So here is the deal. . . I'm 16 years old and have been dating my boyfriend for almost 3 years. He is the love of my life. We have vowed to save ourselves until marriage, so yes I'm am still a virgin. Anyway. . . it kind of scares me to think about our FIRST TIME because neither one of us has any experience. We don't know what we're doing. Now don't think that I don't get know what sex is and stuff. I'm just nervous i guess because I want to satify him. He made the joke that it won't matter if I know what I'm doing or not, but I really want to be ready. Is this weird and how can i learn more without actually being in the act???
2007-09-28 15:33:33 · 29 answers · asked by lovin_jesus03 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok. Not to put too fine a point on this, but you're still too young, but when the time is right, you may want to download some porn, review the Kama Sutra and the Joy of Sex.
2007-09-28 15:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by Mark T 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can read about sex tips on the Internet on certain tasteful sites. Most likely, you'll learn the way every single person on Earth has: by actually doing it. Your boyfriend is right, don't stress about being perfect. There's a lot of pressure in our society for everyone to perform like a porn star right from the start, but that's just not realistic. It may be a little clumsy and weird at first, but as long you're both ready and understanding, it should be enjoyable and will only get better. For heaven's sake, don't give yourself an ulcer over it!
2007-09-28 15:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ahni 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Experience is something you best learn from scratch. Don't worry about what the future holds but let love and nature take it coarse. There are millions who would give almost anything to go back and redo their first experience being that they were not virgins awaiting marriage as you, so be patience and on your honeymoon night, it will be a night to remember and one you will always cherish. There is material out there to help you be more at ease,( in your local bookstore) but yet you will find that there is no better knowledge than experience itself and you will know what I mean after the honeymoon is over...
2007-09-28 15:47:22 · answer #3 · answered by *DestinyPrince* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Mark T. I think you should waite a little while. And yes I was in your situation owning a V-card in high school and was with this guy for about 3 or 4 years thinking I was in love and not planning to be with anyone else. But when college came around I realized he was not the one for me anymore. (Both of us changed) But by the end of my bachelors I thought I liked this other guy and desided to have sex with him and I am regreting that seriously. But if you are wondering about how to do it when you're married, girl, don't worry it will come natural when you're in love and have established a higher level of commitment. But then again, being married doesn't require commitment so I say let's all just stop having sex because you never know what can happen.
2007-09-28 15:47:02 · answer #4 · answered by black queen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IT'S NOT SO much that we think u love the other lady, just that u dont love us. romantic love stories fed to us from the cradle to the grave say that if you truely love someone, you dont even want to be with someone else. and i actually do believe that. so yes sex outside of your relationship is cheating, plain and simple. besides wanting someone elses *thing* means you dont want your lady's *thing* and if hers isnt the one you want, why are you with her? do you consider it cheating if she has unemotional sex with some other guy? be honest here... and you'll find all the answers to questions such as these by putting yourself in her shoes to think about how it would impact you if she did what you're doing/thinking of doing. and yes sex is identical no matter which sex you happen to be. so dont give me the double standard line, it doesnt matter if the penis or the vagina are attached to your body, when they get together it's sex, and when they arent in the same relationship with each other it's cheating.
2016-05-21 02:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your vow to each other to wait for marriage! Awesome! I would recommend not worrying too much about it. Yes, you'll be nervous, but since neither of you will have experience (which is the way it should be!), you both will learn together and neither of you will have ideas ahead of time about what your partner should do. It will be a wonderful experience to learn together! I'm sure it's not easy at times, but you will never regret waiting!
2007-09-28 15:40:31 · answer #6 · answered by Debbie G 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The short answer is this.
NO ONE knows what they are doing the first, oh, dozen times or so. It takes practice, and learning what each other like. Heck, the first couple of times, it's worse than a game of twister... "OK, where do I put my right hand, now put your left foot there..."
So don't worry when the time comes, you'll both do just as well as the rest of us did.
The below links can give you as good a knowledge of theory as possible, but really, it just takes a few tries.
http://www.sexetc.org
http://www.scarleteen.com
2007-09-28 15:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch some movies about it. It will come natural. The fun part will be for both of you to learn and experience it together once you are married. Sex is very simple and there's nothing really that you as the woman need to accomplish than to get turned on. When it happens, just let your body relax and let it go. You dont have to moan like you hear in movies, etc... Dont worry about it. Also, please wait until you are married ....or at least out of high school. You can do it!
2007-09-28 15:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by mnid007 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look at blue movies but don't be too caught up on the notion of sex skills and superior technique. We are designed to do it! If you have a loving and mutual respectful relationship then it will work, don't worry, it will happen and it will be great.
2007-09-28 15:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by don b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since you are likely years away I would not worry at all about it. BTW he is worried about the exact same thing. It is not complex and it is best to learn as you go.
My wife and I have one rule, you can laugh during sex you just are not allowed to point at anything.
You will be fine.
2007-09-28 15:37:43 · answer #10 · answered by gator_ce 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋