Lately my parents been pushing me to the breaking point. I am a full-time student and will be getting a part-time job on Monday. I do SO much for them. I clean the entire house, cook dinner when my mom doesn't feel like it, go run eranes for them, take care of the animals, mow the lawn, EVERYTHING! But it just seems like whatever I do is never good enough. They always have something to complain about. Also, sometimes my mother says really mean things to me like; if my boyfriend calls around 8pm to hang out. She says how I will be an ediot, run over there, screw him, then come home. Just mean things like that that really hurts. Plus, my dad does not do a single thing! He doesn't stand up for me or anything because he's afraid my mom will leave him! Anyways, I am 21, should be graduating from college next year in May (this is my last semester). My boyfriend has his own place and wants me to move in with him. I am too scared to tell them how I feel about anything.
2007-09-28 15:31:07 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Woah! theres more to be disussed than this box would permit. You might need to realize that your mom does things that are so wrong and maybe has for years.....need more info.
2007-09-28 15:36:28 · answer #1 · answered by theroadwetake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very much a regional thing, depends on how big a place you are getting, how many people live there, etc. Here are my costs for a 2BR in Chicago suburbs- Electric ranges from $40 to $90 (that's in the summer when the AC is going all the time) We don't pay for heat, the apartment covers that. Which is a really good deal because gas heating can go up to $200-300 a month in the winter. Water/trash will be about $20 a month, but again, our landlord rolls that into the rent so it's not out of pocket. Phone/DSL- $50 bundled Cable- $60 Renter's insurance- our landlord requires it but I highly recommend it anyway- $20 a month
2016-05-21 02:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in your shoes.. Living arrangements with parents can be really difficult especially if you have a boyfriend... You're growing up and doing your own thing.. I would say get a pt. job and start saving any money that you can.. Give yourself a time frame 6 mnths. to a year and move out.. It would probably be better to save for your own place just in case things with your current bf. dont' work out in the long run.. However, I don't know how long the two of you have been together etc... I would just try to wait things out as long as you can and just keep doing what you are doing.. If you can manage to graduate and find a better job BEFORE moving out of your parents house that would be the best move ! Just ignore MOM's rantings she must know my mom... !! LOL>..Good luck
2007-09-28 15:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any money saved up? I would move out on my OWN. That way you can experience having a place on your own. One that you pick out, you make the rules, you decorate, you are responsible for. You can always spend some time at your boyfriends or he can spend time with you. Its good to learn to be independant.
2007-09-28 15:43:36 · answer #4 · answered by Beatrice C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 21 if what you say is true, reread it make sure you were honest in all areas, if you can honestly say yes to "yourself" then move out you are old enough to be out there living your own life, but think carefully, we do not wabt to read in a month or two, how you have got a roomie who is giving you a hassle, you know how you have been treated at home, don't allow it to happen when you find your own place
2007-09-28 15:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by please ask m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I moved out when I was 21, and my parents weren't bothering me one bit.
You should move, you're an adult, they have no reason to treat you like you're 12.
2007-09-28 15:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am appalled that you are graduating from college and you cannot spell common words. Where to live is the least of your problems.
2007-09-28 15:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, stick in there and just cope with it. Do not move in with a guy until he marries you.
2007-09-28 15:35:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...move....no matter how much you do you'll always be their child....so if you want the freedom...you have to move for it
2007-09-28 15:34:41 · answer #9 · answered by Moza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the door hit you when you leave.
2007-09-28 15:53:09 · answer #10 · answered by curlies55 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋