rude to ask at work?"...or should i just say..."it just did NOT work out"....by the way are you allowed to say.."my that is rude to even ask personal stuff AT WORK???..( i am trying to be more assertive)......Sometimes i am afraid to say stuff at work...(but what if it is personal??)...aren't we allowed to say ..."that is personal?"
2007-09-28 13:40:14 · 13 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Wow! The nerve of some people! Are they writing a book or something?
You are allowed to say "that is personal" because it is personal. There are many ways to answer.
"I don't feel comfortable discussing those details with you."
"I'm sorry, but that's an inappropriate question to ask a coworker. Don't you think?"
"What answer could I give that would satisfy you?"
"What do you hope to accomplish by asking that question?"
"What happened to your manners? Did you leave them at home today?"
Hope this helps.
2007-09-28 13:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by Kara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone has the poor taste to ask a stranger a personal question, that person deserves the answer he or she gets. That being said, you do have to play office politics so it's best to keep your sarcasm to yourself. If someone asks you what happened in your marriage, you only need to reply "I'd rather not talk about such a personal subject at work, thank you". Don't try to sound snotty, just be very matter-of-fact and change the subject.
Refusing to cough up intimate details of your life to co workers, or anyone, is not a crime. My mother taught me to be polite, but she also taught me that I didn't have to respond to rude questions about how much I make, what I paid for something, who I voted for, etc.
2007-09-28 13:52:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DID SOME mother F-er just ask u that Question At WORK, if it is a friend, i would be able to answer, but if u did not want to tell, u can say no, A friend should understand If it is a random Co-worker, u rely have no obligation to answer, if i have to say it, -- if ur a guy, u would have to say yea something happened, it cant would out anymore, the rest is more personal, so i wish u did not ask anymore. and if u are a Girl, and a guy is asking u just say im going tru some emtional time here and ur asking me this, instead of supporting me, if a girl asks, say ( Btich in ur mind) then say stupid stuff, i dont even want to talk about it.
2007-09-28 13:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by Chi-Master-N-May 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's rude for people at work to ask such a question and yes it is fine for you to respond to any personal question with a polite, I'm sorry but that's personal. Don't make it a confrontation just be polite when you say it, smile, and move away. People will only do what you allow them to do.
2007-09-28 13:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely make my point against these nosey ppl..... this is YOUR personal life, and you owe your coworkers no explanations whatsoever. So I don't think it's rude to tell them "I'd rather not talk about personal stuff at work" or something like that. You don't need to be violent but do make your point that you won't let them mess with your life.
2007-09-28 13:48:22 · answer #5 · answered by Lprod 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's none of their business and extremely rude of them to ask. You should make up some weird outlandish story about it, and as you get to the most outlandish part, just say you were kidding and it's none of their concern. Or if you're not anything like me, just tell them politely and pointedly that you appreciate their interest, but it really isn't any of their concern.
2007-09-28 13:46:42 · answer #6 · answered by Purdey EP 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite rude. I would say "Thank you for your concern, but I really do not want to discuss it."
Or return the question with an equally personal question to them because they might not see it as rude. Such as "What kind of underpants do you wear?"
2007-09-28 13:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by remihu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like to make things into a joke and tell them to mind their own business at the same time. If I was asked I would say; "Well... Brad Pitt found out that I was sleeping with Angie and told my wife. She told brad that it was her that was sleeping with Angie and that I didn't know about it. So then Brad came to me because he didn't want to hit a woman and told me to call off my wife from Angie or he was going to kick my ---.. I told Jennifer what he said that night while we were having sex and she said that I shouldn't worry about it because his bark is worse than his bite. I still haven't asked my wife why she covered for me."
2007-09-28 14:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by James Q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being in love with an older guy...hum....it sounds superb :D properly....if u ask him to marry u,its no longer impolite! its in basic terms unusual!! if he asked u approximately any woman in ur age,I guess he's thinking u.decide for it woman yet.... y r u questioning abour marriage? you ought to be associates for a on an identical time as then u can be certain...
2016-12-28 06:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by jensvold 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's rude to ask. I don't even ask that from my siblings.
2007-09-28 22:21:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋