okay so i ahve a boyfriend, and i care about him very much. and my bbfs boyfriend has a friend and we all hung out and i thought his friend was really cool. lets call him Bill (thats not his name) and lets call my boyfriend Bob(again not his name) so anyway on thurday me and Bill hung out again and me and him hit it off big time, he can always make me smile and laugh, and i can never get him out of my mind anymore, he's in my mind more than bob. but i on thursday after he dropped me off at my house he called me and we got to talking and we have so much in common.. and we get along really welll. and he likes me and i like him... but i have a boyfriend. and i still like him a little. but i know hes still in love with me and i dont want to break his heart. all my friends say to date bill but i really dont want to hurt bob. i really need help, i dont know what to do.
and please dont be rude in your answers
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2007-09-28 13:56:12 · 12 answers · asked by ellie.smiles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Poor Bob.
I just know your gonna choose Bill ..
2007-09-28 14:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Honey Blood Coma♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that we can not choose whom we grow to love; but we can always think before we act and control our actions. While I don't want to criticize you for your feelings for Bill , I think you are both doing something you both know is wrong.Bob is your boyfriend and Bill's best friend and as a result I want you to think of the following:1)How would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot, if Bob was doing what you are doing2)have you thought about the effect on their friendship if Bob found out3)if Bill can hit on his best friend's girl, do you think he won't hit on one of your girlfriends if he likes her4)Why are you giving in to the temptation and talking to him when you know what is happening5) why don't you end it with Bob if you no longer love him as you once did no matter if you are going to date Bill or not.6) have you asked Bill what he will say to Bob, if he has told Bob he is calling his girlfriend behind his back and what his answer was. If you have answers to the above questions and you like them, then your problem is solved. But I think you know it is wrong or you will not be asking the question and you will know what to do .I hope you do the right thing and I believe you will; you strike me as a straight shooter.
2007-09-28 14:21:46 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah a case of the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Just think before you dump 'bob' of all the good times and what drew you together in the first place. It may be just that you are so caught in something new and exciting with 'bill' and in a rut with 'bob'. Just think very hard before you dump 'bob' because if you do and he finds out you have 'bill' on the sidelines you will never have another chance with 'bob'. Just think very hard before you act because in situations like this there is no going back once you jump the fence.
2007-09-28 14:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by luckygirl_2021 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been in love with someone is a very powerful thing,but you also have to remember that hurting someones heart on purpose is wrong.There are million of guys out there and yet you hand up been with Bob.Now that you falling for Bill,you should ask yourself "are you really in love with him"or is it that he more fun to hung out with than your boyfriend Bob.I can clearly see that your heart is set on "Bill" and your feelings for Bob are not so strong.My only advise to you is DON"T CHEAT ON YOUR BOYFRIEND.If you don't wanna be with him,end it now.If you in love with Bill and you guys get together ,so be it.Also realize that the friendship with the three of you will be NO MORE.Are you really for the drama.
NO PAIN,NO GAIN!!!
2007-09-28 14:33:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling that u have right now i have been there ....but it was between 2 brothers ......well the one i was dating(Steve) he treated me fine took me out and stuff but his brother seemed to do more for me he was More romantic and at the time that's what i felt i wanted
so what i did was talk to Steve about how i was feeling and what more i wanted ...well come to fine out he was not able to meet what i wanted so i told him i sorry but i don't think this will work out....he was OK with that ...i did tell him that i was going to date his older brother of cause he was a lil upset but hey he was not making me happy the way i wanted ....so any ways ...if u really want to be with Bill ....just stay friends with Bob ....good luck to you
2007-09-28 14:06:09 · answer #5 · answered by Debbie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! well first of all you have to break up with bob you just dont feel the same about him with or w/o bill and also after you break up with bob just wait some time..about a week or two untill going out with bill so that bob wont really think you left him for bill
2007-09-28 14:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by Carrotsz!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go with your heart. If I were you, I would wait it out a bit and see how you feel then, since your crush on "Bill" might just be a fleeting thing, and then your relationship with Bob would be ruined.
2007-09-28 14:00:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should care about what you want. when you are old and shriveled you wont be thinking about how you hurt him, youll be thinking about the fun you had with bill. so tell your current bf that you no longer want to be with him, but you still want to be great friends, and go out with bill. keep it on the down low for a while and after things cool down with you ex, you can come out as bf and gf
2007-09-28 14:04:44 · answer #8 · answered by sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with your heart, remember this thing with bill could just be all the cute that's in the air and these things go away after a while and you might be mad if you make the wrong decision. go with your gut, it never leads you wrong
2007-09-28 14:07:00 · answer #9 · answered by Trinidarkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every choice you make in life will have some loses.
It depends on what will be good for you and, what you can live with (loses).
Listen to your heart and, not your temptations...
Honesty will be your way out ..... and in.
Good luck
2007-09-28 14:04:16 · answer #10 · answered by enricky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋