what can i do to relax?

Question

am only 18 years old i work 60-to 80 hours a week and i owe some many bills i help my parents for half the bills than my bills i already owe $3,000 and i think am pregnant the guy left me my parents think am the worst daughter ever i feel really stressed i cant even breathe can somone please tell me a good tip for relaxation please.....

Answer 1

Yoga

Answer 2

Whoa...I don't know how you managed to owe that much money in the first place. Your parents thinks you are the worst daughter ever? What kind of parents are they? They are your parents and they should be lot more supportive than that. It's partially their fault since they didn't teach you enough about the life. I'm not saying you weren't responsible enough though!

If you are going to be a parent, you should be more responsible. What I can say is these.

You should go see a psychologist for your mental support. You should also call up a debt consultant. They would call up the places you owe money, they will make separated bills into 1 bil, you will be only paying 1 bill for a month depends on how much you earn the price will change I think...I think it won't cost at all or very little depends on where you live though...

You also should get some help from government for being a single mother if you are having that baby.

That's all I can say for now...Get out of debt as soon as possible. If you are living with your parents, you should be able to pay back the debt quicker. That is if they are still paying for your food and all that.

Once you are actually starting to clear the debt, you will start relaxing. It will take a bit but...it's just a life. Heck, I got debt too...but I am paying back even it's slowly. Good luck and take care!

Answer 3

If you are paying your parents than maybe you can afford your own apartment. Add up the expenses your own apartment would be versus what you are paying your parents now. If it's equal then move out. You really should get your own place.

Now whether you move out or not, you need to set some boundries for yourself and your relationships including your parents. No one (i don't care who they are) have the right to make you feel less of a person, to yell at you or verbally abuse you.

If you think you are pregnant take a home test, and if money is tight follow up with a free clinic -- you need to know one way or the other.

What you can do for you. Check out at the library or online all the positive reinforcements you can get. If you are religious get spiritual guidance or counseling. Read and keep reading good positive things about you, about your life, and about your future.

You can also try aroma therapy to help you relax and get some sleep. Try mood music like oceans, or birds or any other soothing music/ sounds that help you relax. Personally, I like smooth jazz on the radio. Sit in your room, in the dark, in your pj's, with soothing music and sweet aroma therapy/ or scented candle and just veg out!

Life is full of bumps in the road. You will find they can all be overcome. Simply remember that you are important and this too shall pass.

Good luck and blessed be...

Answer 4

At 18, you shouldn't have to work that many hours, you should not be paying your folks bills, you should be more responsible when it comes to sex, you might want to think about getting a place of your own and then...you can take time to enjoy a little bit of work, all of life and look forward to the possibility of bringing a new life into this world that will rely on you and depend on you for every little thing and you'll need to be there for that little one! You are a legal adult now. Not a little girl. What about a part time job and College? Lots of programs to help financially you just need to sit down with a school representative and talk about it. Rent isn't expensive when divided up between a few friends and a few bedroom apartment. Your relaxation may need to come from anywhere but where you're at! Take care of yourself!

Answer 5

You are already overloaded. A baby will be the last straw for you right now. Go down to Planned Parenthood and have an appointment with a counselor to get some perspective. They can help with a whole range of issues including stress, anxiety and abuse.

Now... it is one thing to have your own debts to pay off, but am I getting this right that you are also paying your 1/2 of parents' bills? If this is so, then why? They are adults, too. Are you just chipping in to help with the utilities and pro-rata part of the house payment... or is it beyond that?

If it is beyond the normal "chipping in", then you really need to start socking some money away to keep it away from them, and move into a really small garage apartment on your own until you get your own debts paid down and start putting some money into savings.

Answer 6

I feel so bad for you! I have a ton of experience with stress, in fact - I'm actually going through a bad spell with my parents right now but one thing that helps me is music. Whether you play an instrument or are listening to your favorite band, it helps! Especially songs that are relating to your life. Find some good, relaxing music to listen to - like maybe some Enya or my personal favorite, The Wallflowers.

Another thing that helps is watching movies to get your mind off of your own life for awhile and onto someone elses. I'm a girl, and girly movies are always a big plus! Curl up on the couch with some icecream or chocolate and treat yourself...it's especially fun when you do it with someone you're close to. Hope that gives you some ideas! Good luck. =)

Answer 7

Well, it is time to stop heling your parents for half the bill. And why you work so many hours, beats me. No wonder you cant sleep. Stress is your worst enemy. Get rid of it by concentrating on paying off bills without working so hard. Like cut down on dates, movies, going out to eat stuff and use that money to double payments on one bill and so ojn. When you get that done, send the question again I can tell you how to relax next

Answer 8

Take a long hot soak in the tub with some candles and slow music. And then later after you have calmed down start thinking of a plan to improve your life. And it will take patience! But this will make you feel more productive and like you have control of your life. Which you do! You're likely having an anxiety attack but believe me its not worth it in the long run. So stop this stressing anyway possible.

Answer 9

Try taking a hot bath (the water needs to be as warm as you can stand and steamy) and listening to calming music. Try picturing yourself calm and relaxed and then visualize ways to achieve that state. Write down all your fears, concerns, worries, and stressors; sometimes just seeing everything on paper helps with perspective. Go to the health department or your family doctor and find out whether or not your pregent, because either way knowing for sure always makes it easy to deal with. Take deep slow breaths, in through your mouth and out through your nose. Most importantly try to get plenty of rest.

Answer 10

I was going to say a hot bath, but since you are pregnant, don't do that. One of the things I do that destresses me (also my 19 year old daughter says so too ) is going for a long walk.