my boyfriend touched my (breast) and i asked him why he did that and he said he doesnt knw how long he has to wait til we can get married and im totally freaking out about it and i try 2 4get abt it but it keeps coming back
2007-09-28 17:25:03 · 30 answers · asked by godsgirl135 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's your body,dont let anyone touch it unless you want them to.If they like you they will respect your wishes,if not they are not worth having around.
2007-09-28 17:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
That's what guys do. YOU asked him WHY?
Well, because it's there.
It's a totally normal thing for young lovers to "try". Just tell him you're not comfortable with it and if he doesn't stop , ditch him. He's not a pervert or anything, he's a normal guy who wants to feel a girl's breast. Just tell him no.
My gosh girl, every married man and woman on the planet have done this. It's a matter of YOU'RE comfort zone.
Someday you will be comfortable with it, until then, just speak up. It's pretty much the guys job to initiate sex, it's the girls job to guide it to where they're comfortable with it.
The longer you hold out the better. My God, it's certainly no reason to "Freak Out".
Just deal with it and take care of it.
2007-09-29 00:47:49 · answer #2 · answered by Carl R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think second base is a sin...
You say you're freaking out, but did you like it?
If it truly freaked you out, then you should remind him of your boundaries. There's nothing wrong with waiting until marriage... and there's nothing fundamentally wrong with a little exploration either. What matters is whether you love this guy and whether his touches are welcomed.
If you can't stop thinking about it, I'm wondering if you're as curious as he is, but afraid to admit, afraid to enjoy it, or are worrying about consequences.
Interpersonal realtionships can be ruined by over-analysis. Decide how you feel about what happened, and communicate your personal conclusion to your boyfriend, because there is no right or wrong here... it's all about what YOU believe and how YOU feel.
2007-09-29 00:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by Rachael F 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well that is a normal thing for him to do. You need to decide how you feel about it. If it happened during a makeout session, it should have felt great. If you feel he crossed the line, you need to tell him about your feelings, and tell him to not do it again. If he does, dump him. If you did like it, just be sure to decide where to draw the line, and make it clear to him where the line is drawn. Like at the waistline, for instance.
It is your body, and he must respect your wishes, or you have the wrong guy.
2007-09-29 00:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Huh? You need to decide why you're freaking out about it. I think it's natural for men to want to touch a woman's breast. It's like some sort of taboo or something. Unless it was something horrific or something, I wouldn't stress too much about it.
2007-09-29 00:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by CJ P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, but you shouldn't worry about it, men have urges sometimes and they when they get turned on they;ll do that, they like the way a woman's breast feels and it turns them on more to touch it. But he's your boyfriend and as long as you remind him that you want to take it slow, he should respect that, he sounds like an ok guy.
2007-09-29 00:30:17 · answer #6 · answered by stagebabe8806 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it bothered you so much it may be a good idea to talk with him about it and make it clear that waiting till marriage includes touching. It's important that he knows that touching your breast is an unwelcomed touch. Good luck! :)
2007-09-29 00:31:00 · answer #7 · answered by Megs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like they said, You have the rights to wait until u two are married
2007-09-29 00:30:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you'd tld. him NO prior, he has NO business doing what he didl, Your body is yours, you do w/it the way YOU want, not him. It's up to you to do what you want from here on out IF you are not happy w/the way things are going, you're the one who's got to make the decision if he's the one you really want & if he's over steppping his bonds or not. You'r the one to make the final frcision about it & what you want in the futur/l At leasr he knows what he did was wrong it's up to you to decide what you want to do abt.it. Good luck to you & stick up for yourselfl Only you can ans. your wishes to this one..
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2007-09-29 00:44:00 · answer #9 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...get over that he as a normal guy copped a feel or that he is impatient about waiting for a physical relation in marriage? It is all part of life. If you feel guilty about it, then you are wallowing in something very common, and since you are God's girl, should have a quick conversation with Him to realize that it is nothing to dwell on.
2007-09-29 00:31:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
you seem to be so innocent and that is cute, and hard to find these days. but you are too stressed over nothing maybe it was an accident and you are taking it too far. it is not like he tried to kill you. you should know all about forgiveness, you say he is your boyfriend, is this a comitted relationship? do you love him? how long have you been together? is this worth destroying your relationship?
2007-09-29 00:31:56 · answer #11 · answered by alexia's mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋