iam a 20 years old boy...I don't know y i hate romance movies, romance songs and romance stories and even romantic nicknames and quotes....i like horror and action movies...my favorite is horror...also i write horror stories and i like writing mostly pain and sad poems and i like everything that has to do with horror but iam not a gothic but just like that and even though....i like to know girls and i wouldn't mind to have a gf and date a girl...so why am i like this? is this normal?...just for more info...i never went out with a girl in a date but i had some gfs before but never went out with any of them and i feel i never had a real gf and i never felt true love so...could this be the reason that iam like this? or what could be the reason? what type of guy am i? mysterious and dark-type guy or what? i don't know why i hate anything that has to do with romance and i like horror, weird and dark things
2007-09-28 14:48:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
also for more info...i wasn't born normal but i was born with a tumor on the left side of my neck and i spent most my childhood in hospitals and i was about to die but iam fine now and i just got a lil neck and chest abnormality like scars and stuff because of operations....maybe this also has something to do with why iam like this
2007-09-28 14:51:08 · update #1
No, you're quite normal I'd say! Most guys also hate anything romance...books, movies, etc. Those are generally referred to as "chick flicks." Horror and action are more guy things. I'm a girl and I LOVE horror movies!!! I like them better than romance in fact!
2007-09-28 15:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by First Lady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look the past is the past. You had your share of hospitals and illness but now you're ok. And most if not all guys hate romantic stuff. By the way I love horror movies - I can't get enough of them and I would prefer The Grudge to Love Story (ugh) any day. My favorite shows are Ghost Whisperer and Supernatural and Medium. Now there's this new vampire in town Moonlight. Great Stuff!! And you'll find a girl - don't worry - plenty of girls like horror stuff too.
2007-10-06 12:01:44 · answer #2 · answered by Scarlet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly congratulations on asking this question.. Its the first step in changing yourself.
It has to be done all by yourself, Self analyse and change yourself is all your own responsibility.
A good indicator that you need to change is when you get similar comments from people that are strangers to each other. The only thing common is YOU.
So listen to these comments as these are your underlying problems being identified.
An example would be "You need to change your attitude".
To get you started take note of the following.
When a person goes through a Trauma, it is preferrred that person returns to normal sometime after the trauma. If the person does not return to his normal self (before the trauma occurred) then it is considered that the person is suffering from some aspect of the trauma. This is where the person should get profesional help like a psychologist. You may be hanged up on Anger, Denial, Bargaining, Depression, or Acceptance, which are the stages of trauma.
So you need to address trauma.
Secondly you need to change your attitude if you want to fit into a particular community type.
Your attitude is reflected in you body language, your reactions and how you speak and what words you choose, and how you dress.
Your attitude is your projection to other people. How do you change? easy . All you have to do is change in what you believe in. These beliefs have to be formed into your sub conscious, but your conscious part of your mind can put them into the sub concious. If you really believe in some fact or event, it will be registered into your sub c forever.
So if you dress like a Goth, then your subc suggests Goth is cool. If you start believing that Goth is Not cool, then you won't dress like one.
Now you can change this basic example belief two ways. 1 is to believe Goth is not cool and go that way, or
2. you believe that some other personality is cool, and pursue your new choice.
If you went the direction of 2 above would mean that you dont dislike Goth, but its not you, but you would stilll chat to a Goth because you dont mind. Where as if you went 1 above you would probably have nothing to do with a Goth as you now believe that they are not cool.
So there are your building blocks to your future Saad... Good Luck
2007-09-28 22:29:32 · answer #3 · answered by chezzrob 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know why you are this way, but you have to accept who you are, and if you don't like the way you are, you're in charge of changing it.
Do you have a pet? I think the unconditional love of a pet might help you break into the other side of your personality which has been sleeping for a while. I suggest a dog.
TX Mom
not an expert
Do you think you might have depression? Check out on the internet, they have lots of sites where you can take tests and see if you're leaning that way. If that's the case, you can be feeling not quite so "dark" in a jiffy.
Take care.
e-mail me if you need to.
2007-10-06 12:40:43 · answer #4 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 teenage nephews, one who is a total horror freak like you, and one who can take it or leave it. I admit I do not understand either of them altho we spend a lot of time around each other. The Older of the two who can take it or leave it has many more female friends than his less flexible brother. He is soft spoken and polite but he quietly says he does not like "mushy-gushy crud" much and would rather not be around those kinds of girls. They bore him.
His brother doesn't have much use for any girl who isn't tattooed and rude and ready to take on the world. His "soul-mate" will likely ride a Harley and have a rap sheet. And he is one rude young man. If he wasn't family.??.. but he is.
Neither of these young men seem able to express themselves genuinely. In my estimation both could use therapy to broaden their self assessment tools. As you admit, most horror addicts don't understand their own motivations very well.
Try to widen your experiance and find more common ground with the female half of the population. Think about the qualities you want in a wife rather than the qualities that you think would be cool in a girl-friend. Think about the type of person you want to help raise your children. And think about the woman who was at your side through all those surgeries you and your family went through. It would have been freaky to see your parents eyes light up at the sight of your surgical blood and gore don't you think?
2007-10-06 10:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by recallthis2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a shame, that in today's society, men can't be men any more. It is a shame that you even have to ask this question..it seems, that unless a guy is efemminate, and 'sensitive' these days, they say something is wrong with him..so far from the truth. I hope you love sports, drinking beer, fishing, and a good fight also. There ain't nothing wrong with you
2007-09-29 11:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awee no..your not like different or abnormal..thts what you like..and the matter of finding another girl..well sweetie..maybe you just havent found the right one yet ...dont look to hard..what you want could be right in front of you and you dont even know it.. good luck :)
2007-09-28 22:45:15 · answer #7 · answered by diana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im glade ur still alive and u passed the whole tumor thingy well anyway maybe u need to see therapist cuz it aoundslike u r doin these things cuz of you near death experinces
2007-09-28 22:26:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
lol no honey, Ur a guy most guys hate stuff like this.
2007-09-28 21:56:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋