that sounds very weird haha. okay let me explain, my boyfriend is older by 2 years older and way more experienced as in has had sex before..we kiss a lot and when we're at his house on his bed just laying there kissing he'll be like "god im so horny i'm gonna have to go into another room in like a minute" and he'll ask if i'm horny and i never am! he kisses my stomach, breasts and everything. he's even went 'down there' before like fingering and none of this makes me horny!!! i know hes trying to get me horny he'll tickle me and do other stuff like kissing my stomach and legs it just tickles a lot and i laugh, ughhh. i actually wanna have sex with him,but i think i should get horny or SOMETHING before doing all of that.. i really don't get it..i know i'm attracted to him, i just don't get why he's always so flipping horny and i never am i really wish i could get horny when i'm with him it would be amazing..pleaaaase help me and why am i so damn tickleish??
2007-09-28 13:15:35 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you are young. you are still trying to learn about your body and how it reacts to different situations. If you're not getting aroused that means he hasn't found how to arouse you yet. Just be patient and don't rush into sex. it will all come about naturally and when it does it will be good.
2007-09-28 13:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by mishle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, do you even know what horny feels like because maybe you are but just not aware of it.
"i just don't get why he's always so flipping horny and i never am"
He's a guy. Guys are horny all the day. We wake up horny, look at our girlfriend we get horny, see a picture of a penguin and get horny, ect. Anything and everything pretty much gets us up and going.
"why am i so damn tickleish??"
You know, it could just be a biological feature of yours. Lots of people are ticklish, just as people such as myself are not. No real mystery here.
2007-09-28 13:25:13 · answer #2 · answered by Jewish FiLiPiNo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that girls "feel" horny the same way guys do. That aside, I'm going to take a wild guess that your young... Our bodies really know what they are doing. You are probably not getting sexually aroused because your body or mind isn't ready yet. I hate to break your spirit, but the first time is probably going to suck, nothing like what you image it to be. It will probably be uncomfortable, akward, and probably way to fast (guys). I didn't really start "feeling horny" till I was much older (20's) and had experienced a good partner.
2007-09-28 13:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by chrissy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok -obviously there's a problem. You didn't mention how old you are, but I'd guess you're fairly young. Becoming aroused has as much to do with your mental state as with your phyisical state- you might not be aroused because you aren't READY to be, or because he just isn't the right person.
And no offense - but how can you be "ATTRACTED" to him if you can't get aroused by him? Why would you want to have sex if you don't have the powerful lust driving you to want it? That's the best reason to have sex (well - lust combined with a deep friendship and love) -
I don't think being ticklish is your problem. Seriously. I think you need to find an understanding female to speak with - an older sister or cousin, an aunt, your school councilor, your gynocologist (I hope you're seeing one, by the way, if you're so intent on having sex) -
Yeah... wanting sex without being aroused is pointless. It's like... wanting a Beamer when you're 14 - you can't drive it, but someday you can, and it would be like.... so cool to have...
2007-09-28 13:24:30 · answer #4 · answered by keb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its all in your head. I don't know if you have moments where every little touch tickles you but then sometimes your not ticklish all of a sudden.
That's how I am, depending on my mood and frame of mind, I can be very ticklish or become aroused by touch from my b/f. I had noticed that about myself, but I realized that I was thinking too much about getting turned on that I wasn't allowing myself to get turned on with those same thoughts. You just have to think about what's going on. I can give you details but I don't want to do it on here, too much information for the public.
I understand what your talking about though. Message me if you'd like or just remember, it's all in your head :P Your desire to be turned on is taking over your actual physical body. Sounds strange but believe me:P
good luck
cc
2007-09-28 13:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by artsygal_cc86 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear lilpreps:
Sometimes guys have no FREAKING idea of whats going on with us girls. They should have a class aside while on high school or cdollege just to teach them how girls are supposed to be turn on. Anyway, you may have to teach your man how you like to be touch, maybe he is coming out to strong when he touches you, he is probably not soft, tender, who knows only you. Maybe he gets so horny that he forgets about your needs. If you like him and want to have sex with him, then help him and your self a little by just finding whta you like and telling him...If iit doesn't work, then maybe you are the problem, maybe you are working too hard, maybe you do alot of physical work during the day and are too exausted to perform. That happens to all of us sexual active people. Sometime depending what kind of birth control you are using can cause you low libido. ( sexual desire).
2007-09-28 13:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure out where you are most ticklish, and tell him to avoid those areas. Trust me, I am really ticklish too, and it sort of ruins the mood. IDK, some women might be turned on by tickling, I mean, its fun but not sexy.
I don't know how to tell you to get horny, you just have to focus on him and what you are doing. Maybe he just isn't using the right techniques on you. Please don't be grossed out by what I am about to say, but I think if you haven't done so already, you need to do some "self exploring" to find out what he can do to turn you on.
Most importantly make sure you are ready for sex physically and emotionally. Don't force yourself to do something you are not completely ready to do. You don't want to end up regretting your first time.
2007-09-28 13:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by Somebody's Sister 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why your so ticklish, but maybe you not getting horny is a sign that you should not have sex till your married, I mean if you do get married but it's not 2 who your dating rite now,Then when you want 2 have sex with your husband and it's his first time b/c he wanted 2 save his v 4 you(his wife) But it's not your first time b/c you didn't care. How do you think he's gonna fill?
2007-09-28 13:30:46 · answer #8 · answered by alex 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that somewhere in side of yourself, you are trying to protect yourself. Could be a result of your upbringing or whatever. I think that you do get horny, I would count on it, but not with this guy or for the reasons you are talking about. If you masturbate, you get horny, if you get wet and all of that, you get horny, maybe it is the person
2007-09-28 13:20:55 · answer #9 · answered by Jim W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
look honey you sound like your very nervous around him and honestly it sounds to me like your not ready to give it up cause when you are you will definitely know. and it sounds like he's trying to be to pushy you definitely are not ready to have sex with this guy ,but when you are ready to have sex you will be horny and there won't be any questions to ask cause it will feel like the most natural thing to do.
2007-09-28 13:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋