My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. I love him, think about him all the time, sex is the best EVER, but I feel like he's never around. He has a stressful job that requires him to work long crazy hours and be on-call.
I talk to him a couple times a week, and see him usually once a week. I never know when I'll see him next, so when he comes over, all I can think is that he's gonna leave again, and I don't know when he'll be back.
I know he loves me and my kids. He talks about our future; getting a house, married, 2 kids together. It's just that I miss him and I feel lonely alot of the time, but wouldn't I just feel more lonely if I ended it. Am I just too needy? Should I stay in this relationship even though I only get to see him once a week, and feel lonely all the time?
2007-09-28 15:21:24 · 9 answers · asked by kayla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know how to be alone, I just don't WANT to be alone :)
2007-09-28 15:37:47 · update #1
What if you moved in together? You'd see more of him then, wouldn't you? (for a few mins. when he gets in every night at least).
This is a very personal question, and a decision you'll probably have to make on your own, but if you genuinely love him I would try to make it work. It's hard to find a good guy out there.
2007-09-28 15:36:16 · answer #1 · answered by quirkyfunnyone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like you are staying with him because you don't want to be lonely... it sounds like you are staying with him because you love him. It would be pretty crappy to dump a guy you love just because he has a demanding job. Either you are meant to be together or not. If you can't handle that, you won't be able to handle the stress of mairrage and having a family. Stay with him, but Definately WAIT a LONG time before you think of getting married. And do not get pregant and screw up a child's life too.
2007-09-28 15:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by charisma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you truly truly love him than you have to do what you can to make it work. If your not seeing him enough than you to which you prolly have already tried but you need to see each other more no you are mot just being needy once a week would not be enough for most people. Put your all into it so you have no regrets and if you feel it is one sided than maybe it is time to move on. Best of luck with this tough situation
2007-09-28 15:28:07 · answer #3 · answered by can only give advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the question is if to stay in the relationship because you don't want to be alone, I have to say NO NO NO. You're a person all on your own and it isn't easy but you know how to be "alone".
If your question is about loving him and wanting him to be around then you need to find out if his job is going to stay this way forever and if he is really serious about your future together. If so and you love him then stick it out. If it's meant to be it'll work out
Good Luck
2007-09-28 15:27:52 · answer #4 · answered by LIMMY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess what? The only person who knows the answer to this question is you. First, you have to realize that he has a demanding job and that probably won't change...and it would be unfair to expect him to change it for you, especially since you two are not married (yet, if ever). So what you really have to decide, is whether you really want this guy even though it means loneliness for long periods of time. No one can blame you no matter which decision you make. God bless.
2007-09-28 15:26:25 · answer #5 · answered by wizball 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are RED FLAGS all over this. Listen Great Sex you can find any where.
While you love the sex you fail to notice that that is the only "great" thing with this guy.
Believe me now or believe me later...you need to find someone more balanced so you do not have to live with all theses doubts
2007-09-28 15:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by JOHN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to him about how you feel, maybe you can come up with a way to spend more time together. to answer your question, no, fear of loneliness is not a reason to stay in a relationship. your loneliness may start to show itself in other ways when you see him, and maybe in a negative way. it's also not fair to him.
2007-09-28 15:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by julianna85014 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Find someone who likes you and that you have a real connection with.
2007-09-28 15:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no its not. i have been there before. its not worth it. let it go.
2007-09-28 15:27:53 · answer #9 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋