefer a girl for her intelligence, her manners, her education, her thinking, her believes and must find out how good her parents were. Because if parents are bad people, very few of their children are good. Do not go for external beauty. Often a pretty wraping paper doesn't have very good gift in the box.
A Polish female colleague of mine told me once that her grand mother used to say her daughters, if you want to attract some good boy, use your brain and not your ***.
So the one who is revealing her body attributes to attract you is not a good choice. If you are the one who go for her pretty body, you will walk away from her life when she gets unattractive by age or being over weight or for any other reason.
2007-09-29 04:11:01 · answer #2 · answered by majeed3245 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't attracted to someone, then no amount of personality is going to make up for it.
That said, you absolutely have to have more than just a pretty face when you are in a relationship.
There is intelligence, humor, common goals, respect, integrity, kindness, and many other things that are important to have in addition to your attraction to her.
At 19 though, I would say you have plenty of time to find someone who is right for you. And its important to just have fun dating, so you can learn about yourself (and other people) and what is most important to you.
2007-09-29 04:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by hypno_toad1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever tryed going for whats in the heart and soul. sounds like all your looking for is a beauty image.what happens if you had one of those beauty images and one day something happen and she was not so pretty anymore would you dump her. to me it sounds as if you would. your not looking for happiness and love your looking for a image of what you want. you should read the bible a little more. you do not judge from the out side but whats with in there heart and soul. beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. you are to judgemental so you keep that kind of personality you'll be looking for a long time.people are people and they have feelings.love for who they are not what you or who you think they should be or look the way you feel they should. you have alot of growing up to do. he who judges will be judged himself.
2007-09-29 11:23:55 · answer #4 · answered by Fran J 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie, you are only 19. Don't look for the girl let her look for you! It sounds to me like you are a great guy! Any girl would be lucky to have you in their life. Just relax and have fun! She'll come to you when the time is right!
2007-09-29 10:10:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks are not what lies on the inside look for the inside and if that is beautiful then the outside appearance will turn beautiful just remember mind over matter and that is actually scientifically a fact your eyes see what they want to. i pray that God will give you courage
2007-09-29 12:51:06 · answer #6 · answered by bubbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong with that most people do, personally i can care less about looks for me personality is everything, like u said u go to the ones who you think, would have a nice personality and get along with you.......
2007-09-30 19:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by هكّBlood Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encounter a girl that is open within her heart and not hideous to others based upon her looks or what she owns.
2007-09-29 10:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by tercentenary98 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's natural but you getter hope she has a good heart or you won't stay together to long
2007-09-29 03:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by M-S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋