am i too nice?

Question

i constantly inconvenience myself to help others, i think i should stop though because i hardly have time to myself and i dont want anyone to start depending on me but at the same time i like being useful, should i stop being so helpful?

Answer 1

Never stop but only do it when your heart tells you to. Being nice and liking it is a heart full of love

Answer 2

You sound like you might be headed for a bit of a "burnout" Take a break from everyone and concentrate on your needs first. Then after a long while start to be a bit selective on who you can help and what for. If you still want to help others make sure you are able to handle it a bit at a time and to those you know will appreciate (also understand you can only do so much) and maybe help you one day when you might need it.

Unfortunately, there is not enough good/nice ppl around for the masses nor is it widespread that being a nice person does not necessarily a doormat devoid of respect while the awful ppl really get unnecessary praise.

Answer 3

If helping ppl often causes YOU an inconvenience, as you stated, then yes..... I think you have to be a little selfish sometimes and think more about yourself and less about the others..... I know you don't help others to be thanked for it, but usually ppl are very ungrateful and it's not worth to waste your time and efforts in someone who isn't going to appreciate it -- and then inconvenience yourself on top of it!! Just be nice but not to the extent of caring less for yourself than you do for others.

Answer 4

The definitive statement here is inconveniencing yourself. You shouldn't have to do that to help others. If helping others works into your life and what you can legitimately do, then fine. But if you are stepping outside of your own life in order to make others happy, it is not fine. While it is a good thing to want to be of help, you cannot do it to the point that your own life suffers. Take care of yourself, help as you can, but if you don't want people to depend on you or take advantage you have to learn to say no. And maybe find some help to discover why you would put yourself last.

Answer 5

I think it is good that you are kind but you dont want to be percieved as a pushover, because then people will take advantage of you, and i know this first hand. Dont completly stop helping others but dont over do it to the point where you dont even have time for yourself it will get overwhelming.

Answer 6

i have the same problem.. i love to help people very much ..they depend on me in many things ,they start to treat in a bad way ..that why i decide to change ..i recommend you to have stronger character .you should say No if u do not want ..this world is different now ..be stronger ,show Ur personality ,and help at the same time or you will be a week person ... all the best

Answer 7

u should learn that u should put urself first then others because u are one of a kind. people wont put u first as u do. And in the end it will really hurt u to see that after helping others one day when u need help noone will help u. Just try to help people close to u not just about everybody. Take care of urself cuz nobody else will do it for u.

Answer 8

It's nice to be nice, but you shouldn't inconvenience yourself too much. If you like being useful and helpful, then be yourself. But, if you feel like you are being used, you may have to put your foot down once in awhile.

Have a nice weekend.

Answer 9

u don't have to stop being the way u are but if ur tired some time tell the people that is asking u to do things for them just let them know u need time to ur self and u could help them later.*

Answer 10

Honey, nice guys finish last. And its usually true except on rare occassions. Im not saying to become a big jerk, just dont be as nice. And stand up for yourself definitely. My boyfriend used to be the same way. Good luck! :)