My parents got divorced when I was really little and my mom and step-dad got married when I was 4 and he has always been my dad he is who raised me... i am having him walk me down the aisle. How do I tell my real dad that I want him to do a reading during the ceremony but my step dad is walking me down the aisle? with out totally crushing him... (i see my real dad maybe once a year, so we are not super close)...
2007-09-28 14:20:16 · 14 answers · asked by tiggerwmu99 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My real dad and step dad don't get along so having them both walk me down the aisle isn't an option if I want anyone smiling in wedding photos!! =)
2007-09-28 14:30:23 · update #1
Your dad's feelings are going to be hurt no getting around that...but go gently into the night...wow...two dads who love you...how blessed you are....be soft and respectable...no easy way to say it....
2007-09-28 15:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Moza 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hey I can relate. Except I am walking myself down the aisle. I am having my mother and father come in the car then they will both go inside and wait for me to go on my own. I think my Dad might expect to do this but he shouldn't and neither should your Dad. I don't want to make it a huge issue so latter on I will probably just talk to him about the day, like going through the running of the wedding, and say something like 'so you will arrive at the hotel then come in the car with mum and i then when we get there you and mum will get out and walk in together, followed by (my sister and only BM) then I will walk in'. If he says anything I will just say 'I am walking down the aisle on my own because I don't believe in being 'given away' and that I am independent and walking down the aisle on my own is representative of that, it is nothing personal just what I want to do'. Your Dad might not expect to walk you down the aisle as he is not close to you and just say you are having your step-dad do it. He might expect this anyway. Hope this helps.
2007-09-28 14:35:07 · answer #2 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You see your bio dad once a year. That alone does not make him honored enough to walk you down the aisle. IMO he is just a sperm donor.
Your step father has been there your whole life. HE deserves the honor of walking you down the aisle.
If I were in your shoes I would not worry about hurting his feelings, as he is only seen once a year.
2007-09-29 12:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
further and further officiants have become that "giving freely" the bride is irrelevant interior the twenty first century. in case you prefer some form of involvement of the mum and dad you have got a parental confirmation (i.e. the officiant asking the two units of mom and dad in the event that they help the marriage). This opens the way for many distinctive elementary how you may shape the bridal processional, and the bride strolling by myself (Julie Andrews did it interior the movie of the Sound of song, so no longer a sparkling thought) or escorted by skill of her groom are 2 of the greater concern-loose alternatives. To extra spotlight the adaptation you have got your groom and his superb guy status up the front, and the groomsmen escorting the bridesmaids down the aisle, accompanied by skill of you MOH after which you.
2016-10-10 00:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also going threw the same thing. My dad is not walking down the isle. I am actually having a family friend who helped raise me walk with me. My dad really didn't care he knew that we were not close so it was OK. You just have to tell him the truth and how you feel. He may get hurt but you know what...you hurt for some time as well. This is your day not his. Good Luck
2007-09-28 14:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by girlygirl 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How could that crush him, when he wasn't there for you (once a year?) He wasn't there for you when you were sick, when you got your report cards, watching you grow up.
He should know that your Step Dad , has been there for you and raised you.
If he is ok with that, I am sure he will read something,like:
That he is very proud and happy that he brought a beautiful young lady into this world, and that your Mom and Step Dad has been such great parents. And wishing happiness and a wonderful new long life with your husband.
So hopefully that helped
:) Have a Wonderful Wedding!
2007-09-28 14:48:35 · answer #6 · answered by nini 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him straight forward how you feel - I'm sure he will understand especially with you only seeing him 1x year. Yes, your step dad is your dad - he raised you and has been there for you. I'm sure your biological father will be more than understanding about your big day and only want what you want. Good luck & congrats on your wedding!
2007-09-28 15:02:20 · answer #7 · answered by Suzi 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What about your biological dad walking you to the top of the aisle (ie. from the car or entry), and passing you to your step dad to walk you the rest of the way
2007-09-28 14:59:32 · answer #8 · answered by Minton quest 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have them both walk you down the aisle, after all, your real dad has been involved in your life. He will be very hurt by this.
2007-09-28 14:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by Student Doctor House 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
ive been to a wedding like this. Let your real dad walk you down the aisle halfway then he gives you away to your stepdad then your stepdad walks you the other half and gives you away to your husband. I th ink it will be pretty cool and everybody will not get there feelings hurt
2007-09-28 14:54:51 · answer #10 · answered by legendaryplanets 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I'd just be honest ....
"Hey ____, I just wanted to tell you upfront so there was no confusion....I'm having ________ walk me down the aisle. I'm really thrilled that you're going to the wedding and can't wait for your reading during the ceremony. Thanks for understanding"
Good luck :)
2007-09-28 16:18:11 · answer #11 · answered by kiki 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋