in a relationship with older man, how should i tell my father?

Question

i am seeing this older man, i'm 18 and he is 28. he's absolutely fantastic in every way, he treats me like a queen and he's sooo much more mature than any other guy i've been with in the past. we can talk about anything, he's incredibly intelligent which is so sexy. i'm starting to think i can spend the rest of my life with this man.

to get to my question...i havent introduced him to my father yet. my dad has always been way overprotective and i don't want to hear his mouth or deal with the way he will treat my guy. i know i am an adult and shouldnt be concerned with my father's opinion when i know i'm with the right guy.please any advice on how to "break the news" to my dad with avoiding a confrontation at all costs?

also, my mom and her side of the family have all met him and love him(my parents are divorced). he's been very supportive of my delay with my dad but i can imagine he's getting rather frustrated.

has anyone been through this before????

Answer 1

Prepare your father for this meeting by having a heart-to-heart with him beforehand. Tell him the guy's age, what he does for a living, his background, and most importantly, how you feel about him. It is only natural for your father to be protective of you. Try to see this issue from his point of view: when this guy was 18, you were 8. There is a gulf of experience between you. This will narrow over the years but at the moment, you may not be able to judge this man as accurately as you should. Your father's role should be to help you make this judgment. Good luck.

Answer 2

Dear abby,

i am seeing this older man, i'm 18 and he is 28. he's absolutely fantastic in every way, he treats me like a queen and he's sooo much more mature than any other guy i've been with in the past. we can talk about anything, he's incredibly intelligent which is so sexy. i'm starting to think i can spend the rest of my life with this man.

to get to my question...i havent introduced him to my father yet. my dad has always been way overprotective and i don't want to hear his mouth or deal with the way he will treat my guy. i know i am an adult and shouldnt be concerned with my father's opinion when i know i'm with the right guy.please any advice on how to "break the news" to my dad with avoiding a confrontation at all costs?

also, my mom and her side of the family have all met him and love him(my parents are divorced). he's been very supportive of my delay with my dad but i can imagine he's getting rather frustrated.

has anyone been through this before????
Dear person,

Idc

Answer 3

Been here, done this. Just talk to dad and tell him what you said in this question. I'm betting a 10 year age difference will probably not only not upset him, he will probably be happy. If you explain that your bf is a mature man who loves you and is willing to take care of you (not that you need it, but that is a phrase dad will like) dad will be a lot happier than you think. He will probably be a lot happier than if you brought home an 18 year old who was in a band.

Answer 4

Let me tell you I'm 23 yrs old and i just got hitched with. well i met him when i was 18 and he was 30 yes we are 12 yrs apart. i never knew how old he was because he didn't look like a 30 yr old guy ( or what in my mind a guy that age should look like) so we went on a date and found out our age i was like wow and he was like do you want to leave ( he thought that he had no chance with me since he was much older) but like you said he was also different and i loves it. i didn't know what to do with my dad too i was soo worried that he was not going to understand. But one day my boyfriend ( husband now) said i want to meet your dad and see what he thinks so he came over and talk to my dad and then when the BIG question cam e about "so how old are you?" he told him and my dad respected didn't say or acted like i thought he was going to. I was soo happy and i felt a big weight of my shoulders. I don't know if your dad will act the same way my dad did put one thing i know is that if the guy you are dating talks to him he will appreciate that allot.

Answer 5

let me tell you frankly you should not have relation with a aman 10 years elder to you. its so sick. you know he would just get older and weaker and you will be left without and fun in life especially in your 30s when you will need it the most strong and most hardest. so just trust me and like a guy who is of your age. he might have the charisma and the intelligence, but that is just an outward show off. real thing is inside. you know why marylyn monroe commited suicide. she never had an orgasm and all her partners were more than 10 years elder to her. she said what the use of living when she could not have the greatest pleasure a woman can have. and orgasm. so think and decide.

Answer 6

no guy is ever good enough for daddy's little girl. every guy will always be a pervert. it just means he loves you. a little misguided, but that is all it means.

18 and 28 should not be a problem, i would tell dad, when the guy is not around. if he is a jerk about, dont let them ever meet. in time dad will come around.

and, dont try to please your father, you will drive your self nuts. please yourself.

edit - is "sam" your dad? if not, WTF. committed suicide over her sex life ?
when this girl is 28 the guy will be 38. im 47 and im not old and weak.

Answer 7

Do you know, I would just not tell my dad if I were you. In fact the only boyfriend a girl should introduce to her dad is the fella she intends to marry.

Good luck

Answer 8

Let your Mom handle it.

Answer 9

lie about his age and say he is 19 thats what i do with my bf...it works everytime.