2007-09-28 19:59:46 · 22 answers · asked by fading 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that this is a personal matter for each person. You have to decide for yourself what the acceptable limit for you are. People are too different with different beliefs, religions, cultures and backgrounds to just give an amount. I think it would be unwise to use what is acceptable boundaries for other people to govern your life choices.
It comes down to whether you and your partner have roughly the same idea about values and if you attach the same amount of sentiment and value to sex. Otherwise you will be left feeling emotionally unsatisfied or overcrowded.
2007-09-28 20:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by lilly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! It shouldn't matter how many people your partner has been with because 1. you cant change the past. 2. either your going to accept it or you don't. 3. what if your partner was a virgin and you weren't and they said "you being with one person was one person to many." WHAT just throw away what you guys have (the relationship, friendship etc.) The only thing that should matter is with every encounter did the person do everything the safest way? ALSO you should be able to answer the second half of the question by my name and by my answer. if not NO i don't have a maximum but I'm not out there trying to max out!!!
2007-09-29 03:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by ourposition1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the phrase, "too much information."
Face it no matter what the answer is you are not going to be happy with it. Do they have more experience then you, or are they not that attractive and have less experience? Either way you are in a losing situation.
A maximum limit yes, of course there is one that's why few men like to marry prostitutes or porn stars. They have too much experience and most men just don't want to go there (literally and figuratively).
This is one of those situations where what you don't know can't hurt you, and if it can then you had better have enough trust in your partner to make sure that they warn you first (like when you meet the ex).
2007-09-29 03:04:49 · answer #3 · answered by Dan S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it doesnt matter. A person does different things for different reasons and has to deal with the consequences of their descions for the good or bad.
Look past the past, because I am sure every descion you have made is not perfect. We are all imperfect beings making the best choices we can with imperfect information.
Everyone who has sex should get an STD test every 3 to 6 months if single and every year if in a "monogomous" relationship.
But be a true adult and love the person for who they are now, and not the choices in the past.
2007-09-29 12:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jay Cammeron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. And no. The past is the past. Personally, I would never tell my partner how many people I have slept with. It is not any of their business. The ONLY thing that is their business is whether or not I have been tested for STDs. That's it. People get hung up on stupid things like numbers. It is not ANYONES business. My husband does not know my number and I would never tell him.... Not because I have slept with a lot of people but simply because it is not any of his business. He does not have a right to know. It leaves you open for judgement. He can go ahead and assume that the number is high, but the point is not about that. It's about being sexually responsible and healthy. I could have slept with one person and gotten an STD or I could have slept with a million and gotten zero STDs. See? Numbers don't make a difference.
2007-09-29 03:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by Yup Yup Yuppers 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think it matters to a certain extent. If you suspect that your partner was very promiscuous, then you might want to suggest that you both get tested before you start an intimate relationship. A lot of people say the past is the past, but I think we really need to start making it matter to us. Doing this might help save some lives.
2007-09-29 03:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by younggb77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. I don't even think it is necessary for my partner to be HIV/STD free, if I'm in love I'm going to find a way to work around that as well.
I've had over forty five sexual partners. I think that I had that many for the wrong reasons but now that I have matured and am with someone for life, I have a lot of experience to draw from. I'm more open minded about and can talk about sex; I've been with women, men, vanilla, s & m, and now I find myself middle of the road, in a devoted long term relationship and loving it. And I was honest about how many people I'd been with. Of course, since I was not safe with all my partners, I have been tested every year for HIV/STDs and found myself clean.
2007-09-29 03:06:56 · answer #7 · answered by wheeldogz 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes because you have slept with everyone they slept with and everyone those people slept with its crazy i saw a tree thing they made in cosmo about this and its amazing how many people you "slept with" it increases your chances of getting an STD nobody should set a limit thats stupid it shouldnt get to that point.
2007-09-29 03:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by Katelynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it should matter because if your partner had like 20 or u know, a lot of people before you, then there might be the chance that she has a sexually transmitted disease that she could pass on to you. Just be careful with her. Unless youre literally just talking about just sleeping with them, literally.
2007-09-29 03:03:45 · answer #9 · answered by Eduardo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally yes because I haven't slept with many and it does not make me feel special as a lady.
2007-09-29 03:01:38 · answer #10 · answered by Sigurros 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋