Tonight was the first time i came out and told someone i had an eating disorder...I have had it for about a year and a half and it took me many months to try and tell someone...finally i told my boyfriend tonight who i thought would be very gentle with me...instead he attacked me with I HAVE TO TELL YOUR PARENTS...and DONT LEAVE ME WITH YOUR DIRTY SECRETS!....im 25 years old..im a grown woman...i dont need anyone to treat me like that after such a vulnerable state...i told him to leave my house. I just really dont want to talk to him...ever
2007-09-28 20:16:48 · 7 answers · asked by lexa 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think you are allowed to initially be upset with him. But the core message, I think, was that he cares about you. Not that he doesn't want to keep your secrets or whatever.
So I'd say be mad for a bit, and then realize that he wants to help you and your kinda reaching out for help with this.
2007-09-28 20:21:41 · answer #1 · answered by jbahhh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It was fairly awful of your boyfriend to act in such a negative way, however I would really think about giving him a second chance. He probably panicked because this is something he doesn't know how to deal with. I would suggest talking to him again. Explain that you don't want to dump your 'secrets' on him but that you need help with this. Maybe suggest that you talk to your parents or a dr or something together? You do need to tell someone who can help and he may be more supportive if he realises you don't expect him to deal with it alone.I hope the situation gets sorted. Please don't let this experience put you off seeking help with this. It's brave of you to tell somone and even though he didn't react brilliantly, someone else, like a dr will not react so badly. Good luck and best wishes.
2007-09-29 05:54:08 · answer #2 · answered by Sian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that happened to you. If he wasn't strong enough to stick by you when trouble came along, then he wasn't a good boyfriend to begin with. I think he was just afraid. He was being kind of selfish. He shouldn't worry about the secrets you kept from him, he should worry about YOU. It's perfectly normal for a person with an eating disorder to hide it. He's ignorant if he doesn't know that. Tell someone you can trust to keep a cool head about it. Whoever you tell will worry, but let's hope not as much as your boyfriend did to totally lose control. Good luck and get well soon!
2007-09-29 01:06:22 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you had this experience. I think it's good that you are starting to become more open about your problems. It has certainly helped me to see the examples of people who are brave enough to share their struggles with others. I find it possible that your boyfriend merely reacted poorly to some news that he found shocking and scary. I certainly wish you the help that you need for a happy, fulfilling life. Please let me know by e-mail if I can help you in any way.
2007-09-28 20:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 12:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds really mean.
Try to talk to a counsellour that can help you best if you want to get help.
Hope you have luck
2007-09-28 20:21:21 · answer #6 · answered by TashanaSaurus 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What there is no reason 4 him acting like that.
2007-09-29 02:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋