my sis is pregnant...she told her friends, her bf family and a few other fam members our 2 aunts. but didnt tell me or her bro... i was hurt. she told me like 4 weeks in an email after she told them. as far as i know she hasnt told the rest of our fam...she put an announcement on myspace. i think she is being selfish. i was hurt i wasnt one of the 1st ppl she told. but she isnt on the best terms with our mom...( my sister lives in a different state than us) i think my mom has a right to know...my sis never answers her phone. so i dont think she is going to tell my mom. she thought we didnt have to tell mom..when our dad passed away cuz she was angry with our mom...she was one of those parents who played the kids against each other--SO naturally we were upset with her. she just thought we never had to tell her our dad died. i believe she has some issues cuz she didnt even pick up the phone to tell me she was pregnant. what shoud i do???
2007-09-28 15:11:28 · 15 answers · asked by nikkylyn 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
by the way shes not a teen ager shes 23 and im 24...so its not a matter of age as some ppl think on here...
2007-09-30 13:53:38 · update #1
I am sorry that you feel as if you are stuck in the middle of this mess and also sorry that your dad passed away and there is a lot of other drama in your family.
I do not know your sisters age, or yours but she must have some reason for posting the news about her pregnancy on the Internet, but excluding some family members, you mom and initially you.
It really is not your business, your sister and your mother have to work out their own problems. You are better off to keep out of this, it sounds as if your family is a bit shattered and could use some counseling to work through some of this, if possible.
Wish your sister well, and stay out of the rest of the drama, the suggestion to let your mom see the MySpace page is tempting, but would you want to have to pretend that you just happened to find it??? Then that would start trouble between you and your mom, I doubt if it would be worth it.
Good luck, I hope everything works out for the best for your family.
2007-09-28 16:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sit back and wait for the **** to hit the fan. Don't say a word. Life sucks sometimes and you are going to be disappointed by people, loads of times, just like you are with your sis right now. It's all part of learning, living and dealing with the crap that faces you on a day to day basis. Sorry kiddo, sounds bleak? Fraid it is most days. But you know what? You can do better than your sis. You can grow up smart and don't be having no kids too early and without being married. Be smarter than your sis. OK?
Love XOXOX
2007-09-28 15:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by sinned 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really stuck in the middle - aren't you?
If I were you, I would check out your sister's myspace page when mom is around and just say - "Hey - look at this."
With myspace - your sis proclaimed to the whole world that she is pregnant. Therefore - it takes you out of the middle.
2007-09-28 15:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel when your sister didn't tell you. I went through the same thing with my Sis. Have you thought about that maybe she didn't tell you because she thought that you would tell your mum? You need to talk to her. Maybe send her a message on myspace. Either way, it sounds like it's really important to talk to her.
2007-09-28 15:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sooner or later your Mom will know. I don't see what there would be to gain by you telling her sooner than when she eventually finds out, except that if your mom finds out that you knew and didn't tell her she may be upset with you. Why not ask your sister if you could tell your mom and see how that goes, or else just let it run it's course and if your mom finds out you had known, tell her you didn't want to be the one to break such emotional news. "you thought it should come from your sister."
2007-09-28 15:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by Randy L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...it depends on how old she is...if she is younger..than your mom should know..but if she is older than its her right to keep it from your mom..if she isnt on speaking terms with your mom right now...you really dont wanna like make it any worse..your sister might find it better to tell your mom later on when maybe she thinks things are better...
2007-09-28 15:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by diana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should give her time those are one of the hardwst ppl 2 tell just talk to her about it
2007-09-28 15:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you're mad at your sister for not telling you first and you want to punish her by telling her news to your mother? MYOB.
2007-09-28 15:52:08 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her a few months hormones iwll kick in and she will call you crying like a baby
2007-09-28 15:27:52 · answer #9 · answered by baby_rost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one likes a rat
myob
make believe you know squat
let her tell of HER problem
2007-09-28 15:14:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋