My mother-in law is the type if you say I have an idea to make more money, her reply is "I have tried to do that and I didn't get more" I am a gifted sculpture and would like to make a living doing it and she thinks I should work in the store and get on with it. However, on a night out she failed until the next day she had been talking to someone who could have offered me work. When I mention anything that enhances me, she always has a jealous face on. I watched a documentary the other night and she happened to watch a better one and when someone agreed with me on how good it was, she changed the subject.
I feel she is trying to hold me back and it is starting to get on my nerves. I also, play sports and she says things like you won't do it when your are 50 (I am 25 now) I think it is time to either ignore her and do what I want or just keep being bitter.
2007-09-28 15:07:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ask yourself the following question. Why is it that your mother in laws comments are able to turn your world up side down?
When you realize she only has control over your life if you continue to allow her to effective you, Only then will you go forward with your plans and be happy and successfully. Rather then look for her to give the thumbs up accept she is not capable and find another person to confide in.
2007-10-02 04:52:14 · answer #1 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are letting bitterness getting the best of you. Also, you can't blame her for your failures. You will be a good sculp. whether or not she helps you. Make sure that you don't burn any bridges or say anything that you will regret. Mother in laws can be a headache, but they can also be a blessing.
2007-09-28 15:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by mel s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world are you letting this woman into your life this much? Sounds like you are living with her. Either stop answering the phone, stop inviting her over, stop discussing everything with her, or support yourself(if you aren't doing that). The woman is just baiting you, grow up.
2007-09-28 15:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what is right for you. Don't let someone who is obviously jealous of you hold you back. You can't please everyone all the time. And who says your mother-in- law has to pleased by you at all?
2007-09-28 15:18:29 · answer #4 · answered by ♥sick n tired♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is trying to compete with you. But don't take the bait - and stoop to her level. Her actions sound pretty pitiful.
Be proud of who you are and what you've done and be passionate about what you are still going to do. Her words will only affect you if you let it.
2007-09-28 15:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look you have the answer, lose her. Don't offend your wife and don't harm that relationship but you should keep away from the mother in law, she is holding you back.
2007-09-28 15:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by don b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ignore her and let her know what you do is your business. if she starts to say dont do that,stop her and say sorry ,i think i will now. if she puts down something you do now and says you wont when you get older,respond with "i might not do this ,but at least i will be fit and fabulous at 50."
2007-09-28 15:13:27 · answer #7 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone who was like this.
I learned to never mentioned any of my dreams or desires. I learned to talk only about them. At least, in front of them!
Keep your dreams to yoursel f and continue to dream - never stop dreaming.
2007-09-28 15:24:03 · answer #8 · answered by tak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Silly, jealous old lady. Sometimes you just have to let them be like that and just prove things to YOURSELF.
2007-09-28 15:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by whisperer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my mother in law is an angel
you lucky bastard mine is still alive
2007-09-28 15:11:35 · answer #10 · answered by zuppe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋